I know many couples choose to change obey to cherish, but does anyone have any suggestions as to what else to change it to? I've never liked the word cherish, for some strange reason, and me saying it would feel... forced and ackward. But I'm having trouble thinking of a word to substitute it with.
Any ideas?
2007-06-25 18:28:29 · 20 answers · asked by Queen Queso 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Cherish - protect or tend lovingly, to hold in your heart, to cling to. That's the dictonary definition of it. Would you be happy using one of those for your vows?
I like the ring of "To love, honor and hold forever in my heart". Would that be what your looking for?
Best of luck for your special day, and the life you will share together.
2007-06-25 18:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a wedding minister and officiant, and do not use obey in my vows! Here is one example:
From this moment, I, Name, take you, Name, as my best friend for life. I pledge to honor, encourage, and support you through our walk together. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.
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2007-06-25 20:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just stop at love and honour.
We had no trouble with the 'obey' part - it doesn't truly mean 'taking orders' from the other spouse! We went with the totally traditional vows, even promising spousal fidelity.
2007-06-25 23:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick something special to you two.
Ours is Love, honor, and scratch his/her back.
I don't like the obey since we are equal partners. As far as cherish I figured that would be a given under the love part. We both love to sit and get our backs rubbed so we put it in the vows. :) Besides, there is that one spot on your back that is impossible to scratch yourself and it always seems to be the spot that gets the itch. I joke when I'm mad that I'm only marrying him because he can take care of my itches.
2007-06-25 18:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
for me, love is respect, care, concern, initiative...and of course, honesty. Obey is never in my list. When a love need obey, its no longer a love, its a order to make R/S.
2007-06-25 18:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Its me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once went to a wedding where they used deeply respect, both of them said that to each other, and I thought that was lovely.
2007-06-26 00:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commit.
To Love, Honor and Commit themselves to each other.
2007-06-25 18:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love honor and treasure him with all your heart.
this is really what you will do even when you are old together you will still love and honor each other and you will treasure every moment you have together so i think these words are true in a marriage.
2007-06-25 18:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the wedding vows should be different for men and women.
I would change it to:
For men - promise to, love, honor and obey her. Promise to always be loyal to her and serve her desires and needs no matter what.
For Women - promise to keep him around whenever it suits you.
2007-06-25 18:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why not just say "love and honor?" Trying to add anything else might sound redundant.
2007-06-25 18:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by snake_girl85 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋