my boyfriend has always gone down the gym every night after work, and it has never been a problem, untill he cheated on me with a girl there. we were on a break but i forgave him and we r back together and i am happy with him. but he has started doing his hair and putting on aftershave and wearing sexy clothes to the gym. i dont no weather its just him looking after himself or weather he is trying to impress someone. i no for a fact that this girl still goes to the gym and that she still likes him. im would go to the gym with him but i dont like it. what should i do please help!
2007-06-26 04:12:59 · 39 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Join the gym maybe?
2007-06-26 04:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get dressed up and put on aftershave AFTER you work out at the gym, not before. I would definitely be a bit suspicious. What you could do is start going to the gym with him to work out, or if your hours don't allow this, pop in to the gym one night.
Either way, until you know for sure, you will always have doubts. And you can't have a good relationship without being able to trust him.
2007-06-26 04:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by taizy77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds like your jealousy is founded, however, it will lead you to destroy your relationship whether or not it is true. Would it not be better to take care of yourself and while he does the gym, do something for yourself that will take your mind off of what he is doing. Get up. do your hair and put on perfume then you and a friend participate in a hobby or bike ride or anything but worry about your significant other. Whether you worry or not or be suspecious, there is nothing you can do before the fact if he cheats except make you miserable and bitter. Save yourself all the grief and enjoy something and if he cheats deal with it when it happens. It will not be secret for long and all the worry or Dick Tracey investigation will make any difference. Don't make you suffer.
2007-06-26 04:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. Then go yourself about 15 minutes later and check on him, or have a friend go. I wouldn't be surprised if you don't even find him there, and then you have something to worry about. Do this a few times and see what happens. You can also check his workout clothes when he gets back. Are they still clean? In the meantime, there is no way to know for certain, but if he is dressing up so much for they gym, that is NOT a good sign. I'll bet you will be looking for a new boyfriend soon, but you never know. I wish you luck!
2007-06-26 04:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Pinky,
There aren't many valid reasons for doing your hair and putting on aftershave to go to the gym. As far as "sexy" clothes.....what is the purpose if you are only going to work out. Sounds to me like he has some other kind of "working out" on his agenda. What kind of shape are you in? Do you think that you could benefit from going to the gym? I think it would be great if you could go with him, or even by yourself. If he is cheating, this would be a good way for you to hold on to your self-esteem and even meet a new circle of friends. You may feel that you don't like the gym but it could be a great way to interact with others and prepare you in the event that he betrays you again. Best wishes
2007-06-26 04:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's getting all dolled up to go to the gym (where's he just going to end up sweaty and disgusting), I'd think there's something to it. If he's always done that before he goes then I'd say it's just his normal grooming habits but if it's a recent development you have room for concern. I'd say your best bet is to ask him about it. It's normally pretty easy to tell if someone's lying so see what he says and if he is trying to look good for someone else, kick him to the curb. I'm sure you deserve better because NO ONE deserves to be cheated on! Hope all goes well!
2007-06-26 04:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Shae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm HELLO. He cheated on you once with a girl that still goes to the gym that he goes to . Are you crazy? He needs to switch gyms first of all b/c he probably hanging out with her all night and I'm sure they aren't lifting weights. You need to get rid of this slimeball. He obviously doesn't care about your feeling or your relationship and I can guarantee you he's one of those guys that goes to the gym to pick up girls. You deserve so much better. Get rid of him he's only going to keep hurting you or give you a disease.
2007-06-26 04:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out for yourself whether he's up to anything. Go the the gym but suggest it on the spur of the moment with no notice, or just turn up there and your intuition should tell you whether you have anything to worry about. Can you be sure he's going to the gym when he says he is?
2007-06-26 04:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he cheated with a girl? All the "romance" I've heard about at the gym have been tales of men getting it on in the showers.......Or, is that just London and Covent Garden?
2007-06-26 04:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, once a cheater always a cheater. Your instincts are telling you but you seem to just ignore them... Just look at your question you pretty much answered it yourself... Take it from a girl who was cheated on. You will find someone who will adore you and do everything for you, i know i did!!! Forget about him, i know it's easy for me to say it, but like i said i've been through the same thing... You will get hurt even worse if you don't end this now...
2007-06-26 04:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by ivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋