My boyfriend and I split up 4 weeks ago and he came down at the weekend for a visit and to help me fix the shed roof. We had the best weekend we've had for a long time.
On the Sunday we were having a real heart to heart, I asked him to stay another night and he just said yes. He then told me he'd wanted to stay but he wouldn't have asked me, what's that about? On the Monday I got the feeling he wanted to stay longer, he's on holiday, and he fought against what he wanted and left. He later admitted he'd wanted to stay longer, and he may even be coming back down later in the week.
But my question is why do men do that? It's very obvious he wants to spend time with me and yet he's ignoring his feelings. It's also very obvious there's more than just friendship between us and again he is fighting it. I actually think if he just went with what he wanted we'd be back together. No one looks at you the way he looked at me unless they really love you.
2007-06-26 02:21:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He ended things, whole load of reasons he said couldn't be fixed yet over the past four weeks he's been slowly but surely fixing the fundamental stuff, there are a couple of biggies left but the stuff he said he couldn't see the point to he's actually doing!
2007-06-26 02:34:07 · update #1
I don't mean to be mean, but maybe he is second guessing. You split up. There had to be a reason for it. Just because someone looks at you a certain way doesn't necessarily mean that getting back together is the right thing to do. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying you two shouldn't be together. Sounds like you're on the right track. But I don't think this is necessarily just a "guy thing." Lots of guys DO express themselves very well, especially if they want back into a relationship. In fact, more girls are on here trying to figure out how to get their ex to leave them alone than people fortunate enough as you to want them back! Maybe it is just a part of your beau's personality, or maybe he is just being cautious because of the initial split. Only time will tell. Good luck!
2007-06-26 02:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one isn't to difficult to figure out. Men have very fragile egos and he was afraid that if he asked you would say no. We men hate to be rejected. It may be necessary for you to take the lead in this if you wish to resume a relationship with him. Once he knows that you are interested he'll probably be a little more forthcoming but not much.
2007-06-26 02:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are simple creatures. They think as we all did when we were children. If you make him feel like "the man in the house" he' ll be back with you in no time. But he won't appreciate you for it.
Let him think this over (give him the time) but not for long.
My belief is that you can never be friends once you were involved.
2007-06-26 02:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Maria T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes just testing the waters huny, dont think hes too sure if he wants you back 100% yet, but give him time i think if you just offer and not push hell do what you want , thats if you really love him and want him back. Sounds like you want the relationship to continue, i think your going arouind it the right way, go with the flow, xx
2007-06-26 02:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yer he does like you,
guyz like the girl to show they want something like them before they make their move. Basically, fear of rejection.
He doesnt want to ask you something like that incase you say no and if he isnt sure you still like him then he wont want to make it too obvious because of the rejection deal..it can really take it out on some people...
Just try dropping hints you want to be back together like "remember when..." and say things like "that was soo fun" or "i wish we could do that again".
2007-06-26 02:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by Corey M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me, men find it hard to express their feelings because they think they'll be seen as weak by other guys. It's their nature anyway. They think they are so strong that they can even keep their real feelings for themselves. Sometimes, they assume that women might be turn-off if you see them cry or whatsoever....
well, in your situation, maybe you should wait for him to express his feelings better.. maybe he's just finding a right time to express it...
:-)
2007-06-26 02:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by simply 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to be hurt? Do you express your feelings to him. It works both ways you know. Sometimes relationships only finish due to lack of communication on both sides!
2007-06-26 02:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think fear of rejection is a part of it
and he doesnt want to make a mistake with you
2007-06-26 02:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos its very difficult to understand you girls. .....so so unpredictable.
if he had been forward, who knows how you would have responded?
2007-06-26 02:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
women r are all cold arsses
2007-06-27 02:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by tripp1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋