I have a guy friend and he is a strong Christian.... I really admire him, but I find it odd that he has never found anyone male or female attractive... he says that he is too young to be thinking of such things and that if God has someone out there for him he would just know.... He said he refuses to even look at a woman in the wrong way because he doesnt want to sin..... I know a girl though that really likes him but doesnt know how to get his attention with this mind set.... any help or suggestions... and for those who are Christians especially do you have any input on whether this is a good thing or going too far?
2007-06-26 05:05:21 · 25 answers · asked by prometida 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your christian friend is still very young and struggling with becoming a man, and what he thinks a good christian man is, he has to work that out, but if the girl really likes him she can try to be his friend. Being friends first is very important. If this girl has his same interests and he sees something in her that he likes would be the best for both. As a christian for the last 20 years I would have to say that I would stay far away from things I thought were strong temptations, but after awhile it gets easier to fight those temptations and soon other things are more important and those temptations are no longer. Your friend is fighting temptation but that will make him strong, support that. ( Matthew 26:41 "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.")
2007-06-26 05:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Buckeye 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a friend who's very strong in their beliefs. The best thing to do is to support him in his decision. It's nice to know that all male teens are not thinking about sex and girls. Yes, I'm sure it seems strange that he doesn't think about dating, but some people are late bloomers, too. What you can do is encourage him. He doesn't necessarily need to be thinking about sex with a girl (that would probably be considered to his specific Christian faction) but there's nothing wrong with being friends with a girl and going on a date with them just to get to know them. If he's not comfortable going out on a date alone with the girl that likes him, suggest a group date. That way, if he isn't interested in her, even as a friend, there will be other people there to talk to and have fun with - that totally helps with the awkwardness. It's nice to see that your friend has a friend like you who's concerned about them. Just be supportive and understanding of his differences and you can go from there!
2007-06-26 12:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Agent D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like this when I was 16. Only recently have I become interested in women. I made a commitment of temporary celibacy (not just "no sex" but "no relationship with anyone other than G-d") when I was 15. The first instruction from G-d was to "be fruitful and multiply." If he wants to be right with G-d he will follow the instructions and eventually he will become openly interested in them; he will know when that is. Don't worry about him.
2007-06-26 12:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by agave_1986 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen. That's his mindset. Of course he finds women attractive, he's a guy. He just does not want to fall into trouble. Just don't hook him up with anyone. Leave him alone. Like he said, God will find someone for him.
2007-06-26 12:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Camille 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is more committed to God than the average teen. He wants to find the right girl, but he isnt ready yet. Dont try and push him in any way because he wont go for it. Try and be his friend though.. he may see it later
2007-06-26 12:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's just a good Christian. just because you may not have the same beliefs and don't understand his that doesn't mean that they are wrong. Your friend can try to become friends with him but if he doesn't feel comfortable with anything else than you both have to respect that.
2007-06-26 12:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by just some one else 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should never push someone to do something they do not want to do or are not ready for, or push your friend on him even if she does like him. My expierence has been if a guy is not interested he is not interested and aggressivley trying to get his attention will get you rejected again and again, you do not want your friend to feel hurt or humiliated do you? I think it is very smart of him to know what he does not want.
2007-06-26 12:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by hersister 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I'm a Christian. I think it's good that he doesn't want to look at a girl lustfully... but dating is ok! he can date and have a healthy relationship with a girl if he feels he has self control. He should be able to look at girls without looking at them lustfully. lust and attraction are different. if he's attracted to this girls personality, i think they should go for it, getting to know each other and having a good healthy teenage realtionship.
2007-06-26 12:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alexandria III 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well has he met this friend of yours? If he has than leave him alone. He knows what he believes in so I wouldn't change that. Don't set him up or you won't be his friend anymore. Tell your friend that he he is not interested in her and tell her there are other guys. Take my advice and you'll be fine.
2007-06-26 12:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by Pai Pai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what. Mind your own business. No good can come of you trying to set him up when he doesnt want to be set up. If he has no interest he has no interest. You trying to interefere will only cause him to believe you are trying to come between him and God. That will not work out well in your favor cause it seems if it comes to God and you, you will lose big time. MYOB
2007-06-26 12:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋