I have been raising my 4 yr. old nephew for a year now on July 4. My S-I-L has really made no attempt to see him or even be in his life.
She left her husband (who she's preggers by) for a controlling woman who runs her life. She has moved back to our home town and has been here for about a month and a half. She has attempted to see him once...and has called 4 times.
She arrived at our home at 12:30am to "retrieve" her son who was sleeping. I calmly told her that she cannot take care of her son...she can't even take care of her daughter (8 yrs) and hasn't seen her since she was 2 yrs old.
Did I mention the fact that she has been in jail more this year than she has been out? We also had to drive to Missouri to pick up my nephew because she was in jail and the chick she was with didn't want him. He would have ended up in foster care. Now... I have to tell you that the chick that didn't want him doesn't have her own kids either because her brother sexually abused them. HELP!
2007-06-26 03:14:29 · 22 answers · asked by Pixie Dust 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you want to become the permanent guardian of this nephew, it is time to consult a lawyer to get some type of order in place, otherwise, she has the legal right to pick him up any time she feels like it.
2007-06-26 03:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So I'm guessing your dilemma is whether or not to allow her to take your nephew? It sounds like she's not ready yet to take on that responsibility. If she chooses to fight you in court, unless there is legal paperwork giving you custody you may lose. My suggestion would be to talk to a lawyer who specializes in family law to see what your options are. Do this now rather than later. You may also want to contact Family Services to see if they can recommend anything or help in any way.
This woman needs help rather than judgment. If you have any influence with her try to talk her into getting counseling so she can try to get back on track and maybe some day be a part of her children's lives. Thank you for taking care of them in the meantime.
2007-06-26 03:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a basket case!!!! Call a lawyer and get custody of the little guy as quick as you can! She left him a year ago, she should have no rights. What will happen to him if she should get him back? Not Good. The most important thing is the well being of your nephew, call now!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck,
2007-06-26 03:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord you know what you must do and that is to make sure she does not get him back.....not until she proves herself to a court of law. I take it that you do have legal guardianship over him? Do not let her take him especially since now he has been accustom to a normal family setting, going back to her type of irresponsible way of living will devastate him. If she is made to go about getting him back through the system she probably will think it's not worth her time and efforts and just put off doing it. Trust me he will be better off with you.
2007-06-26 03:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'de say stupid and mentally ill. You should try to get something legal in place so she doesn't have the right to just take him when she feels like it. I'm sure you can go through the department of children and family services in your state. They will start making her go through parenting classes and a bunch of other stuff which I'm sure she will fail to do. Then she will eventually lose her rights.
2007-06-26 03:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by thinkinkat1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention if you have legal custudy of your nephew. If not, you need to pursue that immediately. The courts are in favor of keeping children with their biological parents, so it will be a fight for you. But worth it because you need to at least take a stand for him because you know it is best for him. He deserves it.
2007-06-26 03:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by I39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew, I would contact a really good attorney and try and get legal custody of the boy. He doesn't need that kind of family to live with. I admire the fact you for taking him in! But, you need to get legal help to keep him. Good Luck to you and the boy.
2007-06-26 03:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by bluebird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need to check what the laws are in your state but most likely and unfortunately, unless you have legal custody of him, she can take him if she wants too. I have seen this happen to people.
2007-06-26 03:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She both stupid and Crazy you should try to get full custody of your nephew
2007-06-26 03:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Tuty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to petition the courts for full custody of this little guy, like today! Thank God that little boy has you in his life!
2007-06-26 03:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by hibicent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋