you were me. i have been with my bf for 7 months now and we just got a place together..but before our relationship became official and a little after it was official he was the sweetest guy and so caring and now he always makes the comments like why dont you find a new boyfriend and why dont you go cheat on me so that i can break up with you. also...he gets pist off when i talk to an ex or they talk to me..and then he talks to all his ex girls and invites them over and if i were to do that then he would break up with me..etc. im just so hurt cuz i ilove him and i dont know what to do..so should i end it or what
2007-06-25 15:58:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Priority...get your own place.
Secondary...take a step back and look at what you just wrote...why would anyone want to be in that relationship. What a mess! Stop with the "cuz I love him" crap and get your own life back.
2007-06-25 16:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Flyer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Why dont you find a new boyfriend?" - I'm going to have to ask the same question he asked you. This relationship is headed nowhere, unless you're into the whole verbal abuse thing.
I wasted a little over four years with a guy I didn't have a good gut feeling about, and did so because I was convinced I loved him. When I stepped back and asked myself what "love" really meant to me, I found that the way I was being treated by him wasn't anywhere in my definition of it. Save yourself the four, seven, ten, or fifteen years that it takes some people to wake up, and get out now.
2007-06-25 23:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Darling... you need to lose this one. He's trying to get YOU to do something because he's not man enough to break up with you. He wants YOU to look like the bad guy. This guy is verbally and mentally ABUSING you. Don't allow this to go on any further! It will only get worse with time.
Time heals all wounds. You'll get over him sooner than you think. You deserve better and I can guaranty that there is someone out there that will treat you so much better. You deserve it. Good luck to you.
2007-06-28 14:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this guy won't be changing. He's jealous and will probably get mad once you have kids and you talk to the male teacher too long.
Get out now while you've only gained 7 months of experience iwth this jacka$$. Keep moving on and be okay being single first.
2007-06-29 14:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like the two of you belong together at all; you have nothing official, you are just shacking up, so it may be best to get your life back and move out.
2007-06-26 07:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how someone else handles relationships with ex's. You should both be on the same playing field. If he talks to his ex's then you should be able to talk to yours. If he doesn't like it and doesn't do it, then i wouldn't recommend it for you either. Try to communicate this with him. If he's not willing to communicate, then find a different boyfriend.
2007-06-25 23:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by zzzzzz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd break up with him and move out. You might love him but he doesn't love you. It'll hurt you more in the long run to stay with him than to get rid of him now.
2007-06-25 23:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good...really, what would you tell one of your friends if she was being treated like that by her BF? And you know what? If you love that guy, and this is how he returns your love, you'll think you died and went to heaven when you meet the man who truly knows how to love you, and adores you...that's the man to give your heart to...this guy sounds as if he doesn't deserve it.
2007-06-25 23:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a complete and total jerk. I would dump him and get it over with so it wont hurt as much in the end.
2007-06-25 23:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by katiebug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very childish & controlling. Leave. You WILL be happy with the right guy & he WILL come along & you will be so glad that you waited for him!
2007-06-26 01:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mary B In Chester 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋