here's the deal... my bf left today for 2 weeks vacation to visit his family far away. We live together and he asked me to move his car into the garage if it was going to rain cause he just waxed it. Of course, like an hour later, it starts pouring so I go to move the car. I notice a brown paper bag on the seat and look inside and there is a 3 pack of trojan condoms in there with 2 missing out of the box. I called him right away to ask about them and he said that about 4 months ago, when we were apart, he bought them but he never used them. He said it wasn't for anyone in particular but just in case something happened. He said that he also doesn't remember what happened to the two condoms he took out of the box. He thinks they're still in the car somewhere but I searched & they're not. The funny thing is that the condoms exp. date is 2/2012 which seems to me like they'd be pretty new. Now he says he's mad that I went through his stuff too and not speaking to me at all. Opinions please
2007-06-25 13:52:12 · 32 answers · asked by goddessgirl917 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, for the guy who asked the questions:
Yes we do sleep together and have been together for 8 years so i am on the pill and we do not use condoms ever so I know they wouldn't have been for me.
2007-06-25 14:35:05 · update #1
It is not possible to control someone else's behavior.
It seems that his answers were satisfactory. If he was trying to hide something from you, you wouldn't have his car keys. If he were a cad, he wouldn't think about using protection when you two were apart.
Give it a rest, apologize for being suspicious, and find a really nice outfit to wear upon his return.
2007-06-25 13:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You really don't need all of us to tell you what is going on. Condoms do not generally get out of a box and disappear. When is the last time you were in his car? Was the bag on the seat then?
Most guys wouldn't need to try to remember where they went, either.
Sorry, sounds like he cheated, now you have to decide if you can still trust him or not. If he did cheat, thank goodness he was intelligent enough to use a condom.
He is only mad, because he is mad at himself for getting caught. He is the one that asked you to move his car into the garage, and if you hadn't you wouldn't have known.
Good luck.
2007-06-25 14:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oppinions on here will be just that. Guess's to yes or no. At this point you have the choice to beleive your boyfriend and apologise for accusing or Jump to conclusions and beleive he did the dirty.
Really that is suspicious but not exactly proof. I've bought many a pack of condoms and mates have stolen a couple or We've used them as baloons or anything. This is really something that cannot be answered on yahoo, B'cause only your man will know the truth.
2007-06-25 13:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if a guy is mad because you are coming to him and questioning him instead of just jumping the gun.. then yeah he is cheating on you.. if they were from a few months ago when you guys were seperated wouldn't he have told you, hey yeah sorry I have some condoms in my car that I got.. you know he would have been up front and honest with you.. if they get mad it is because they are hiding something. Him not speaking to you now is the icing on the cake..
2007-06-25 13:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all he is the one that asked you into the car. it is not like you went snooping. and since the two of you live together anyway, that is not going through his stuff. it could have been something that was perishable and just imagine the smell after two weeks.
second of all, men take us women for complete idiots. i'm telling you right now that you don't conveniently forget what happened to them. or is it that he forgets who? if he did not do anything wrong, then why is he so upset at you. he knows that he is caught and will try to put all the blame on you.
third, what is your gut instinct. i can tell you that there really is
a thing called womens tuition. so you tell me, has he cheated?
2007-06-25 14:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by deprived46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was the bag on the seat or did you go thru his stuff? He told you to move the car so he would have known you were going to be in it. Sounds like you went thru his car when he left town and he is now busted.
If you have to ask on here, you already know the answer. I'm sorry. Something like that is never easy.
2007-06-25 13:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you. Do the math. 3 condoms in a box. 2 are missing.
2007-06-25 13:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he did, but he probably is very afraid of the consequences (i.e., the angry argument). Cheating isn't necessarily just a sign of unfaithfulness - it could just be a sign of immaturity. If he isn't ready to be in a committed relationship then he needs to grow up fast or you shouldn't be together.
2007-06-25 14:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by deejinthecity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say ....but i think he has been around. The story he told you is very obviously a big FAT LIE!!!! As a third person and an outsider....its so evident hes made this bullshit story up!!!!
If he can prove his innocence then its a different issue!!!! But how can he and will he???
I tell you....men are so full of ****.........i was in your place once b4 and i knew my gut was right and he was wrong!!!!
Good luck....i hope for your sake...hes telling the truth!!!!
2007-06-25 14:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by GenuineGemini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but the numbers add up don't they? You must realise that he's doin' somebody else. If you like, take the batch number off of the box, ring trojan and ask when they were manufactured/delivered. Then you can tell if he really is lying.
2007-06-25 13:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋