My mom died from cervical cancer, do you think I worry to much?

Question

my mom died when I was 10. Since her death I have always been well...."scared" and think too much if I could get it. My mom's death took me a lot of pressure to "move on". I know my mom would not want me to worry about these things and all, but I'm scared. I really am, what should I do to stop thinking about this "if I get cancer like my mom"? I have tried to stop thinking, but I just can't.

I have suffer a lot of depression, after her death I have been also encounter family issues.

God my head is spining please help :(

When I think too much of my mom I cry :(
I'm very sensative. I have witness a lot of my mother getting weaker. I remember she couldn't walk, then can't eat, then finally couldn't speak and had a hard time breathing. My family is filipino, aand she died in the Philippines. I have been living in the US almost of my life. You see I was even too young to understand what dying of sickness was about. I guess what really gets me so emotional about her death was because probably I felt like I wasn't there for her too much while she was dying and I was so mindless that I never would believe that she might not die. I don't remember much of my mom but every time that hits me now, its like "I cry about a woman who I barely remember". Do you think its not about if we remember a person but once when they were alive they took a great importance to your life?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom and the struggles you've been through. I too had an Aunt that died from Cervical Cancer. I went to my Gyno really scared I might get it too and she told me chances were slim to none. She told me cervical cancer was caused by a sexually transmitted disease called HPV. She said anyone can get it who is sexually active and the infection has no symptoms. She recommended me get screened for the HPV Virus then then immunized for it. I'll recommend the same to you. It's really put me at ease! All those commercials for the HPV vaccine has been going on all TV. Look into it. Most insurance companies cover it 100%. After you get screened you'll know for sure if you have HPV or not and if not you can immunise yourself and then you'll be immune.

Answer 2

No one can answer this for you. This is very sad. I am sorry. My mom passed from cancer when I was a kid. My brother is now in remission after 15 years of fighting kidney cancer. The only true thing you can do, is be there. Love her. Don't pity her. Don't put the disease before her. She is you mother first. Fear of death, of loosing her is undoubtedly the most helpless, painful thing at this point. I know you feel alone, sad, scared. I heart breaks for you. We, the survivors, as you said need to reach to one another in these times. I would love to help you. Stay strong, don't forget to prey, and LOVE your mom to the fullest. I'm sorry to say it doesn't get easier, you just get wiser. Also, tell, or wright everything you want her to know. Like how much you obviously love her. God has a special place for you. You are stronger then you know. You have been blessed with the opportunity to know her end is near to do and say all that is needed.

Answer 3

I'm sooooo sorry for your loss. There is no one in the world like your mom, and it is so sad to lose her.

I don't blame you for worrying. You probably witnessed alot and it was undoubtedly very scarey. It's very difficult to confront those things that we really can't control. I watched my mom go through breast cancer. She had a mastectomy and I always worry about breast cancer now. I do get regular screenings, tho... and that's something you should do for cervical cancer too.

BUT, did you know, tho, that there is a new vaccine. Cervical cancer is most often caused by the HPV virus. And they have a new vaccine for it. It doesn't mean you can't get cervical cancer, from what I understand, but greatly reduces your risk.

Do you have a female relative you can talk to about your fears and who would know about the vaccine? If not, how about a counselor at school, or favorite teacher. If you have no one, go to my profile and email me, ok? We'll figure something out to make you less worried.

Bless you, sweetie. Hang in there.

Answer 4

Cervical cancer is quite often caused by the human papilloma virus (HPV). There is a vaccine out now that protects you from that virus. Talk to your doctor about it. Be sure to get your yearly pap smears (if you are sexually active) and that your doc is aware of how your mom died. Cervical cancer does not have a high hereditary factor. You sound as if you could use some counseling to help you with your depression. Please don't ignore the fact that your mental health is just as important as your physical health. Talk to somebody who can help you through this.

Answer 5

Think about seeking out counseling, it is very hard to lose a parent, especially so young. And it sounds like you are still working through your mother's death.

There is also a vaccine, recently available, which protects against HPV which is a virus that causes some forms of cervical cancer. You can ask your doctor about this. It won't eliminate your risk, but it could help.

Answer 6

Calm down. It's not easy anytime you lose a loved one, especially at such a young age, and of something that can affect you later on in life. There's really nothing you can do to prevent it, but you can get screened regularly. By doing this you would be enabling a doctor to catch it early on if you god-forbid end up with it. Getting screened and speaking with your doctor will probably ease a lot of your worries, and maybe help with some of the depression. If talking to your GYN about your risk, and getting checked doesn't help your depression, talk to a counselor. It'll be hard to open up at first, but once you do they'll really be able to help you. Good Luck!

Answer 7

seek a psychologist...and a doctor cuz they could tell you if you are likely to get the same cancer
aslo...to stop thinkin about this just try to have some fun
spend more time with family and friends
do things you enjoy and things that make you happy
just be involved in a lot of things so that when you are doin them you won't even think about the cancer problem

Answer 8

I'm so sorry you lost your mom.
seek group therapy for others who have lost parents, particuarly a mom to cancer. Get involved with a research group. become an advocate to fight the batle against cervical cancer.
lastly get regular screenings

Answer 9

i read ur question
you cant do anything by worrying
i think you are young so just dont worry that u might hav cancer. if you still worry you can consult a doctor and tell ur worries to him, he might hav check up, also tell him u mother died of cancer.
but after wen you are 30 years old , you can hav regular check up for cancer.

hav good feeling about ur mother in my mind.
if you are religious , pray for her soul.
if you can do good things for her sake.
think about ur future and give up the uneccessary worries. becoz unnecessary worries and tension may bring so many troubles to your body and mind.

hav a good day
good luck
frenly lins

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Answer 10

HELLO GRACE,
TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR ABOUT THE VACCINE BEING AVAILABLE TO MANY GIRLS FOR THE PREVENTION OF CERVICAL CANCER. THERE IS NOTHING TO BE SCARED ABOUT IF YOU LEARN ALL YOU CAN AND PREPARE YOURSELF.