Horrible college roommates?

Question

How many people have had bad experiences with roommates? I'm a freshman in college and been to two different schools. Had an insane bitchy control freak who kicked me out of the room for an hour once a day to have sex with her boyfriend. But I wasn't allowed to have my boyfriend in the room ever. She complained to the RA that I made her boyfriend feel uncomfortable because I didn't pay attention to him and was always on my computer. I was told to apologize to him even though it was an all girl's college...yeah... bad times. My roommates at my next college weren't too bad though, but they mostly focused on gossip, MTV, and lifetime. If someone on the floor was doing something "scandalous" they had to know. *rolls eyes* Now I'm getting my own apartment and commuting. what about other people?

Answer 1

Haven't had that experience, but hope to live with someone I can actually stand. I would love to go through that experience. I live at home-*sigh*!

Answer 2

I had the universe's worst slob as a roommate. She would eat then leave open containers everywhere. Dirty clothes were everywhere. She would talk on the phone or stay on the computer all night, ALWAYS the night before a test, speech, presentation or project was due. She would let her friends stay in the room when neither of us were there. Before we moved off to college, we "met" over the phone, and she already had everything we needed as a pair (tv, fridge, microwave), so I didn't have to buy any of that. A month after moving in, she had made it clear that it was her stuff, and even though she allowed me to use it, she had final say about my use (ie.: if she wanted to watch something on tv, but I was watching something else, she'd just completely ignore me and change the channel.)

Answer 3

I definatly feel your pain. I had a similar housemate when I was at uni. Her and her bf liked their time together, and having me there was not to their plan....even though they happily took my rent. I certainly felt petty bitchiness. They even went so far to accuse me of steal a print cable (which I didn't and it was obvious that i didn't). They even deliberately stole my food out of the cupboard.

The best thing I did was move out asap into an all-guys place (yes I'm a male too). Over the years I learnt to be passive about what other people did, but stand up for yourself the moment it affects you. I didn't take any siht (deliberate typo), and I've never had a problem since.

Good luck with uni, hope you make many friends and have a good time!

Answer 4

Ahh, the good old bad days.

My first roommate was very similar to yours - no respect for others- brought people in the room even when it was clear I was sleeping. Scattered her crap everywhere, but woe to me if I had anything of mine even on my own bed, let alone my desk. But I won this battle and got to change roommates - for a worse one.

This chick was OCD- and off her meds. I had about 1/4 of the room for my use, because she brought every collection she owned with her - and added to them weekly. She rarely bathed, and was trying to take 23 credit hours- and failed every course. My RA took pity on me and moved me to an empty room when someone didn't come back after thanksgiving.

Spring semester I moved into an apartment on my own - quite happily.

The next year I roomed with a good friend, spent most of my time with my then boyfriend in his private room, and we got married that next summer, so I had a permanent roommate I could live with and liked.

Answer 5

I didn't have a horribly horrible roommate, but she could be frustrating at times. Freshman year, my roommate was an international from Thailand. She was fine for awhile, but she got annoying before long. She would be up late talking on the phone with her mom, boyfriend, uncle, dad, everyone...and she had the loudest talking voice, the girls living on the other side of the wall could hear her! You're roommate talking on the phone when you're trying to study or sleep is bad even when they're speaking another language. I always tried to be courteous to her and when it seemed that she was studying hard or trying to sleep, I would take my phone conversations to the hallway. Also, she got up earlier than I did every morning, which eventually meant that we got up at the same time, since there was no way of sleeping once she was up.

Answer 6

When I was in college, I had a roommate who was slovenly, argumentative, and rude. By the time the first semester was done, we were nearly to the point of drawing a LINE down the center of the room... HER side... MY side.

After a desperate phone conversation with my loving mother, she assured me that the problems were not caused by me but by her behavior. In the future, I was to decline any requests from her to help her (i.e. "Would you wake me up at 10am on Saturday so I don't miss...whatever), do not pick up or clean up any messes that are of her making, do not engage in arguments with her (just smile and say, "How nice!" and return to your own activities), and above all, do not allow her to control your behavior by her behavior (don't let her "get" to you!).

The last bit of wisdom from Mom was, "And we will see about getting a single-occupancy dorm room for next year" which, thankfully happened, and peace reigned in dorm-land once again.

Answer 7

I was luckier...I got along perfect with my first roommate...but then she transferred. Then I had this gal who was OK but played music non-stop and wasn't that neat. (She once had a plate of syrup...from eating pancakes...on top of her bed for two days!) She also brought a guy over and allowed him to put his things all over my bed. When I write "things" I mean his boxers and wet towel! Yes, sadly I am not exaggerating. Now, I live with in a suite with my friends and i couldn't be happier. Honestly, though, it was an experience that I am happy that I went through because it is part of being in college and on your own. I also learned how to bite my tongue in order not to start WW3!

Answer 8

Worst one I ever had lasted only a semester. She was a cowgirl who loved listening to twangy C & W 8track tapes all night long and had a brass spitoon she spit her snuff into. One day, she used my Taco Villa cup to spit her chaw into, and I ALMOST drank it, thinking it was my Coke... fortunately, I could tell by the slow, syrupy way the "Coke" approached my mouth, that it was NOT Coke at all...

Other than that, we got along ok... we were just two completely different people and we both agreed we weren't a good fit. I had made a good friend by my second year at college. She and I roomed together for our remaining years at college.

Answer 9

I had some difficult roomate experiences too when I was in college.

It boils down to the need for improving social skills and manners on both my part and the part of my roomates. Some degree of flexibility is also necessary. But when a roomate does things that make you feel highly uncomfortable, that breaks the rules or that interferes with your sleeping and studying, then it is time to s-p-e-l-l it out to the other person in a kind but "matter of fact" way.

Answer 10

I had one roommate who was a foreign student. She was never around and was always partying. She would come home when she knew her family would call at like 4 am! It would drive me crazy. Whenever her parents called at a normal time, I couldn't communicate with them. We're good friends now, but we just couldn't live together.