relationship advice?? girls and guys please?

Question

i havent spent good quality time with just me and my boyfriend for a little over a month.

i rarley see him anymore
and everytime i invite him somewhere, he makes up and excuse why not to.

he finally invited me to go somwhere tomorrow, and i was very happy....BUT it is with his friends.HE BEGS ME TO GO WITH HIM AND HIS STUPID FRIEND ALL THE TIME AND I DONT becauseeee... when he is with them, he is kinda mean to me
and they do things that i have no intrest in, and his friends make fun of me and puprosley make me feel unwanted..

so i said "if i cant spend time with only you, why should i spend time with your friends. that way, none of us wins."
if i cant get what i want, then why should he

should i go with him tomorrow?
what should i say to him?
should i give up?

Answer 1

Stay home, find another friend. He doesn't value or respect you. He probably has another girl friend anyway. You are way more valuable than to have to put up with that.

Answer 2

Good quality time alone.....*SIGH*.....he has the testosterone of an elephant and the brain of an ant.....first, he's very immature for not honoring your request; the quality attention given to his friends should also be given to you, but since you're not married, it's only natural for him to be with his friends but this is way too excessive.....he's overly macho and chauvinistic, and wants it made known to the rest of the "A pack" that he is the "alpha" and dominant one of the two of you ("B pack") and does it through visually and verbally bad manners, and all it does is produce more testosterone resulting in being extremely selfish and a delusional bad-a$S.....and the fact that his fellow wolves treat you like that (and seems to do nothing about it) is really bad.....face it, you're just an outcast to the "pack" and nothing more than the "kill" that they all feed on, and if he lets the other wolves influence him to be the dog that he is, then it's time for a little influence of your own.....tell him how you feel about everything and that you would rather go out with him alone.....if he chooses a night out with you that includes the other wolves, then just remember--there's a real knight out there somewhere ready to give you the quality attention that you're wanting and deserve as a princess, and you don't need this current court jester in your life at all......if he chooses a night out alone with you, then have your quality time with the dude but in either situation, tell him you're about to give up on him because he's with his friends more than he is with you, and that it leaves you feeling as though you're not his friend at all.....do what you gotta do.....straight up sentiments and blessings to you.....

Answer 3

It is not about winning. It is all about compromising. If you don't feel comfortable going out with him and his guy friends than just let him know. Tell him that you don't appreciate it the way his friends treat you and you rather would spend some time with him alone when he is not so busy. Or you go tomorrow and when it gets uncomfortable let your boyfriend know, that you would like to be taken home. Maybe you are going to have fun after all. You can always walk away.

Answer 4

Ashley Ashley Ashley, why do you get me to think that you are being this guy's door mat???? BECAUSE YOU ARE! Why are you sitting at home, on your computer, worrying about one guy who treats you like a possesion rather than getting out there and meeting so many more of "us"?

I will tell you personally from a "guy's" perspective that if you show up tomorrow, I would think you are a tool and very expendable. I know what you should do to check his interest level is call him up at the last minute and tell him other plans came up so you are going to spend some "quality" time doing them instead. When you make yourself available all of the time you become predictable, and if there's one thing this boyfriend of your's likes, it will be a "challenge"!!!

A man is attracted to a woman that gives him "just enough" attention to keep us on our toes. Ever hear "absence makes the heart grow fonder"? Nothing is better to apply that to than your situation right now. You need to make yourself unavailable for the next couple of weeks, quit taking his phone calls and (or) returning them, and then after the contact stops, you call him up to tell him that you are interested in hanging out BUT tell him what "you" want to do. Quit going along for the ride because it makes him happy. Get out there and quit wasting your time on one of us when there are so many that would fall over themselves to be with you. :)

Answer 5

It is silly to have to go anywhere with someone just to be used or abused in any way... That is sad that he'd even ask that of you... Ask him honestly what his motive is for only wanting you out with people who don't even like you and don't even try to hide it! If he likes you at all, he'll understand and give you some sort of explanation as to why he wants to be with them in spite of the fact that they don't treat you right... Ask him how he'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot and it was your friends making fun of him??? If he doesn't care and everything has to be about him only, then he is selfish and not worthy of your time.

Answer 6

i dont think u should go if his friends r there cuz its gonna end up being boring n if they make fun of u n make u feel unwanted, whats the point of going somwhere just to get humiliated n hurt? i wouldnt go.
u should tell him that his friends make u feel uncomfortable n that u just want to be with him.
i think u should aslo ask him if he still has feelings for u. cuz if hes spending so much time away from u then he could be persuing som1 else.
and dang, if hes mean to u infront of his friends, thats not a good sign, it could mean that hes embarrased of liking u, n his friends make fun of him being with u. either that or he really doesnt like u that much.
dont give up just yet. just ask him about his feelings for u n if he doesnt want to be together anymore, cuz then u can just stop wasting ur precious time with him, u could be with som1 so much better.

Answer 7

Make a deal with him. Tell him that if he does something that you want to do next week, you will go with him tomorrow. Tell him that you would like some alone time for the two of you to get closer. If he says "No.", tell him that you will find someone that will enjoy spending some time alone with you, and move on.

Answer 8

It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't know how to balance time between you, and his friends. Talk to him, you need to tell him what you think, and what YOU want, and hopefully you both will be able to resolve your problem, but if he still thinks there's no problem with you having to hang out with him and his friends you might want to consider rethinking your relationship, because he's obviously not treating you right. If you're still stuck, consider do you really love him?, does he love you? the main thing is to just TALK to him and see where you both sit on the issue. i hope this is of some help!!

Answer 9

Compromise is key. If you make him choose one or the other, he'll choose the other. Show your level of maturity and go hang out with the gang. Be open to the experience. He's probably been mean in the past as a result of the attitude that you take toward his friends.

Answer 10

wake up already...you're a joke to him. I hope you haven't had sex with him yet. If so he probably doesn't make that a pleasant moment either I bet. Come on. Sex issue asside this guys does not love you.

This guy does not love you. How do I know this without meeting him. Simple love does not hurt either physically or mentally. It does not embarrass. It does not humilate.

Give up?!? Give up what!!! Dump this loser already. Find someone who makes you feel loved.