I cheated on my BF, fell in love with the other man, dated both of them for awhile. I couldn't bring myself to break up with my original BF and now the 2nd man has left me. He is the man I am completely in love with and can see myself with for many, many years, but now he is gone. I'm stil with my first BF, but I just don't think I love him like I should. How do you know? I'm so heartbroken and confused. I know I have brought this all on myself. Now do I get married to him because he is a good guy and I am comfortable with him? How do you know when you are ready to marry someone? Has anyone gotten married with doubts?
2007-06-25 13:54:46 · 11 answers · asked by me m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
break up with the first and try to convince the other one that he is for you and that you love him more and you know that because you have no doubts about him
2007-06-25 13:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry someone that you can not completely give your heart to, it will just end in disaster. Break it off with him. Explain to him that you and he are not made for each other, and in the long run it will be best for the both of you. Contact the other guy, explain your self, ask for his forgiveness and tell him that you understand completely if he does not want to accept you back and you know that he needs time, let him know that he is the one and only that you want to be with, but you need to tell him how you feel 100% do not hold back. GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-25 21:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by CC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!! that sucks for ur first u shud never cheat on someone no matter what the circumstance!!!!! its not fair at all and if u were really mature u wudda told ur ex that u dont have feelings for him anymore! and yea ur right u did bring this upon urself u shud never cheat cuz 100% of the time u get caught plus sumthing bad happens to u 10 times worse! which in ur case u lost the true man u love now u have to explain this to ur first one! and he might even break up with u as well then guess what??? UR ALL ALONE!!!!!! pray to god to give u an answer!
2007-06-25 20:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT MARRY HIM!!! Comfort is not a good reason to marry anyone. You should learn to be by yourself for a while..then start dating again. You are using your current bf as a crush and that's not good for either of you. I hope things work out. Good luck.
2007-06-25 21:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by deborah g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do NOT get married just because you are comfortable with the guy. you'll always find someone else to cheat on him with and both of your lives will be living jell. you are not ready for a committed relationship. do the world a favor and figure your shite out before you hook up with someone else.
2007-06-25 21:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by moodymomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that all ppl get married with doubts its called cold feet. But i mean if u don't love ur bf than don't go out with him anymore. i think its time for u to be single for a bit to get to know you, If either one of the guys are really ment to be than they would be back.
2007-06-25 20:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't even touch the cheating part. No point in that.
But I will say that if you have the slightest bit of doubt, don't get married.
2007-06-25 21:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by DragonOpinion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont deserve him, dont play this high and mighty game with me. You cheat on him and now your having a cry about having to break up with him. Your kind of female is the worst.
Dont worry, soon you will be with some idiot guy who beats up on you because you wanted something more fun, females can be stupid like that!
2007-06-25 20:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think you should marry him. you stated you were confussed and broken hearted, so right now your emotions and thoughts are crazy. honestly, i don't think it's fair for you to let your bf think you're only dating him. you just need time to clear your head.
2007-06-25 21:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by fubar_09074 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most do doubt! don't get married for those reasons, you'll hate it later!
2007-06-25 20:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋