my ex and I are going to court in 3 weeks to determine where my son will reside. He is 5 years old and has spent equal ammounts of time with us both. I disapprove of the way she is raising him such as, she let my son miss 11 unanswered days of school, she will not take him to the doctor, he currently has a hernia which I have taken him to the DR. for, and she don't think is a big deal. I am having to take out insurance for him just so he can have this surgey. She is really a terrible parent. She let her boyfriend put welts on my sons legs, which I did call DSS for, but they dropped the case for some reason. I just know that it would be in my sons best interest to reside with me. At the same time I don't want to ask for to much and end up with less time with my son than I have now. Please help with and suggestions or personnal experiences.
2007-06-26 03:07:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i understand your fear of going in there and seeming too pushy and losing it all. its a legitimate concern of any parent going into court for that. if you are going to accuse her of being unfit, you need to have concrete proof not just your allegations. (a dropped CPS charge will not be considered concrete proof, she can say you are trying to make her look bad) i would just go in there and request a family mediator to look at both situations. just say that you of course would love for your son to live with you full time, but that you want what is best for him. and you sincerely request someone unbiased to come in and look at both homes and make the decision for the both of you. . . you should act like you are using your head and not your heart and that you are not mad or upset at your ex. you should tell the court that you dont believe that he should live with someone who co-habitates with the opposite sex because you want him to understand and be able to uphold the value of marriage when he becomes an adult. be strong and good luck.
2007-06-26 03:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by spacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try for full custody? You are his father and if your ex is such a terrible parent why would you let your son stay for that kind of abuse? What you have metioned are "big deals" 11 days of school this year, what about next year? Welts on his legs? What may happen next! You need all of the proof about what you said and the judge will make a decision based on what is in the best intrest of the child. Go for it! You do not want something terrible to happen to your son, and then wished you have had done something!
Good Luck
2007-06-26 03:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can prove with hard evidence that she is a poor parent then you should try for full custody. However, the chances of a father getting full custody is very hard. If you can't prove anything then I would just go for joint custody. In the future call DFS on everything that is abusive. The reason they dropped the charge against the boyfriend is probably because they could not find enough evidence.
Good luck!
2007-06-26 03:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for you child. If being with the mother is not good for the child and she is neglecting him and allowing others to neglect him, then you need to have him removed from that situation. Courts are going to tend to lean more towards the mother in these cases, whether right or wrong, so if you can afford it you need to seek counsel on what steps you can take to have this carried through.
You need to get that baby out of there.
And on a side note, if another woman/man layed a finger on my child without my permission, I'd sure enough correct that...as in beat his ***.
2007-06-26 04:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by 2nd Time Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is treating him like you say, the answer is get try and get custody. Before something bad happens that can not be fixed. I would have called the cops if someone put welts on my kid. He deserves to be treated better than that. Hire a good attorney and go for it.
2007-06-26 03:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO QUESTION that you should ask for full custody. You need to document EVERYTHING, and talk with a lawyer. There is no reason for your ex to let everything go the way she is. I really hope that you can get custody of your son. Good luck!!!
2007-06-26 04:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by nikki1162000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your lawyer and do what you believe is right for your son however most judges side with the mom.
Oh and you are going to have trouble finding insurance that will cover a preexisting condition, why doesn't his current policy cover it?
2007-06-26 03:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reveal all to your attorney. You are paying for their services and want results...Please have her answer for the skipped school days, the welts on his legs and the medical care she refuses to give him...
There is hope for your side. It may take time but build your side to have him...
2007-06-26 03:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her guy hurts yor kids in any way beat the **** out of him.
2007-06-26 03:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
full custody! they are your children....and he is not a good parent
2007-06-26 03:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋