my mom and my dad are getting devorced i have major anger problem and dont know how to fix them how can i?

Question

im a christain sorta, i like to kill lizards when i get mad um....

Answer 1

my parents r divorced too. u will get through this, dont worry. just remember that they both love u and tell them about ur anger. u can get help.

Answer 2

You can't fix them. The anger may come from not having control over the situation .... but you can control the poor lizard!
Hurting other creatures, or yourself for that matter, will NOT stop the changes that are happening. You are gonna feel hurt, angry, resentful and miserable, and only you can change how you are feeling. They are not doing this to you as an action against you. They are trying to make their own lives better and less stressful. And you gotta go along for the ride.

I hope that they are reassuring you that they love you and will do their best to make the changes positive for you. It will be an adventure that you can make positve for yourself!

Let that "sorta Christian" part of you believe that God doesn't close a door without opening a window. It might only be a little crack, but it will open.

Answer 3

I appreciate your intention to get things right between ur parents and at the same time work on urself.

Have you ever wondered why one gets angry and why people tend to take harsh decisions in relationships?? Its just one thing- The stress piled up in them. Even your anger is a manifestation of that stress- Trust me. I had a huge temper problem and had driven myself to nearly suicide when I found my way out.

Stress relief through some Meditation.The Art of living Part1 course taught me a simple breathing technique which really brought me under control.I was human again and can now sail thru all the problems of life with a huge huge smile. I think you must try it.There are centres all over the world on it.
Good luck buddy!

Answer 4

You say that mom and dad are not getting along and have decided to divorce. You feel angry that your family life, as you know it, is changing.

I agree. This is a sad time for everyone in your family. My husband and I divorced many years ago and my children suffered for it. Divorce is so wrong. I don't know what happened with your mom and dad. Only they know.

This does not mean that they don't still love you. Try to understand that at least one of them is devastated also. You can not fix them. However you can ask them to take you to Christian counseling and go with you.

Stop being sort of a Christian and go ahead and accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. He cares. When you have Jesus, you can talk to God for help.

I will pray for you and your family.

Please stop killing lizards. This isn't their fault and it is wrong.

Answer 5

I know what you're going through. My mom and dad divorced when I was very young. It's just a part of life nowadays. You will get through it ! You will always have your mom AND dad in your life, it will be O.K. Trust me. As far as killing animals when you are mad, DONT DO IT!! THINK for awhile before you act!! The guilt you are going to feel is NOT worth it and killing innocent life will never improve your situation. TIME will heal your wounds. TIME and PATIENCE! You have a WONDERFUL LIFE ahead of you. You can BET on it!

Answer 6

Travis how old are you? You sound young. Honestly, you can't fix them. Maybe there is nothing for them to fix and everything is said. Do you rather have your parents together, fighting and unhappy, or happy and separated? This is a hard time for you I bet. I want you to know that your parents separation is not your fault. Actually it may not even be their own fault. Sometimes love just fades away and dies, just like that...And if you are Christian you know that God is in complete and total control of this situation. He knows exactly what will happen and he knows how you are feeling. Trust me, you are learning, it is painful, but you are learning from this. Be patient, have faith , it will be alright. Don't blame your parents or yourself. Let your parents be the adults and you sweety trust in that God knows what he is doing. Maybe this is the best thing for your parents to be happy as individuals in society. Remember , they are your parents, but they are also humans who make mistakes, they are not perfect. Let it be and don't try to change it. Trust God, put it in his hands and you'll see how God, in his own time, will answer you. I wish you the best, be strong!

Answer 7

You can't fix their problem since you aren't the cause. Regarding killing anything, it's time for you to talk to a school counselor, a private counselor, somebody. That is all about anger and you need help on how to manage your anger. Don't wait and never,but never kill an animal or anything for that matter. Very good luck and please talk with a professional.

Answer 8

Sure glad I am not a lizard.
You have to know that your parents are divorcing each other...not you.
Do not take sides
Insist on living 50/50 with each parents (will force them to live within the same school district)
Do not tolerate a parade of bf/gf in their bedroom when you are in the house.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to say that children can't fix their parent's relationship. Just remember that the differences are between them--and not at all about you. Your parents should be bringing you to family counseling, or at least to individual counseling--so you can tell a qualified person what you think about this whole sad situation.

I'm sorry that this happened to you.

Answer 10

You probably can't stop their divorce but you sure can sit them both down and tell them how selfish they are being and how much it hurts that they have stopped thinking of you and only of them.

Let them know they need to grow up and honor their vows. Ask them how you are supposed to be someone dependable and trustworthy when you have parents who make vows then break them because they can't be adults and work through their problems.

Just let them know exactly how you feel!

Answer 11

Is it the lizards fault that your parents are getting divorced? No...leave those poor creatures alone. Your sorta Christian...I'm not any practicing religion and I don't go around killing anything when I'm angry. I doubt you can "fix" your parents.