What therapy is given to those who are grieving because they can no longer have sex?

Question

I know that in cases of disfigurement or disability, many patients can be rehabilitated so that they are PHYSICALLY capable of sex in some way, but even then, people seem to dodge the issue that a disfigured person's desirability may be decreased. Such people tend to get told to stay hopeful, but what would a therapist do if a patient were deeply upset, but wanted to learn to accept that it would never happen?

Answer 1

First, you shouldn't swear off sex just because you think you're not physically desirable. No matter what your disfigurement is, there are several people that would still want to be with you. You might try looking up dating groups for people with sexual problems so you can be matched with someone who feels the same way.

If you want a therapist, there are people who specialize in sexual disorders. You need to call the local mental health association and ask for refererrals.

If you want to remain celibate for personal reasons, you might also try a spiritual counselor, like a priest.

Answer 2

I was divorced at 34 with no hope of ever getting married again. We had 4 children. This was not physical disfigurement but the fact that I did not believe in divorce or in having sex outside marriage. I accepted this self imposed celibacy and have lived a happy life with out it. Sex is not the be all and end all of life if you stay physically and mentally active in other interests.