a friend of mine just broke up with her boyfriend i like her more then a friend should I tell her how I feel?

Question

when should I tell her? how should I?

Answer 1

why oh why! would you choose right after she broke up with her boyfriend to tell her you have sexual feelings for her!
i mean do you want to be mrs. rebound
she will make up with him and leave you looking salty.

Answer 2

Hun, stay away from the subject for a while until you're sure that she's over her last relationship. I've seriously had that happen to me a few months ago. I broke up with my b/f and a couple of days later one of my friends asked me out. Not only did it create tension between us but it could ulitmately ruin a friendship. We're still friends but that's because both of us believe that it's not really something to lose a friendship over. Others don't. It could also send her a red flag because most girls, if asked out right after a break-up, will believe the guy to want nothing more than to bed them and then move on. Either way you won't be putting yourself into a good situation.

What you should do for now is just be there for her and help her through this time. She is probably too emotional at the moment to even think about another relationship and just wants her friends there to support her. Not make this more difficult. Show her that you do care for her and that you will be there for her. With time she will move on and then you can let her know how you feel. Maybe take her out for a nice evening one night. But make sure that she is ready to hear this. Otherwise you could risk the friendship. All the best.

~*~firedhel~*~

Answer 3

Tell her you really are sorry to hear she broke up w/her b/f. Tell her you really care about her & if she'd like to talk to you or have a shoulder to lean on that your's is available. See what her reaction to that would be & pretty much judge just how far you should go at this particular time. She's gotta be hurting & confused, you don't want to take advantage of her bruised feelings too soon. She might not appreciate hearing just how much you care at this very moment. See how things go in the future. IF she does come to you at times, just see how her reactions are twds. you. I wouldn't try to force too much on her rite now tho. Just let her know you're there for her.

Answer 4

I am probably to old to be answering questions about love and romance but here goes anyway.

If you are willing to risk losing the friendship you have with this girl in the event she does not feel attracted to you, go for it. Who knows, she might be feeling the same thing but just doesn't know it yet.

If she is not attracted to you however, your future friendship will be in jeopardy as it may prove to be uncomfortable for both of you.

As to timing...anytime is the right time. Don't wait to long though or she may get involved with someone else and you will once again be on the outside looking in.

Answer 5

ok man i know how u feel. U want to tell her u like her, and get all sensitive n s*** but dats not the way to go. Dis will work though, call or talk to her and say "_____ i know how u feel and im not trying to rebound right now but u should come c a movie with me some time." her:"i duno i just got outta a relationship n blah blah blah" you: "hey im not trying to make a move, im just trying to help u out." thenif she says no she dont like u but if she says yes then u got a chance. tease her, mess with her but dont get emotional wit her. then if u get on the htird date u can b romantic and all sentimental u want but after that dont ,make it an ordinary thing. Do that randomly. good luck

Answer 6

When did you realize that you had feelings for her?If it is recently, you should have told her before the break-up with her boyfriend.Right now, I would advise you to support her through what is obviously a very difficult period for her ; and help her recover.Assuming that she doesn't get back together with her now ex, the door would be wide open for you.She would not forget how supportive you've been and that fact will help you immensely if she has feelings for you; something you will be able to find out during this period. Hang in there buddy.

Answer 7

you can drop hints now like you deserve to be treated SO much better. or you are so beutifull he is an a**hole. or what a jerk you are so talented and pretty he doesnt know what he is missing. not only will it drop hints but it will show her that you care about her (as a person) and that you are sweet enough to be there for her when she needs you most.
However now is NOT the time to ask her out. NO NO NO!! you should wait excpecailly if the relationship was like longer than a week she still has feelings for him no matter how many times she says she doesnt. and she is still hurt. She needs time to mend her broken heart but if you want date her be there for her now as a friend so she knows that you care about her as a friend and as a boy friend. I know I hate it when guys ONLY want to date you they dont give a flip if they are ever your friend as long as they get to makeout with you. Recpect her as a person not only as a girlfriend. that is the best advice I could ever give you.

when you do tell her (about a month or even two from now) say somthing like this you are an amazing person and a beautifull person we are really good friends and I like that but I wanted to let you know that I have feelings for you beyond that I dont want it to weird out our relationship if you dont feel the same way but I didnt want to never date you just because I was to scared to tell you. I dont want to miss the opotunity to date an amazing girl. or somthing more traditional like I have been meaning to tell you for a while now but I wanted to give you time to get over name but I have feelings for you not only as a friend but more than that and I was wondering if you did to? or somthing really traditonal i was wondering if maybe we could go to the movies somtime but not as friends as somthing a little more than that if that is alright with you?
hope this helped and good luck!

Answer 8

Nope - don't just come out and tell her. NO WAY!

She is probably still really raw from a fresh breakup. Be there, be attentive.. She is your friend first.

You can say things like - a guy would be crazy to not be head over heels with a girl like you - be on her side.

If she likes you that way - it will happen.. Chemistry is chemistry.

Good luck charmer :)

Answer 9

Don't tell her right away. She is upset and doesn't need anymore drama. Wait a while, and then tell her, if you want to risk ruining your friendship, or if you know she likes you tell her. But I think you should wait until she is over that person so it won't be awkward.

Answer 10

I would say wait for a while! She needs some time to get over him! When you think its the right time let her know how you feel!