Crap, crap, and nothing but more crap. I am getting so tired of being crapped on.?

Question

I have degrees coming out the wazuu and still the jobs are being given to people who don't even have half the qualifications that I have. It makes me so angry that I just want to say to hell with all you bastards. I'm getting so tired of playing this losing game. You spend a fortune on getting the best education avaliable, and then the job goes to someone who is not even qualified. If I had all the money back that I spent on getting a good education, I would not need to look for work...I'd be a rich man. What kind of society is this anyway? I'm so tired of being crapped on. I just want to run away and live in a little log cabin in the woods, and they can all take their god damn job and shove it where do sun don't shine. This rat race is really wearing me down, and I don't know what to do about it.

Answer 1

Sam, from your question and details your frustrations are obvious and understandable. Although you have vented a lot of negative feelings, you do end on what I think is a little more upbeat note by expressing a desire to do something about your troubling circumstances. And, there are other positives in what you have expressed that should not be overlooked either.

First, you must have applied for a lot of jobs to reach this crap-filled point. This suggests to me that you are not afraid to risk failure and rejection in the quest for what you want. Many people are willing to simply take what life gives them only putting in the minimum effort and deny that they have any recourse to do better, or exercise some control, or give direction to their lives. This quality does set you apart from the crowd.

Second, you have already worked very hard, patiently, without immediate reward for an extended period to achieve more than one goal you have set for yourself. You are obviously capable, knowledgeable, and have the confidence to invest in yourself. This also puts you among the top achievers in our society.

Third, you do have a high opinion about your skills and abilities. If you don't think you're great, then nobody else will. You must have this kind of confidence to take the risks necessary to pursue your goals and to convince others to give you the opportunities you seek.

I may have misjudged what your posting says about your personal traits. But, whether I have misjudged you isn't nearly as important as whether you have misjudged yourself. It is when we misjudge ourselves and our circumstances that we set ourselves up for frustration and failure. It's like this joke:

Question: What are the last words spoken by a redneck?
Answer: Hey, Bubba. Watch me do this, heah!

I don't know anything about your specific educational background. I don't need a lot of information because it is remarkable in many ways regardless of what the specifics may be. But, the hard reality is that my judgement and even your judgement of your qualifications does not matter. What matters is what you can get others (in your case - employers) to think of your qualifications. And, a lot of what you can get others to think of your qualifications has to do with actual substance. But, a good deal of it is subjective and related to the needs of others and does require some ability to wrap what you are selling in a nice package with a fancy bow.

Another reality you must consider in your circumstances is that every employer looks at a hiring decision as a $1,000,000 investment. The stakes are very high for employers if they make a bad hiring decision. In addition to the salaries and benefits involved, there are costs associated with training and turnover that employers are concerned about. So, in the face of a $1,000,000 decision employers take all the steps they can to minimize the risk of a bad decision. They want proof of skills with educational requirements and experience. They want to know as much about you personally as possible and will more often than not take someone they already know personally over someone they have just met. And, in the end, they want to make a decision they "feel good about." Honestly and simply this means the person that gets hired for this $1,000,000 investment will have created a personal bond with those involved in the hiring process.

I graduated with an undergraduate degree in sociology and linguistics. It took me months to find a job. Countless interviews and rejections made me frustrated and desperate too. I don't exactly know how I did it, but somehow I finally got to the point where the ridiculousness of it all made me laugh. And, when I laughed at it, I actually found more courage to take even greater risks. I cut through the crap as I got more rejections I started asking the people who didn't hire me to help me understand why. I did not approach them in a threatening way, but just asked for their honest help. I needed their help to make sense of what more I needed to do or what was missing so I could eventually get the kind of job I had been interested in with them. Some told me, others wouldn't. I got to the point where I was willing to work for free and offered to do so to get the opportunity to prove myself. The offer was not an act of desperation, but of supreme confidence I could prove myself.

I finally did get a job. I did not have to work for free. But, I did have to settle for starting below the bottom rung. Then, I went to work, busted my fanny, and made them realize what a good deal they got.

I think you can do it, too. But, not if you move into that little log cabin.

Good luck.

Answer 2

It sucks, I know. I have two degrees, and am stuck as a Security Supervisor. I mean, it pays well, keeps a roof over my family and food on the table, but security.... Blah.

I don't know exactly how I was supposed to obtain the 15 years of experience in a field that I graduated in at the age of 21!

I don't know. Of course I sort of chose this, I mainly want to write, and this profession has no real responsibilities (I mean, I never think about the place when I'm home, I never bring home work, and it gives me little to no stress)

But I still know how you feel, for the first 2 years out of college I went through the same crap until I had to take a job that I was vastly overqualified for, just for the money.

But I know that if you keep plugging away, you will find something, something that you will love doing, and you will forget about all this crap that is going on now. I know it for sure.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

I really wish I had an answer for you, but I don't, so I will just join you in moaning! I gave up a good career in finance to get a degree and better myself, and since graduating, I can't find a single job, not even one that pays less than I was on before I went to uni - it's absolutely ridiculous. I would have been so much better off just working for the 3 years i was at uni, then I might have actually got somewhere. I'm getting rejection after rejection, and I cant be bothered trying to sell myself any more.

Unfortunately, its those with the gift of the gab that seem to get somewhere, not the poor sods who work their socks off and would actually be good at the job. It really isnt fair. All I can suggest is working on your application and interview techniques - if you can get these up to par then your degree(s) will give you the edge.

Any room for a little one in that log cabin?!

Answer 4

Get out of the rat race then!!!

Why don't you start your own business working from home? I don't know very much about you but I can see that you are feeling sorry for yourself.

visit www.seethebizz.co.uk

With this business you earn while you learn you can do it around your commitments, so if you do happen to find a job it won't interfer with your business. Put in lots of effort and reap the rewards financially too.

I leave it with you!!!

Answer 5

These was all stupid. My brother bought a Ready to Use Bomb Shelter (who in the heck makes this crap? China?) on December 31st he was praying and brought like two 24 packs of Mountain Dews and three 12 packs of Cokes and had like ten boxes of peanut butter crackers and granola bars. Turned out nothing happened. I bet him fifty dolalrs nothing would happen, and I won.

Answer 6

My mom is a finance manager and she says when she hires for jobs like "clerk" or whatnot she actually throws away the resumes of overqualified people because: 1) They usually leave a job they are overqualified for 2) She doesn't want people who challenge her authority.


Basically apply for jobs that are better fit for you, because managers actually do NOT hire overqualified people (I was surprised by this too.) So yeah apply to jobs fit for you.

Answer 7

You gotta Look like the more hungry. People get the idea your big headed with all them Degrees.

Also, Smoke Mary, you'll understand things better, Or not care as much..

Answer 8

Gee, with an upbeat attitude like yours, it seems you would have thousands of opportunities competing for your wonderful self!!!

Grow up, get some perspective, and realise that educational qualifications are only one part of the hiring process. Try being nice once!

Answer 9

Maybe you shouldn't have gotten so many freaking degrees. That sends a message like "I don't know what I want to do with my life, and I may get bored with your company and go somewhere else that I think would be better for me."

Yeah, I talked to the last guy who interviewed you....sorry

Answer 10

Even if you win the rat race, you're still a rat.

Maybe it's your attitude? Maybe experience counts for a lot in the jobs you're applying for?