Someone I know is very depressed and has suicidal thoughts?

Question

He never shows his feelings and he says he's incapable of feeling any emotion anymore. He said ever since he was little he used to pray to God and ask to die. He hates his parents and his parents don't understand how he is feeling, and he really wants to talk to someone but his parents won't take him seriously. He hasn't talked to anyone about this and I'd really like your advice. I also want to know what type of problem he might have.

He had a rough childhood and his father was abusive too.

Answer 1

Talk to the adults around you. Your parents, your teachers, the school counselor any adult you trust. The fact is that people who talk about suicide or wanting to die often DO kill themselves despite beliefs that people mistakenly hold that they won't if they are talking about it.

Keep talking with your friend. Ask the adults you trust how to go about helping. You have an important opportunity to help your friend.

Answer 2

I am depressed too and I have suicidal thoughts. But I am not going to call anyone, you know why? Because if I really was going to kill myself, I would have done it by now. and I've been having them intermittently for the last 7 years. And really, what are the people behind the phone going to do for you? Absolutely nothing. The best they can is to send you to a doctor and give you anti-depressants. But why would you want to take them? they cloud your mind and the truth. you "illness" is no more than the ailment of our society, only society can come up with the disease of depression. so i doubt you're really going to kill youself, if you were, you would have done it by now. so find a reason to live. I am choosing to think for myself freely and philosophize. you may choose different

Answer 3

Oh my.... what a burden to carry. Do you ever give your friend a friendly hug? I had a best friend once, who was depressed and had suicidal thoughts. She was my room mate for a year... before I moved to where I live now. At that point I didn't know anything about depression. I remember her crawling to my bed and asking for a hug at one point.... which was a hard thing to do because we had some issues with her not making her part of the rent payment on time among other problems. That same year my brother committed suicide and in his 17 pages diary it was clear that he had severe depression. I read so many books about depression following my bro's suicide. One of the books I read was about a psychologist, whose son committed suicide. She wrote about the aftermath, her thoughts... how she coped etc.... One thing you should know is that your knowledge about his severe depression needs to be known by everyone, who care about your friend. Go visit a pastor or priest and have him talk to the parents of your friend. My bro's best friend was the last to talk to him. He tried to encourage my bro to go play soccer with him that following Sunday. My bro committed suicide that Saturday evening..... meanwhile we had no idea what was going on with our beloved bro. His friend should have talked to one of us... somehow.

Answer 4

depression is probably what is going on. it sounds a bit of like what i went through when i was younger. I was put on a array of meds. and it took me a few years to get off of them. I do feel alot better than I did then but I still feel it sometimes. oh and on top of the meds. there was alot of counseling involved too. Hope he can make that step to help himself, it is NOT an easy step to make alone.

Answer 5

http://www.yellowribbon.org/

Read that website and report it.
He NEEDS your help.
If he trusts you enough to tell you he's having these thoughts then it's your responsibility to get him help, despite what his parents think or say. Good parents will help their children with things like this so PLEASE get him help since his parents won't.
Remember, his life may lie in your hands so if you don't get him help then it's going to be on your concious. Just do whatever it takes to get him talking to someone. There are programs out there that can help him even if his parents won't.

Answer 6

He clearly has depression and you should clearly see a guidance counselor or therapist with him weather he likes it or not. Tell him that if he wants to stop feeling like he does he needs to get help. Or tell him that if he goes he wont feel like he does anymore. Let him know you will go with him if he wants someone to go with and that you are ALWAYS there for him and always ready to talk when he wants too. Tell him to let it out and talk it out with someone he trusts.

Answer 7

Try to keep active, burn the extra energy inside. Healthy mind in healthy body. Run, play, swim, bike etc. find a sport you like. Forget about your parents if needed try to go live somewhere else with other relatives.

Answer 8

He is lonely. not being capable of feeling is his defence against all the pain he's bottled up and wont let out. He wont share everything with somone untill he trusts them and he wont trust anyone untill he can feel them. it is the story of my life. I was helped in an unsuspecting way though. somone that I cared for expressed their feelings for me and made me open up to a relationship. and although this person was not the best person for me she made it possible for me to open up to letting people in and allowed me to tell SOMEONE how I felt about the world. I also found that poetry and lyrics let me say what I was trying to say without saying it and it still got out. encourage him to write and listen closely for clues. never criticise what he sais in them they are his raw emotions and fiinaly accept him for who he is and dont try to change him because it sounds like you'll be the first and tell him that you do accept him for who he is because hes looking for someone to trust he just needs to know he wont be a burden.

Answer 9

There are mental health hotlines in every city in the US--get him to call--- it is completely PRIVATE--they will not call his parents or even let on that he called--he will need to see a psychiatrist and get medical treatment---all can be done confidentially---get him to call soon---he sounds really on the edge---and any time you wait to get him to help can be too long if he decides to act upon his feelings...........good luck to both of you, you are a good friend to try to help him.......please call for him if he won't they can advise you on how to get him help.

Answer 10

See suicidal thoughts and depression at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) on pages 5 and 2; copy/print relevant parts, and give to him, or refer him direct. View www.drdrew.com He has insulated himself from his emotions, as a way of preventing himself from being hurt further, and should seek psychotherapy.