what to do when you make stupid mistakes?

Question

i hsve beeen maried for awhile but things weren't going well for a long time.i know we stayed together for the kids.
now it came to a time when i can't do this anymore,true vonurable times a few years ago i had a moment with this guy i believed his words i didn't want a afair just a nice friendship when i text him amentioned the words i belived to be true,things got out of hand and ge put it on me it was a big mess and heartbreak after that i swore it wouldn'/t happpen again and then just recently because of everything in our marriage repeating i fell and repeated the same mistake i need to make right i feel so stupid because i neeed the attention then scared the guy off how can i i sto p or make right with this,

Answer 1

Stop cheating on your husband and start talking to him. If he happens to forgive you for this, then you can start being honest and have open communication with him. Or get a divorce, and move on.

Answer 2

First, you have to forgive yourself, even if you don't want to. Even if you know your husband wouldn't. Everyone makes mistakes. So don't beat yourself up over it anymore. The reason we keep making the same old mistakes is because we never truly learned the lesson we needed to learn from those mistakes. When we finally get it, we stop doing the same stupid things. I think that you should really examine the marriage and decide what's best for you and your family. Can the marriage be saved? Only you know in your heart what is best. I wish I could say something more helpful, but good luck and I hope everything works out.

Answer 3

Your relationships aren't going to work until you decide what it is that you want. If you want to stay in the marriage, even if it's "just for the children", then you need to WORK on the marriage rather than just trying to get attention for yourself. Go to therapy, find a counselor, re-discover what you loved about your husband in the first place, discover what he needs from you to be happy.

If you don't want to be in the marriage, then get out of it. You're not doing the kids any good anyway by setting a bad example on how to be in a loving relationship. Move on, and sort out your life. It won't be easy, or comfortable, but it's the right thing to do.

Answer 4

it took.2. didnt it why blame one when you are both to blame . . you belived a guy who played you and it probley costed you . your marrage as well morals if children are involved. in my opion???