I've been g/f, b/f with this guy for a month now. at first we seemed perfect for each other, simular hobbies, both outdoor people, both our familys liked each other. we were real sweet on each other at first. kissin, huggin, holdin hands, but never getting out of hand, neither one of us wanted it. suddenly he because short with me all the time and tried picking fights and being negative, when he is normaly a very happy person. he yelled at me and i yelled back and hung up the phone. a little while later he'd call me and say he was sorry and never meant anything he said before. I am quite a busy person, between my job at the vet's office, training horses, and going to rodeos I have little spare time and really have no time to talk idle on the phone in the middle of the afternoon. at first he adored me for this because i was dedicated. then he became mad at me because I told him one too many times I was busy and couldn't talk and I really couldn't and he almost got me fired once for it.
2007-06-25 17:29:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had this rodeo this weekend that i had planned for months before I ever met him, huge entry fee, expensive, and the first rodeo for a horse i am training. he showed up the first night to support me and he was being very sweet. he tried hugging me and holding me, but i was on the horse and BUSY working with it, so he got pissed at me and wouldn't talk to me even when i actually had time to spend with him after my run on the horse. so I got upset with him and went to brush my horse. he left without saying goodbye. he called later to say he started dipping and he knows i hate it with a passion. he hung up on me then called back later to say he was sorry and would quit for me because he loved me and didn't want to push me away but by now I was already mad(he knows that horses are the love of my life too) the next day he calls to and asks if i can come out and ride 4wheelers with him and i tell him I can't because i'm at the rodeo and i'm riding at the moment and I'd have to talk to him
2007-06-25 17:37:44 · update #1
so he got pissed again and said I spend too much time with horses and the rodeo and should quit sometime to be with him and then he said some things and told me it was over. then he hung up. a while later he called me back and said he didn't mean it and he really doesn't want it to be over. what to do!!??
2007-06-25 17:40:06 · update #2
He's having some kind of "problem". And it doesn't sound as though you have the time to make it "yours". Tell him you think that maybe you both should take alittle "time off from one another" for awhile- until he get's his "act" together. If he gives you a hard time about THAT, then maybe you should consider making that "time"- permanent. Good luck.
2007-06-25 17:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to change him. Men like that.
Unfortunately, with most relationships, they have periods of ebb and flow. He's ebbing while your flowing.
Seriously though, he apparently wants more and doesn't know how to communicate this.
The options are simple:
1. Talk to him about it (face to face) and risk losing him or possibly building your relationship on solid things like communication, instead of hand holding and hugging.
2. Cut him loose and see if he begs for forgiveness, then reluctantly take him back or not (because nobody likes a wimp)
3. Do nothing. Put up with this behavior and deal with the consequences. Notice that old people that have been together for 30 years or more fight a lot.
4. Ignore him and see if he goes away.
Good luck.
2007-06-26 00:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by nonono 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like your boyfriend admired you for your dedication at first but now he is starting to understand the reality of how your life and his will match up, and he's not liking it. Maybe he thinks that you don't have enough time for him. Sure he might realize that you like him and have chosen to be his girlfriend, but maybe he's worried that you don't like him enough to have a serious relationship with him.
I'd have a long conversation with him about his feelings about your schedule. You don't want to push this issue to the backburner, otherwise it will keep coming up in your relationship. Discuss with him your goals and ambitions but also outline your feelings for him and how big of a deal it is that you chose him above all others.
Try to compromise. If he really wants to talk to you every day, then call him on the phone for at least 5-10 minutes to check in and see how each other's days went. Another compromise would be to talk for a longer period every other day, or to spend more time in person together.
2007-06-26 00:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by turns_you_around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What it really comes down to is are you willing to let this guy that you have know for a week change your life around?
Your not a bad person cuz you have a life outside off him. Too many girls sacrifice the things they like to make their men happy.
What about you?! Sometimes you have to just think what the best thing for you would be in the long run. Its ok to be selfish sometimes. Its ur life too and you don't have to surrender it.
If he doesn't understand then maybe your not as perfect as you thought.
2007-06-26 00:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by crista1_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him!!! Get rid of him NOW!!! the little signs now are only setting up for disaster later! Find a guy that is PERFECT and HAS NO FLAWS (yet) Then when the little flaws appear they won't be awfull. A guy that has flaws like this in the early stage of a relationship can only lead to physical emotional and verbal abuse and situations your better not to see! Don't chance it there's plenty of other guys out there!
2007-06-26 00:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds needy. Talk with him, and explain that you are not trying to blow him off, but that your life is very busy. Tell him that you really enjoy his company, but he needs to be more understanding or the relationship will not work. If he continues to be demanding of your time, I would lose the loser. You don't need a guy that is demanding and selfish in your life. Find a great guy that will respect you, your job, and your interests.
2007-06-26 00:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him whats wrong. i mean sometimes things like this can be a caused from thier personal family realtions or sometimes thier frds can kinda influence them. But what i mean is talk with him cause its not rite for one moment he'll be loving u for being so busy and not he just changed. and if he doesn't want to do anything than just leave him.
2007-06-26 00:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit needy. Prolly not the right guy for you since you lead such a busy lifestlyle.
2007-06-26 00:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Homeslice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is still trying to like you. It is not easy.
2007-06-26 00:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋