My question is similar to the one that was just asked about death. I too, am deathly afraid of it. It's better

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when I am around people because I don't think about it as much. But when I am alone, it's freakin' awful! All I do is dwell on dying, not just me but the people that mean the most to me. I think most of it is because I lost my sister when I was really young and it's embedded in my mind. I keep picturing her the way she died, instead of having good thoughts about her. And sometimes, when I'm laying in bed with my girlfriend and she's sleeping, I cry. Why? I just can't stand the thought of not having her around. But I don't want to worry about it, I know I should be focusing about the good times and it's hard to do. What is wrong with me? And what can I do?

Answer 1

Only two sure things in life, your born, and you'll die. You can sit in a room full of strangers and look around, and you know something? Not one of em is going to make it, they are all going to die just as sure as your sitting there. My point being, don't dwell on it too much, happens to everyone.

Answer 2

I have not had anyone recently die, but I too am obsessed with the thought of dying. It's always in the back of my mind. More than likely I am afraid that I'll feel nothing when I do die, which to me is horrifying. You likely love deeply. It will drive you insane thinking about it all the time. The only way I have ever learned to deal with it is to focus on the fact that I only have this life to live. Enjoy the leaves blowing in the wind and how they overlap in the sunlight, enjoy the early morning as the cars are driving down the street and you wonder what the people think as they're on their way to work, etc. When in bed at night when your gf is sleeping, imagine what you would like in your lifetime, possibly with her. Look forward to the future and focus on the things in the present. It's all you have or ever will. I don't think of dying that often anymore.

Currently I recently gave birth and it was really an eye opener that we all come the same way and leave the same way, and in a way is our right of passage. My father is dying of hep C and already I am preparing for it. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Hi,
The way i see it, death is the only thing that comes to us all. It will only come when your body cant take living anymore, whether it be through old age or through the pain of accident or disease.
If you are in a state like this, then death should be welcomed. It is a release from this last state of living, and even if it is for a loved one, the release death brings from whatever suffering is happening can only be a good thing.
People tend to be more afraid of the time before death than death itself and worry about the death of others because they are afraid of the lose they themselves will suffer.
Just go out there any enjoy your life. Your time will come, as will mine. When it does, it's because you probably need it and so embrace it.
I wish you a long and happy life and a swift painless death.
All the best ;o)

Answer 4

It sounds like you have an anxiety problem and should probably talk to a doctor about getting you on some medication that will help stop these thoughts. I have gone through the same thing. I have two daughters and for a long time I couldn't even work, my oldest daughter wasn't able to go to school functions, see friends, etc...Because I was so scared something would happen to her. I was even scared to but either of them in daycare, go to any relatives houses. It was bad. If they weren't with me I would think of all the possibilities of what could happen to them. Like being on the playground and someone kidnapping them, falling down the stairs, accidentally getting into someones medication and so on and so fourth. Which are real possibilities, but I was making my life miserable and there life miserable. I thought I was just being a good mom, but I learned it was abnormal. I started on paxil and it really helped ease all this thoughts.
I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

It's very natural to fear death. I actually do also when I lost a loved one. I also cried at the thought of it also. But then I thought that just living the moment, making every event count, will make me soon not care at all about death because I've done all I can with it and I can move on. I hope... you feel that too... :) And just for laughs, did you know that more people around the world fear speaking in public more than dying?

Answer 6

Let me answer your question from a man who's sitting on a time bomb waiting to go off. The way to get out of worrying about dying is to focus on living. The good news - and the bad news - is that we tend to create our own realities by our own thoughts. It sounds like you are fighting your thoughts and fears of dying, when what you should be doing is focusing on your living. That way, you are focusing your thoughts in another direction. Focus on each and every second as precious. That's what I do. I used to go through the fear of dying or losing those near to me and it drove me nuts. Then I focuse(d) on how beautiful a sunrise over a lake is or how beautiful a bird's song is and then, I no longer thought as much about death - including mine.

Answer 7

If you have God in your life, you should have no fear of dying. Dying is not a horrible thing. It's only your body that wears out and dies. But you'll be going home to be with a wonderful loving God and that's a good thing. No one is ready to die. I'm not. But when the time comes, it will be joyful for me because I'll be getting away from a cold, cruel world to a wonderful loving world. I wouldn't stress over it. You need to have a relationship with God.

Answer 8

I've been there. I don't know how it stopped, I guess I am now too busy doing other things. So focus on life, not death. The only way to escape death is by not being afraid and by enjoying life. Otherwise, you die every day.

Answer 9

You are sweetly sensitive. It is not uncommon for people to ponder death and the fears of not having their loved ones around. It's good to know that you love so deeply that fathom life without her.

Answer 10

all that lives is born to die.. Led Zeppelin.. hard fact of 'life' or reality.. and then there's taxes.. get a grip on what YOU want in life and stop being a sniveling dolt!
i'm sure your sister would want you to get your head from out your *** and LIVE! your life to the fullest.. get off your whiney horse and get on w/ your life.. if i've upset you w/ this post.. sorry.. get a grip man!