money dance??

Question

i want to have a money dance at my wedding.. but i have two questions about it...

1) Does the pinning of the money ruin your dress? and leave noticable holes?

2) is this a trashy thing to do? or is it cute?

lol not doing it for the money thank you :-p doing it for tradition sake! my mom and dad did it and just wondering what this generation thinks of it!

Answer 1

Money is very dirty, in the literal sense. The oils from people's hands that is transferred onto the money before they are pinned to the dress could then transfer to the dress and stain your dress. In theory, you may be able to wash it out. As far as the pins leaving noticible holes, it's possible, depending on what fabric your dress is made of. If it's going to have a chiffon overlay or even be made of chiffon, lace or have any sheer fabric part, that thin material could very well catch on the pins or tear, leaving holes or rips in the material. I wouldn't pin the money to your dress, just to be safe if you want to preserve the dress. My friends had just a glass vase or bowl held by the best man and the maid of honor while the bride/groom did their dancing with the money offerer.

As far as trashy or non-trashy, I'm torn between the two (no pun intended from the above comments). It's cute when the bride or groom gets to dance with the little kids or their family. Sometimes the friends of the bride/groom can take the dancing a little far, even though it's in good fun. A good idea is to have the DJ or band (of whoever's in charge of music) to play an upbeat song during the Dollar Dance. That way it keeps it fun and decreases the chances of the dancing to be risky.

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 2

I've never actually seen people pin money on the dress... every time i've seen it done, the Maid of Honor collects money for the groom and the Best Man collects money for the bride.

I think almost every reception that i have been to has had a dollar dance, When i read these posts some people think it is completely trashy, but in my home town i have never seen a wedding dance without one, so either my whole town is trashy or it's just a matter of where u live and what is considered tradition there.

Good luck :)

Answer 3

I think we've already tackled the "don't pin the money on the dress" issue.

The reason this is so "tacky" and has begun to become untraditional is that weddings have been happening later in life. The later in life you get married, the more likely it is that you already have a household set up so the only thing the bride and groom really need is money. The guests at the wedding will know this and will bring money envelopes instead of a toaster or other gift that will simply get returned.

Things to consider:
If it's a family tradition then your family will understand.
If you're getting married and you (or your fiance) has a household set up already, then it will look like you're just money-grubbing.
If you are marrying straight from college or from HS or your parents' house(s) then it will be understood and welcomed.

CONTEXT is Everything remember that.
Best of luck!

Answer 4

I don't think having a money dance is rude. When I have seen the money dance done, it's been regarded by guests as a funny ritual - and no one feels "obligated" to do it - it's more of a joke - and it's not like you can't dance with the bride or the groom during another song for free. To do it or not do it is really a question of taste - if you feel that it is a tacky tradition, then don't have it, but if you think it would be fun, then go for it!

Answer 5

Personally, I think it is one of the most revolting, tacky things that could possibly be done at a wedding. The only time I have seen this done was at my cousin's wedding...Sadly, I didn't have any cash with me, and had to borrow $5 from my dad, just to dance with my cousin. It was awkward, as my cousin was standing on the dance floor with no one to dance with, and I felt put on the spot.

However, it's apparently very normal for a lot of people, and some would never consider having a wedding without the money dance. Apparently, there are many cultures out there, and we all have to do what's right for the group we're dealing with. I hope you have a wonderful time!

In order to avoid getting holes in your dress, you could carry a small handbag that your guests could put the money into. Alternately, check with the employees at your local fabric store...they'll know what pins will work best.

Answer 6

I'm not going to re-hash the pinning money to your dress deal - I think it's been answered to death.

Personally, I don't understand the whole money-dance thing. It's pretty common in my part of the country, but it's waning in popularity -- rapidly!!

There are two reasons I am anti-money dance: one being that it IS tacky to expect guests to pay for the privilige of dancing with you and your hubby. (Again, coming from a part of the country where it's pretty common, I also know that it affords you a couple minutes with each guest. But you can have a receiving line and do the EXACT SAME THING).

Two: have you ever been to a wedding with a money dance? I don't care where they are in the reception, it grinds all the activity to a screeching halt, and people leave, because of the lull in the activity. It's cute to watch the first couple people dance with the bride & groom. After that, b-o-r-i-n-g! You go from dancing & socializing & energy to blah....

Answer 7

I had a money dance and didn't pin the money, but held onto it in my hand and my husband had it sticking out of his pockets. The pins can ruin your dress depending on the material and if you get stuck you could get blood on your dress. As for tradition it is a fun one. It will only be as trashy as you make it. Be mindful of the songs you play (no stripper tunes) and it will be fine. Good Luck and congrats on your wedding.

Answer 8

A few things to consider:

First of all, many of your guests will not be bringing cash. They do not assume they will need to pay for anything...having a money dance many times puts your guests on the spot.

Second: In this day and age, it is considered tacky, it is just viewed as a money grab...just one more way to shake another dollar out of your guests. Unless you are from an ethnic background where the dollar dance is an important tradition, I would suggest not doing it.

Third: If you ARE from an ethnic background where the dollar dance is important, Either have your matron/maid of honor hold a basket for the money, or carry a white/ivory satin purse for dancers to put the money in. Do not have the money pinned onto your gown...it will ruin your gown, and pinning money to the shirt is a bachelorette activity, not a wedding day activity.

Answer 9

It is not trashy, my cousin did at her wedding, the girls gave the groom money and guys gave the bride to dance with them. We had so much fun do it cause we kept cut each other off saying who ever gave the most money can dance the longest and we use paper clips that way it will not mess up the dress. Have your money dance and have it for more then one song

Answer 10

During the bridal dance at weddings in this area, they use a satin money bag, or an apron with a pocket in the front made to collect money. This is no way trashy, or tacky. It's a tradition. Although some people will drop in 5, 10, or 20 dollar bills, the majority just drop in a dollar. Go for it!!!!!!!!!! Enjoy your wedding. Don't listen to people who tell you it's tacky. You're not asking for money, just following tradition. Everybody around here has them. The maid of honor holds the money bag. Good luck with the wedding!! Have fun!!