Would you ever hit your child for disciplinary reasons?

Answer 1

spank yes, smack in the face no, pain is a very effective teacher, used sparingly. i only spank my son for doing something real bad, playing with electrical cords, or not listing to me, or ignoring me when im telling him no, or repeatedly having to say the same thing 5 times, or hits me or someone else. and i dont want to hear "but if you can hit him, he thinkls he can hit you" bull. your the parent, your the boss, he hits you there are consequences, your not a kids best friend, your a parent, your their least favorite person sometimes, who cares, it yopur responsibility to try and see them become respectful, responsable adults, not seeing how cool of a parent you can be. ok i got off topic, look i see kids, you cant hit me, or what are you gonna do?? i'll %^%$#@& show you what im gonna do. not spanking can work for some people, but some you need a little, and im not saying hit the kid with a chair, or full force spank, 2 swats from 6-8" out twicw while a firm no will make my son tear up and cry, and most importnatly stop when hes laughing at me telling him no, i use a variety of punishments

Answer 2

Hit, as in, spank, yes. That's required and to be honest sometimes a child needs a good ***-whooping.

It is not illegal, I even called the police department the other day. It's not illegal to spank your child, if you spank them, that is called 'Parental Touching' and sometimes the kid needs it.

Doing it all the time will build up resentment and hate and anger and if you do it at a too young age, like, say, for playing with the electrical wires, they the kid isn't going to learn that the wires are dangerous. He'll learn that Mom/Dad's dangerous.

Spanking is appropriate for growing kids to thrive and learn the value of consequences.

Answer 3

I just give my child a little slap on the hand just and say "no". I never slap her hand hard enough to hurt her though. She doesn't do whatever she did again. I just make sure i associate the word "no" with a little slap on the hand so she'll understand. I only do this when she does something that she could hurt herself doing (like playing with the outlets, because she can take the safety things out of them). But the main thing I do for discipline is I take her toys away or i don't give her a cookie after lunch or something like that.

Answer 4

Spank, yes. Beat, never.
A little smack on the diaper when they're young don't hurt them, it's the plastic of the diaper that scares them and gets their attention.
It also teaches the child that being bad has it's repercussions in life and right now, it's a little smack on the behind. They learn later in life that the older they get, the worse the repercussions of bad acts.
I was spanked as a child when I needed it and I was never traumatized by it. It taught me to stop and think about what I gonna do before I did it.

Answer 5

i was hit as a child..i mean hit hard. I am breaking the cycle with my daughter. If i get angry with her i count to ten and leave the room...but as far as hitting a child i do not know why anyone would beat their children. I would guess because that is what they were taught.

Answer 6

It is against the law in this country (UK) to hit a child!! You NEVER HIT a child EVER! It is called child abuse, and is not tollerated. There is a big difference between discipline and hitting. A slight smack on the behind is acceptable to some people, but is not needed. There are very good alternative forms of punishment for a child, such as withdrawing privileges such as their tv or sweets or favourite trainers or toy or computer game etc. Having a 'naughty chair' in the corner works brilliantly without the need for smacking or ever hitting. It is up to the parent to learn proper parenting methods which are tried and tested and which do work.

When my children were very small, (I had twins) I was at my wits end with them, and went on a parenting course. I never looked back, I simply put the methods into practice, and hey presto, I couldn't believe it. It was all down to me, the language and words I used, and the actions I followed through with. Remember it is you who is in charge here, and a child does not respond to 'hitting' or 'smacking' You may well get them to stop what they are doing, but it will be through fear rather than understanding, and they will only learn that it is ok to hit others, by your example, and quite often will go on to hit other children themselves at school or nursery.

It does take a little time to learn alternative methods but they are well worth it for your child and yourself. The easiest and most simple one is the 'naughty chair' Believe me, It sounds ridiculous but it works. You simply have a chair away from what is going on with the rest of the family fun which you place the child on for 7 minutes, no more no less, and you MUST explain why you are putting them there, and how long they must remain there for. If they get up which no doubt at first they will do, you MUST relace the child until they have remained there for the full 7 minutes. EVEN if this takes all day, and you have to cook dinner or do other things, you can move the chair into the same room as you have to go in and replace the child on that chair until their 7 minutes is up. Once they have remained for the 7 minutes the child must the have the reason explained to them again and you ask the child to apologise for the behaviour to whoever it was on the receiving end. Then the child can be hugged and praised and hopefully off to play a happy child again. This HAS to be consistant though, and it is completely down to the parent to keep this up or it wont work. The child learns from this without being hurt or scared. Good Luck, I did this and it worked for me, and many of my friends!!

To the people who are giving me the 'thumbs down' er have you actually ever tried this yourself before you are so quick to judge it, and also it does explain why we live in such an aggressive, angry and violent society, hitting little children when there are alternative methods which do work, ( I know) is all because you people are too lazy to bother spending a little time learning them, shame on you!! so go on give me the thumbs down, I know I'm in the right here, there is no excuse for violence and especially against little kids!

Answer 7

You have to sit give a warning to the child , then put them on punishment or something, you can hit with thehand if the other stuff doesn't work, but never with a belt,extension cord etc.

Answer 8

I know sometimes people spank their kids, but, as an adult child of parents who spanked,I have to tell you that there is NOTHING more frightening than to be a child and know you are going to get spanked. What would ever possess an adult to lay a hand on a child. If your child is out of control, there are good reasons for it: There are ALWAYS better options if you are an educated parent.

Answer 9

Children live what they learn--and they learn from you. From the beginning you have to set examples. You yell and scream--they yell and scream. You hit---they hit---you aren't fair--they won't be fair.You curse--they curse. You hate--they hate. You have to encourage talent--spend time reading to them and then with them. Encourage art and music. NO TV--they sit for hours and see stupid displays of violence, ignore the law, disrespect...garish displays of beauty that is not real...You need to teach. And they have to know you are in charge--you are the parent--not a friend. They have to learn how to make choices--good are nice -- bad lead to trouble--award good choices once in a while. Teach them interacting with others--they learn to share and compete and how to win or lose--yes life is full of loss--they have to learn that part of life--disappointments will abound--they need to learn that !! Teach by examples--not by slapping them around. Make sure they learn respect for privacy--and how to overcome fear. They have to learn to be truthful and not to cheat. You were a kid--all kids make mistakes or get clumsy as they grow--all kids test your power--you did it too. Be fair and they learn to be fair. Be consistant when you discipline--always discipline right away--they have a short memory. Take a toy away and they will learn real fast. If they cry--let them cry--tears can be used against you. Good luck

Answer 10

Yes, if it took that much to make them start behaving. It really seems to be the only sensible thing to do until they are old enough to reason (which is typically about 12 years of age). Good night!

Oh yeah, I hope you know I'm referring to spanking. Let's try to be reasonable . . . .