hi, this is princess! well now a days i faced a serious problem!the guy who proposed to me continuously 3 years,& i refused him! but his mom knows everything about this mattar! & she doesn't react in this mattar!!!! even before 1 month his mom gave a proposal to my mom that he & i must get married soon!!!! my family doesn't listen to me about this mattar----as our family is too much conservative!!!!! i think they 'll fix our marrage!!! i don't want to get married with him!what should i do?how can i realise that if he is perfect for me or not??????????
2007-06-25 23:59:29 · 10 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Princess, remember the triangle story of Princess Diana, Prince Charles and Camilla, all of Wales, UK. Even though Charles was married to Diana, he kept an affair with Camilla. When Diana died, he took Camilla in and claimed that is the woman he always loved.
You do not want to repeat the ugly side of history. It is a good thing for parents to arrange marriage. But be reminded that, if you do not love this guy, your parents wont be there to love him for you.
Check your heart. If truly you dont want him as a husband, then dont dare step into a compulsive wedlock.
If you are a Christian, I suggest yo seek pastoral counsel.
If you can afford it financially, seek the help of a counselor.
Good Luck
2007-06-26 00:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by J_humor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just had a read through your other questions, is this the same guy who sexually abused you or a different one. Sounds like you have quite a few issues going on in the life sweety, I suggest that you find a consular, or a mature adult you can trust to speak to about theses things.
It is one thing to get some advice from strangers, but it sounds like you might need more than that. They have help lines, so you can stay anonymous, especially for women who are facing arranged or forced marriages. Get someone who you trust that will support you through these decisions, don't try to do it all on your own! I promise it will be easier with help!
Good luck!
2007-06-26 07:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Delighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, what a joke!!
I think u need to talk to that guy bout the problem personally
tell him that u don't have feelings towards him and don't want to get marry with him..coz u don't want to hurt his feelings in the future
just tell him that u assume him as friends only
Tell ur parents or ur close friends bout the situation u felt rite now...and tell ur parents that they shouldn't fix ur marriage
coz u have the choice in ur hand
tell them he is not ur Mr. Right either coz they might think that u have chose the right one
don't let them desroy ur life coz u don't like him at all
tell them u don't want to get marry yet too
coz u will regret one day if u accept their choice
all the best to u..
and hope u can settle this problem now
and my advice to u, don't let them judge u k
2007-06-26 07:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are old enough get out of the house. They can't control you if you are living on your own. If you don't want to marry him then don't that is your right. Well unless you come from a country that believes in that. If it were me I would just get out of the house.
Also tell your parents that you won't be happy and you won't have kids with this guy and they might change there tone. If your not in love with him don't do anything that you will regret later.
2007-06-26 07:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU decide who your going to marry!! They can't handcuff you togather and force you to walk down the aisle!! Besides if the guy really loves you he would listen to you and back off!! He sounds obsessive!!
2007-06-26 07:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by &coley& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to marry him he is NOT perfect for you!
The person who's perfect for you will be someone you WANT to marry.
Just tell your parents there is no way you will marry him. Not gonna happen. No one should tell you who to marry anyway... you should make that choice for yourself.
2007-06-26 07:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to our indian s its very simple,,,,,,,,do one thing go with him somewhere for dinner or whereever u feel comfortable,,,,,,,and observe his behaviuor h,,,not that how he talks with u observe that how he talks with the people who is of lower status if he is talk with them polite,in social manner u may choose him as a husband ,but however it is very difficult to judge the people by their circumstances,,lets try this then will she,,,,,,,,if still not u feel abt he is good message me at kimrankhand@yahoo.com........must reply ur decesion plssssssssss
2007-06-26 07:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by imrankhan d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its your life and if you don't want to marry him don't. your family is not the one who is getting married so they need to butt out.
2007-06-26 07:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confide to yo mama, tell her u dont love the guy.
2007-06-26 07:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can be happy give it a go and please them all ~~
2007-06-26 07:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋