i m with a girl from last 5 years i really used to love her but now i dont feel like being with her anymore, i m avoiding her calls & also i found another girl i dont know if i m really intrested in her but i kind of like her,i nowadays waiting for this other girl to call me there is nothing like a love or anything between us but i think i m falling for her & i really dont know where my life is going previously i used to think i can marry a girl & settle down but now its like i m feeling i cant marry anygirl i m feeling i cant be with a girl for more than a month now & this new girl is driving me crazy i m like waiting for her to return my calls respond my messages & the fact is i really never met this girl in person(she was my chat friend & used to call me i had seen her few pics) pls help me tell me wat should i do i m getting mad i cant concentrate on anything i also feel bad about that other girl but i dont want to be with her please help me pls
2007-06-25 21:26:33 · 18 answers · asked by killer_strikes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you really unhappy in your current relationship or do you feel that way because of the new girl?
Don't string the current gf along out of obligation. If you truly are not happy, then end it now before it becomes any more serious. Chances are she already suspects something is up because your attitude toward her has changed.
As for the new girl, you may just be interested in her because she is not your gf: she is different and exciting because of it. Maybe it is a good idea that you just take a hiatus from girls for a while until you can get your head straightened out and you can figure out what you really want.
2007-06-25 21:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by tigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be too hard on yourself. You might not suspect it, perhaps your gal of 5 years feel the same about the relationship as well. The best thing for you to do is without revealing your real intention ask her how she feels about the whole thing. Does she still feel the same way about you as she did before or is she just obliging? can she feel something amiss in the relationship? You might be surprised if the answer is yes. also talk to another person she respects and asks the persons view about how your girlfriend feels about you. from there, you'll know if she still feels the same way.
You might also want to get her to know other guys as well. guys who might be interested in getting to know her. make her feel good about herself that she is still able to attract other men.
Just think about it, if you feel there isnt any more in a relationship at this point, is there future in a real marriage?
On the other hand, from previous experience, just dont totally forsake your girlfriend for good. you are probably just having a crush with this new girl and once that feeling goes away, you'll be thinking and wanting your old gal again.
whatever it is, its your call. good luck.
2007-06-26 04:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by hisham d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you started to like someone else simply means that you're not getting want you want out of the relationship you have now. You're not happy and you can't stay in that relationship just because it is a 5 year relationship. Most long term relationships become somewhat like a routine sometimes, for what reason I do not know why... maybe it's just not meant to last. Now, what you have to do is to be true to yourself or you're gonna hurt them both and end up with nothing. It would be selfish of you not to let your 5-yr girlfriend know that you're not happy. It's never easy to break up with someone but you're gonna have to be honest with her. I'm sure you still care for her and what's making it difficult for you to break up with her is because you don't want to hurt her and be mad at you. Being a girl, It would hurt more if my bf will stay in our relationship because he's afraid to hurt me and get me mad than him telling me the truth that he found someone else or isn't happy anymore. Damned if you do, damned if you don't but what needs to be done has to be done. The "it's not me, it's you" and "I need to find myself" excuses are overused but it still works. There's just no easy way so have courage and say what you have to say. Don't just jump into another relationship though. Know what you really want and what will make you happy. It will all get easier after... Good luck!
2007-06-26 04:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u should u lookin at this new gurl as something new and interesting u should have never started to talk to her while u were in a relationship because that is emotional cheating. and soon u will find a newer girl and then you'll want her. u should let the new gurl go because she is probly an internet slut who has probly found a newer guy than u. so forget her and stop messin over your gurlfriend who has put up with u for 5 yrs and aplogize for being an idiot
2007-06-26 04:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by kesha w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you 15? dude, tell the woman that you dont want to be with her, but evaluate why first, most people breakup with a person because their priorities are not in order, once you find out what is truly important in life, then you can see if the person your with can give you what you need to be happy, but also keep in mind it works both ways, i would suggest that you stay single until your more mature. dont take this as an insult! your not the only person out there not able to make a mature decision on your own.
2007-06-26 04:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its so easy to do but i think you need a lot of guts to do this.. actually its just as simple as telling your girlfriend you dont love her anymore in a way that she will understand it. Try to tell her your reasons why you wanna break her. For example "im so sorry but i think i dont deserve your love. Because i cant give the love that you wanted" something like that... And tell her that you still be there for her as a friend.
2007-06-26 04:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by margareth g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you count how many times you wrote "girl" ? 9 times and Did you know you used the words "I or I'm" 26 times....
What does that say about yourself...or anyone who might have written this question...it means you really think a lot of yourself and not so much about the others you come in contact with...
don't get angry trying to help you figure this out.....
If you want toys....go to a toy store....if you want a real relationship then get serious with one person and forget the rest of the "girls".
....you are messing with minds when you get involved with these people....it's nothing to play games with...how would you like to be on the other side....think how you would feel if you were dating someone who really didn't want you....you would really feel hurt.....deep down...and used....it's time to wake up and smell the roses....be honest with people you meet...
think about not dating for awhile...find out what you are made of before you get involved with someone again and hurt them.....you might need to open your life up to more things besides work, school and dating.....throw in something else that is meaningful...like volunteering at a hospital or school.....do something that really counts...that way you feel like you are worth something...
Maybe there is something missing from your life...like a spiritual life....check that out......we are made up of so many parts...like a diamond..many sides to our lives...sometimes you need to polish parts of it..so you shine and enjoy life more...
.I hope I've said something that helps you out...it's not easy living in the world these days...but you can't go through life bouncing from one person to another like going to a drive in for fast food....you have to stop sometimes and eat at home something that is good for your body....enough from this old Mama Jazzy Geri ...
good luck....
2007-06-26 04:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From what you are saying, you seem to be a confused man. You want to give up your girlfriend of five years, for another girl who is your chat friend? You are crazy, man!
You should be frank with your girlfriend about your change of feelings for her without mentioning about your chat friend and make a clean break. Tell her that you are not ready for marriage and that you want to be on your own and move around with others without any attachment. She is not going to like it and will be heartbroken, but surely she will be able to move on with her life after a while.
And as far as you are concerned, I think you need to think hard as to what you want out of your life. Meantime, please do not spoil lives of other girls, as you are doing with your girlfriend of five years.
2007-06-26 04:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by fitasfiddle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im just going to say its going to be difficult you might wanna let the girl from 5 years down slow if you just dont like her anymore but you might no want it to happen again so be careful
2007-06-26 04:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by enigmapretzel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that you confused.
just tell her. thats probably the best advice ive ever given. tell her why, and ask her if you can just be friends with her. make it up to her by being the best friend you could possible be, while at the same time keeping loyal to ur new girl.
2007-06-26 04:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by evo25zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋