Anyone out there feel like they have tried in love and romance so many times and failed, crashed and burned, and been used so much that you are broke inside? Like you can't feel anymore? Like you've given all that your heart can give and now there is nothing left to give? Is it that I have tried too many times with the wrong people or is it that there is something wrong with me? I believe it is something in me. I am the only common denominator in all the bad equasions. I've tried to figure it out but since my last relationship I feel like I'm all used up and I just don't want to keep failing anymore. Am I alone on this?
2007-06-25 14:21:04 · 8 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason your relationships do not work out is because they are not meant to be . It has nothing to do with your ability to love, be loved and to lose your heart for a woman's love. Your problem is that you are so desperate for true love that you mistake the girls you meet for the woman you will marry. Their passion cannot equal yours because their heart still searches for their own true love and you are not it, Does your heart break because you loved them or because you believe you have failed again? If it is because of failure that you grieve then you mistake your feelings as being love and are robbing yourself of the joy of true and complete love. You need to listen to the voice of truth that tells you that you are not alone and that you are his grand creation. Do not ever stop trying because out there, somewhere is your soulmate. She will approach you and make you feel like you have taken a drink of cool water on a scorching day. In those days you will thank God in heaven that you did not try to make something out of nothing with all those other chicks or else you would not be free for her. I do not know you, but I will pray for you that you will find complete love with your soulmate soon. God Bless you, you are not used up and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you!!
2007-06-25 14:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Chris, you're not alone.
If I was you, I'd try getting the guys together, and going bowling, playing basketball, starting a band (if you aren't already in one), ... just whatever you and your friends do for fun. And I would try not to think about girls for, maybe two or three months. Then after that see if you can get another girlfriend.
While staying away from the girls for a few months, try to get a better feel for yourself - who you are, and what you like. And when you get ready to seek another girlfriend, keep in mind the things that you have noticed or learned about yourself, and hopefully you'll choose someone who's, maybe, more compatible with you than girlfriends that you've had in the past.
Good luck! I know there's a girl out there for you. You probably just need to sort an issue or two out, and get to know yourself, and your own likes and dislikes better, so you can choose potential girlfriends better.
2007-06-25 21:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by billyrayhombre09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not alone. i also felt like that few months ago. i feel like I've been used up because I'm so exhausted in my relationship with my bf. i gave all i can for him and guess what he did? he dumped me. but I'm all right now. it's alright if you feel like that for now. take your time in mending your heart. don't commit yourself for sometime until you are really ready. make lots of friends with both guys and girls. meet a lot of people. do things you've never done before and those you've always wanted to do. make time for yourself. enjoy your being single and you will be fine. someday you'll find someone for you and will make you extremely happy and satisfied.
2007-06-25 21:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I know the feeling and became almost animal like in my emotions. Time and trying to feel good again is extremely difficult. I went through so many women just trying to feel anything. I kept three or four on line every week just to exist hard and keen. No solution it just has to wear off and it took years for my mine to pass.
2007-06-25 21:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by t_bone3003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the time...
2007-06-25 21:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grr I feel the same way man...I think there are many people who feel like the way we do but they are too scared to tell anyone because they think they would be considered "weak" but i think its natural....its terrible and it hurts inside but natural
2007-06-25 21:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by T-unit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not alone , there is nothing wrong with you please dont get depressed,its hard not to but just hang on ,
2007-06-25 21:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by freeflow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I know I've been there.
2007-06-25 21:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋