Me and my Boyfriend has been going out for almost 1 year. I have done stupid things in the past like hooking up (not serious hook up..only til 2nd base). I never told my bf that i have hooked up. Well i told him but not everything, not like detail. I told him yesturday and he was sooooo mad. He told me i was a slut and that he regret ever touching me... He tells me he feels different about me now..I try to tell him that i can't so anything about it, I can't go back and change it.. he hates me...=( i love him with alll my heart. What should i do?
2007-06-25 18:45:34 · 8 answers · asked by jElic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am guessing that these things happened before you two started dating and these are not things you told him about cheating on him. If they are cheating then you deserve what he said. However I am confident enough to say that you didn't cheat on him. So he shouldn't care about that. You didn't do anything really seriously wrong nor did you really do anything wrong with these guys. My gf told me one thing and only one thing about her past with another boy and what he did to her under the influence of alcohol. If I were to meet him well I would probably end his life but that's another story. What I am trying to get at is that I love her and the fact that this happened in her past is not my business and I could look past this becasue I love her not because she has a clean past. So it doesn't sound like he loves you very much if that's all it took for him to fly off the handle.
2007-06-25 19:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by not_moes_cousin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on being a better person. Trust is a very sacred thing to risk. Take care of it from now on. When you know real love, you d o n o t hook up a lot or a teensy bit!! I've only been cheated on once in my life and I never wanted to touch him just thinking of them naked together. That's an extremely hurtful thing you did. Don't fool yourself into thinking you didn't cheat because it was only to "2nd base". What r u in the 7th grade? You should mature a little more before you get yourself in a lot of trouble. Are you pro choice? Well, make the choice to be choosy so you won't get pregnant in the first place. Sorry but you don't sound like a virgin. This is all very harsh, right? By gosh, you really need it! This is the best help I can offer you because I care.....................tink
2007-06-25 19:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by tink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are involved with a guy for a year, & now you've decided to be honest with him? what were you expecting a "grand finale"?....I mean, if you love him so much, like you said you do then why did you "hook up" with another guy? It's kinda hard to understand, and I do not blame your boyfriend for being upset. What if it was the other way around, what would you do & how do you think you would have reacted....."Trust" is kinda hard to win back, once it's lost. It's like, the past, you can't change it. It would be completely up to your boyfriend, whether he is willing to give you another chance to redeem yourself, or if his ready to move on. If I were you, I would re-assess my feelings, and make sure that you still want to be with your boyfriend & that you will not make another mistake if he will give you another chance.
2007-06-25 19:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by always51787 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him like you again. What you did was pretty shitty and I wouldn't forgive you either. If you felt the need to hookup with other ppl maybe your not getting what you need out of the relationship you're in. You may really love him, but it sounds like you're kinda a party person and he can't keep up. Try being single for a while so you can do that kinda stuff.
2007-06-25 18:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair for him to punish you for things you did before you met him. He's either very immature or very controlling or both. Either way, it's something you don't need. I know you love him, but honestly, so what? Love isn't enough, and shouldn't keep you in a relationship with someone who is vindictive over your past.
2007-06-25 18:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from the experience, and move on. You don't love him with all your heart--you just think you do. You sound very young. See who else is out there.
2007-06-25 18:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to my opinion, wat u did by telling ur bf about hook-up things had been a prove to showing him ur love. on d other hand, u d only one who knows d 'real' purpose. either u afraid of being caught someday or else. wen it comes to trustworthy things, there's no other way but re-BUILD it UP. its ur responsibility. give a time limit. if he doesnt getting any better, then its so useless to continue d relationship without trust. its ur call then...
2007-06-25 22:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER TELL A BAD SECRET, UNLESS YOU THINK THAT IT WILL GET BACK TO HIM. It is not like you are married!!! Try never to make that foolish mistake again either.
2007-06-25 18:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋