I hate those aqward silent moments with the girl im tryin to go out with. Im just lookin for sum help to put the ball more in her court.
2007-06-25 15:09:09 · 14 answers · asked by Benjamin P 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If the chemistry is right, you shouldn't have to worry about any awkward moments. Either there will be none, and if there are, they shouldn't be awkward. Otherwise, keep asking her about herself. Her family, hobbies, pets, the music she likes, her goals, food, etc. I hope you can find someone on your level in every way. :)
2007-06-25 15:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something else that women...or I, like in a man is how much of a gentleman he is. I like him to open doors for me, or pull out my chair or have flowers at the table when we go out. I also like him to sound interested in me, what I like and my goals and interests and not talk about himself all the time. I don't mind him talking about himself part of the time, as that as how we learn about each other, but I don't want him to take over the conversation and talk about himself the whole time either, that does not show me that he cares anything about me. If she works (if you know she works you probably already know where) then ask her what she does at work. If she has kids (I am not sure how old you are, but if you are older she might have kids) ask her about her kids, that way she will know that you aren't afraid of them, or the fact that if you do get into a relationship that you aren't afraid of being a father figure. You can also talk about the weather or what is going on in the world and stuff like this if she is interested in this sort of thing, find out what she is interested in before starting this sort of conversation, you don't want to bore her to death either, especially not on the first few dates. ;) I hope this helps.
2007-06-25 15:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by pixeydust77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with pixie dust. It's not about a man doing monologues about himself. I 've had enough of one-sided conversations, where it's all about MeMeMe and what I do and how I feel & how smart I am blah blah blah and when you finish your conversation, they don't know a thing about you because they weren't listening. Yes, being a gentleman and being truly interested in the girl is much better than just trying to impress her with your intelligence. She prob. already knows a lot of smart people, but when she's with you, she wants interested, courteous company on a social playing field. Didn't mean to make it so long, but it's one of my pet peeves. Very annoying. And say, guy, what's wrong with silence? Haven't you heard it's *golden?*
2007-06-25 16:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son, either you are intelligent or you aren't.
Here is the secret.
You have two ears and one mouth. That means that you are supposed to listen twice as much as you talk.
Second, keep the conversation in things that you know a lot about.
Third, if you can't dazzle them with your intelligence, confuse them with BS. (and they will find you out sooner or later) Good luck. Pops
2007-06-25 15:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pops 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Continue to ask questions here....or try to do a bit of reading...No really, Intelligence is not something you can improve. It is a person ability to learn, not a measure of what they have learned.. You either are a mensa member(me) or not....It really is a matter of Have or Have not!
2007-06-28 07:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by elektricklad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the paper. So you can talk about current events. Read everything you can get your hands on, so you can know about various things. Find out what she likes and ask her about those things. Believe me *smile* a girl will love to talk about her favorite subjects!
2007-06-25 17:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, learn to spell better. ;) (No, I jest - that won't help you in everyday conversation.)
Conversation-fillers have nothing to do with intelligence, and in fact, less intelligent people might just talk more... What women are really looking for is maturity, which has nothing to do with what grades you got in college.
2007-06-25 15:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you showed spell correctly. Start reading Non Fiction. Anything. Go with your interests.
2007-06-25 15:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by get dent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Extend your vocabulary, read, keep up with current events and form an opinion on them, spell "awkward" and "some" correctly etc.
2007-06-26 16:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by Keyring 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1) Proofread your question
2007-06-25 16:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by hulidoshi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋