Do you find woman in leadership are like this?

Question

I beleive woman are nurturers and God sees the woman both married and single as a treasured gift and not everyone is meant to be a mom I feel where ever God places a woman it is an oppurtunity for her light to shine brightly for the Lord.

One thing I do have a problem with is woman who feel the need to be bossy, overbearing and tyrannical when they are put in charge of a ministry whether is it a mission trip, a commitee etc.

Do you find that woman in leadership are like this? I feel that woman should have an inner quiet spirirt ( I am asking God to make me more like this) and I feel some woman instead of taking charge and steamrolling people should take a step back and realize who it the REAL one in charge and that is the Lord. What is your take on this?

Answer 1

It is not our place to judge anyone. Maybe they need to learn not to be "bossy, overbearing and tyrannical" and that is why the Lord put them in a position to become leader. Not all women are nurturers. I know women with 5 kids who don't have a nurturing bone in their bodies, but women with no kids who are the epitome of a nurturer. Hang in there, it will all be ok.

Answer 2

Yea too common unfortunatly. Many women have anger rightfully so about the injustice's they percieve everywhere. The big problem seems to be that Women 'always' apply a layer of emotion into everything. This can cause problems when things need to be accomplished which only require logic. The more complicated the problem, the more emotion will cloud the required logic. Men can more easily skip the emotion part and focus on the logic.

Women just need to better learn how to temporarily turn off emotion and focus on logic. You can still be empathetic and compassionate while being logical without the need for an emotional component. Indeed it is the compassion that can empower the logic..... so what is the emotion that is causing the problem - could be many things, and probably changes depending on the individual.... insecurity (personal, job, pressure to perform), bias, etc.

Organizational structures seem to breed competition so this makes Women in leadership open to a weakness if they cannot be compassionate without being emotional.

Answer 3

I don't agree with you here E4G.
You may want to be a particular way and well and good if the Lord desires you to be that lady.
I don't see women in leadership threatening and bossy... why do you feel this way?
There would be a lot I'm sure, but remember All of us have to start out somewhere and where we are at, God will change us!
If a woman in Leadership doesn't want change from the Lord, she won't be there much longer!

And there are so many beautiful Godly, righteous and virtuous women that are yet so creatively, beautifully and thankfully different, just as much as we are in looks!

Answer 4

I have never known any women leaders who are bossy, over-bearing and tyrannical. Some have strong characters and are bold. Even if a woman is in a leadership position she still should be under and accountable to an authority higher than herself, either to a church council or a pastor, and most definitely be right in her relationship with God above all things. If not she could be deceived and lead others away from God.

Answer 5

Well, interesting - but couldn't your statement about the one who's really in charge apply to men as well then?

I work for a woman minister - she's been one for 25 years. s a standard, she is a very loving, caring, laid back sort of individual. However, I have no doubt that she would be able to take charge of a situation and get it organized and moving if the need be.

tell me this - do you respond to and listen to the meek mild woman when she's in charge? Or do you ignore her, keep talking and doing what you want to do until she has to get rude and forceful with you to make things keep moving ahead? I'm willing to bet you don't. I've seen those meek kindly women get steamrolled by the very people they are supposed to be helping and organizing.

Don't like the women in charge to act that way? Then don't make them act that way by your disrespectful behavior. because it is disrespectful when you keep talking and ignoring her, whether you see it that way or not.

Answer 6

I don't think women in leadership are like you described above, and I am a male. I think the problem in today's society is, women are perceived as being bit**y if they have power and tell people to do things, while men are perceived as being manly. Male bosses can yell at an employee and others will say the employee deserved it. Female bosses yelling at employees wil be called what I said before, or control freeks.
(There are special circumstances when a person, either sex, does let the power get to their head, but not just women in general. Being a woman yourself, I am surprised you are making such comments.)

Answer 7

Although I agree with you...Pastor Sandy of the women's ministries in my church is sometimes like a steamroller but she is an incredible woman of integrity...And God does use her and He is softening her so she isn't quite as sharp. She started off as a loud boisterous woman before God got ahold of her life so it's no surprise she still is like that...God changed her inside but who she is remains. (I've always been the quiet type and that is more who I am.)

Answer 8

Why do you feel this way only for women? So if a man is in charge of a ministry it's ok, even good for him to take charge, be assertive, etc...when a woman does it she's "steam-rolling?" This kind of attitude shows that you are threatened by other women in authority and need to get over it.

Answer 9

Both males and females in leadership can be bossy,overbearing,and tyrannical.

Answer 10

Would be asking this question if it were men that were acting like this? Oh hang most men in religion leadership do also act like this. Not all but some, just like women. If a woman is acting like this maybe it's because she feels she has to prove herself in a religion dominated by men.