I'm 20 and never dated. I'm very depressed about this. I'm shy and not aggressive. How do I approach a girl I dont know? How do I make a move? How do I get what I want (a girlfriend) without appearing rude? I dont know why anyone would go out with me. Am I hopeless? I feel like everyone else can do this effortlessly and I never learned this and have passed the time to learn. I'm expected to know how to be suave with women and I have no idea. I'm nice to women and I dont want to bother them. Am I a loser?
2007-06-26 02:12:40 · 8 answers · asked by jblack988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No your not a loser, you choose to live a boring life, get out there and start meeting people! It is totally up to you to make a move without the little voice in your head telling you that you are a loser when your not. Women are so used to being hit on, so if you don't do it someone else will! It's simple: Hi my name is ... and go from there, good luck you will be fine stop putting yourself down and live life to the fullest, have a blast!
2007-06-26 02:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by kind1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
d trick is to stop thinking that u r a loser, burdening, hopeless & useless dude with low self esteem. that's a real turn off for girls. If u can't bother with yourself, why the heck should girls be bothered with u? get this into ur head. and no, u don't need to learn to be suave to women to get a girlfriend. try being sincere.
2007-06-26 02:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by mismatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, some do. some women human beings sense particular whilst a shy guy basically opens as much as them. some do no longer. women human beings do unlike shy adult adult males because of the fact women human beings continuously could be entertained, engaged, and are bored fairly. maximum females human beings are additionally intimidated by utilising shy adult adult males because of the fact they're probably smarter than them. maximum shy all and sundry is the main clever. In a suited worldwide, shy constructive adult adult males could be with shy constructive ladies yet there are glaring problems with speaking mutual affection. maximum shy human beings finally end up being with a extra optimistic and outgoing individual which would be constructive or disasterous. no longer something you may fairly do. in simple terms be your self, yet in addition supply a splash. What do you're able to lose yet your virginity?
2016-10-03 03:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first!
your dressing and personal grooming must be up to date check that and dress in a confidet manner that says 'am proud of myself and am confident'
secondly if you have a girl you like send her flowers and a note but this has to come after you have introduced yourself and ask her out make time to call her and just move with the flow
Ps. You are a good person you need to work on yourself first before you approach someone
2007-06-26 02:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by judie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a loser. I'm the exact same. I'm a 20 year old guy. Dated for a month, but it was not very serious. I'm a shy, reserved, smart, nice guy. Just wait, bro... The girls will see the qualities we possess after they experience real life and decide to grow up. You and I will be hot commodities.
2007-06-26 02:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't feel Ur talking to a girl just think Ur taking to a parson more . . . Try to be easy with them . . . Tell any thing that comes to Ur mind don't think Ur acting wired or something . . . just be yourself and don't think you have issues for girls . . . if that don't work than yeah ur a loser . . .
2007-06-26 02:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more confident
you are suave and sophisticated if you decide you are and believe you are.
confidence starts out as illusion
I also recomment working out loads and loads, it obviously makes you more attractive to the opposite sex but also naturally boosts your confidence x10 aswell, so double whammy!
2007-06-26 02:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dance up to them and try to kiss them, it always works for me but then again I'm very handsome.
2007-06-26 02:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋