She works as a secretary at my job she likes to joke but does not like it when Someone kids back shes nosey and paranoid she thinks people are talking about her all the time if you tell her to leave you alone she gets offended if she doesnt get to join the group but then she getsoffended by our language we are in construction.what shouldi do.
2007-06-25 14:26:12 · 12 answers · asked by MIKE l 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I work around someone somewhat like this. If my friends and I are talking to each other she always has to put her nose in where it doesn't belong. Most of us just ignore her, but there is one inpaticular that it really irks. But she keeps it quite and normally doesn't say anything too rude to her. I would just tell her NICELY what you think and how you feel and tell her why you try to avoid her and why she doesn't get to join the group, but remember to do it nicely. (Pick the nicest one in the group. LOL) If that doesn't work, avoid her altogether. If you and your pals see her coming just walk the other way, or in seperate directions if you have to so she doesn't feel too bad.
2007-06-25 14:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by pixeydust77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, don't do those things around her, when she and you are "on duty", like in the office, or supposed to be working . Be nice, polite, brief, and to the point. Don't joke or mess around, keep your language clean. Do not feed her paranoia, step out of ear range before you speak to whoever is with you.
If you are on a break or lunch, and away from bosses and clients, it is probably OK to talk with a few expeletives. If she does not like it, she has the option to leave. See my last statement.
What you do in the office, or during actual worktime, and what you do on break should be two different things.
But as you said, she might be one to tattle, so be careful. And I had a job a few years back where your behavior at lunch was monitored, and people got called on the carpet for being loud, or talking about things that were not percieved as being polite. This was in a non-client, non -boss area.
So, just watch your back, and don't be surprised if a boss wanders by the lunch area one day and tells you to cool the langauage, or change the topic.
And try to be a little kind to her, she is a lady, and it will not kill you to not discuss female anatomy at lunch when she is present, even a big strong construction guy should be able to be a little sensitive to her feelings.
2007-06-26 03:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that she is more conservative than the rest of you? She may like to kid but everyone elses kidding is maybe too "off color" for her and that may be why she acts offended.
If she is older than she should have learned get used to this. I am fairly conservative but do not get offended when co-workers use bad language because it is not my business. If a group is too "off color" for me then I am just friendly but do not join in the kidding around.
I would just be yourselves and if this woman does get offended then maybe she will leave you all alone.
2007-06-25 16:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing you told us write it in a letter with an open heart in mind and sign it anonymous.
If you're writing this letter than people are talking about her but if you let her know why people are talking about her maybe she will change her attitude on the job.
Even if she ask you her honest opinion about the letter and if you think it's true be honest to her and worry about her feelings later.
Deep down inside nobody likes a liar I know I dont.
2007-06-25 14:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by justusmiangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of so, it is form of a nerve certainly, and while somebody provides a occasion for 3 year olds they might a minimum of serve sandwiches. Potluck is super once you have an casual occasion of buddies or kin, yet to ask human beings to a occasion and lead them to convey foodstuff is slightly a lot, IMO. i does not go, i could make an excuse esp the area and the gasoline.
2016-09-28 11:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a nosey old bat who needs to get a life of her own. No offense.
2007-06-25 14:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Judy W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Mike. She sounds as though she has been around a while.
You young whipper snappers are probably driving her crazy, yeah?
Probably a "wee bit' too much, I think.
Relax, she is someone's mom, okay, leave her alone.
2007-06-25 16:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. She sounds like the type to get over offended about something stupid and complain to HR. Just be really nice around her and go about your business.
2007-06-25 14:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by 2Jaded 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey maybe since she is older she is insecure about her job. Maybe she thinks a younger person is trying to take her place. I'd just try to include her as much as possible, but I wouldn't tease her.
2007-06-25 14:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you the best of luck. Any advice you get here will probably be the wrong kind.
2007-06-25 14:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋