Does anyone think its weird if my fiancee and I got married whilst still living with our housemate, he's a friend of ours so its not like we found him in the newspaper lol
2007-06-25 20:26:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
not weird. if ya'll need help paying the bills or you are helping him get on his feet, it is a nice thing. as long as everyone is happy
2007-06-25 20:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
Yes, because marriage is when two people become a couple, they start a life as a couple, they face life together, the 2 of them, alone, and they eventually grow up, become a family (regardless of having children or not, 2 is a family nowadays) and responsible and pass into a new stage than before.
No, because no one can tell you how you live your life, and at the end of the day marriage is a typical thing, if you have already been a couple living with this housemate of yours, why does anything have to change because the 2 of you will now have a legal bond? If you have been happy with this arrangement, you can continue it for as long as YOU (not me, not your parents) think your life is OK like this.
I just hope
1. that there are no romantic feelings between the housemate and you, because that would complicate things
2. it is indeed your choice to remain like this, and not becausse you feel embarrassed to ask the housemate to find a new home, because if you would prefer to be alone in the house, move around freely etc., now is the best opportunity to ask the housemate to leave, he will understand.
2007-06-25 20:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you both agree to it and set some house rules so when your married you can have sometime to be alone then why not. I wouldn't want it to be along situation but that would be up to the to of you, just don't let your housemate ever come between you and your fiancee. As the saying goes 3 can be a crowd Good Luck
2007-06-25 20:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little weird. To me, getting married and still having a roommate is like taking a step back. Especially as newlyweds, I think it's really important to spend the time building your home as a couple, and not with a third person.
But, if you really can't afford to not have a roommate, it may be worthwhile. I just think having a roommate once you're married will add more stress than good.
2007-06-26 02:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not weird. I actually know a married couple who have a housemate. They needed the extra money, and he needed a place to stay . . . so it works for everyone.
For myself, I think the lack of privacy would be difficult. But if it works for you and your fiance, then go for it.
2007-06-26 00:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as in case you have tried your ultimate to get to correctly known and function a delightful courting with your housemate, yet to no avail. this is perplexing to describe yet there are situations whilst a individual in simple terms would not like yet another. There seems to be an instantaneous dislike without logical clarification for it. I easily have had this a pair situations in my lifetime--the human beings weren't "undesirable" human beings yet I in simple terms did no longer like them. i did no longer act like your housemate, although. do no longer take it in my opinion and obsess approximately it. i could in simple terms act as though she would not exist because it fairly is probably what she could want. you do no longer could be her chum or confidant.
2016-10-03 03:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We took in a lodger to help towards the cost of the wedding, of course she can stay as long as she wants to and we won't chuck her out after the wedding lol....she is also a friend of ours and it is working out really well, I enjoy having another girl around the house and she keeps me company while my fiance is working as a chef at night.
2007-06-25 22:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not ... there is no reason to not have a house-mate if you have the space. Why not collect the free mortgage payment and save what you would have spent for a vacation?!?! Sounds like a smart idea to me.
2007-06-26 04:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is fine. Some people rent out their basements when they have kids.
Make sure you are making "couple" time though so he doesn't come in the way of your newlywed period!
Good luck!
2007-06-29 08:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what suits your fancy, then why would you care what other people thought? That's you business, no-one elses.
2007-06-28 07:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋