My fiancee and I are in disagreement over DJ instructions. I think its appropiate to give a DJ a list of music types (modern rock, fifties rock), while he insists that you must give them a complete list of every song that's to be played over the course of the evening... HELP!! Who's right? and is there a way to compromise on this?
2007-06-25 23:15:28 · 15 answers · asked by Kimera S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Prefessional Advice ---- He is called the DJ for a reason. If he needed to be instructed what types of songs to play for the whole evening you could have hired a friend for less.
You both are right to an extent. You and your fiance need to let the DJ know what each of your prefences are for music and what TYPES of music you want and DO NOT want played at your wedding. if there are certain songs by certain artist that you want played at a certain time you must make a list of those songs and when you want them to be played.
For example:
CEREMONY
Bridal Party Recesison ---- Song and Artist
Bridal Recession ----- Song and Artist
Bride, Groom, and Bridal Party Procession --- Song and Artist
RECEPTION ----
Bridal Party Introduction --- Song and Artist
Bride and Groom Introduction ---- Song and Artist
First Dance ----- Song and Artist
Father/Daughter Dance ------ Song and Artist
Mother/Son Dance ------ Song and Artist
Bride's Parents Dance --- Song and Artist
Groom's Parents Dance --- Song and Artist
Garter Toss ---- Song and Artist
Bouquet Toss ---- Song and Artist
Cake Cutting ---- Song and Artist
etc....
last but not least if you have an dedications that you want to make make sure you make a list of the persons name, song, artist, and a small sentence of why yo uare dedicating this to them.
2007-06-26 02:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our DJ had us fill out a paper that had a section to list any specific song requests, from the special dances to ones we just wanted played, or not played during the reception. There was also a section where we had to list what type of music we wanted - with percentages. Tell the DJ that you want roughly x% of modern rock, y% of fifties rock and any songs that you just have to hear and let the DJ pick the rest. They have experience with that, it's their job. And if they have any experience doing weddings, they'll know what ususally works and what doesn't. Planning a wedding is stressful enough, no need to micromanage.
2007-06-25 23:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Christa H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We gave the DJ a partial list, plus songs to be play for certain dances and our introduction as man and wife. Instructions for what to play during the dinner, like classical music. Any special instructions like no macerena or music with foul language. A good DJ can ask the right questions.
We just gave a small list of the music we liked, my wife and I had some trouble with that. Also that the music should be split 50/50 between my generation and my parents. We could email him this information.
The DJ needs to blend one song into another, and I felt we hired him to do the work. I do not think you need to give him a complete play list. Just a sample of what you do like, and what music is off limits.
2007-06-26 01:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a former disc-jockey, it's offensive to hand a disc jockey a full itinerary of music. DJ's usually know how to handle a wedding, and what songs can get people on the floor, and what is appropriate for dinner. Giving him songs for things like the cake cutting, garter toss, etc...is fine, and some songs you know will be important for you to dance to..etc. Giving him an overview of what "not to play" if there's a song that will hurt someone, or something that's really not right for a wedding, that's fine, but one thing we all have to keep in mind is that the reception is for the guests to enjoy as well! You're doing just fine - you're fiancee has to give the deejay some breathing room. Good luck!
2007-06-26 02:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We outlined all the important things, such as the cake cutting song, bouqeut and garter tossing, father-daughter dance and those things and gave the DJ the freedom to pick the rest of the songs. Planning a wedding is stressful enough without having to worry about the DJ skipping a song on the list.
2007-06-26 01:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do give him a complete listing of all songs he must play, he will think you are a control freak.
Just give him a short list of songs you REALLY want him to play, and an idea of the type of music you like....
50's 60's Rock Heavy Metal and so on...
Quite enough
2007-06-26 00:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give a list of any very specific songs you want played - for example, your first dance, the parents' dance, the wedding party dance; what you want played for the bouquet and garter tosses; as well as any favourite songs you want played.
You do need to give him some guidelines in general - so there's a good mix of all types of music, and don't forget the good old-fashioned stuff like lots of polkas and classic waltzes, and specific dances like the schottische and the bunny hop.
Talk to the dj and see if he has playlists....
2007-06-25 23:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a list of all of the dances-- yours and your new hubby's, parents's, etc.. If you have any special requests, list them. Other than that, just tell him what type music you would like to have played. Make sure that he mentions a few he has in each category, to see if that you and the DJ understand each other, rather than be disappointed.
2007-06-25 23:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't have to! That's A LOT of music to provide - and would cause you a ridiculous amount of stress.
When we were working with our DJ, we sat down with him, explained the types of music we liked, and what we didn't like.
We provided him with the songs we were dancing to, the bridal party dance, hubby's dancw with mom, and my dance with my uncle. Other than that, we said "we like this...." and then we developed a "do not play" list for the things we were adamant we didn't want to hear. We also gave him a few other songs we really, really liked, and he worked them into the evening.
2007-06-26 02:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most djs will give you a list of all songs, and if you want you can pick out some songs you like. but you have to remember your guest may not like your type of music. so it is a good idea to also let the dj pick out some of the songs... because in all honesty a wedding dance lasts at least four hours, can you pick out four hours of songs....
2007-06-25 23:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by vault 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋