Why is it that so many of you try to emulate the Prophet (PBUH) in every single way except in the treatment of women? Why do you let your culture take the lead when it comes to how your treat your wives and daughters? The Prophet (PBUH) cleaned his own mess, served himself his meals, helped with the housework that needed to be done, and never once said that it was the duty of a woman to cook and clean. The men of that time also cooked, and Abu Bakr would even teach other women that did not know how to cook. Why are you so able to pray the way he did, eat the way he did, and otherwise quote everything else, but ignore half of the deen? Do you think you are busier than him, who had the hardest duty of anybody by delivering the message and defending the ummah? And please don't give me that sorry excuse that you are only human, because you seem to excel in prayer so start excelling in how women are treated. What do you say?
2007-06-25 13:36:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Because a lot of them take advantage of the fact that the women they marry, are also raised to believe that it is her duty to serve the man. The problem is relevant in both cases, Some women are too afraid to speak out, and some don't even know that they don't have to go through all of this trouble. Also I think that, a lot of men explore other aspects of Islam more, and how to treat a woman less.
Recently in my college I had a "Education on Women in Islam: rights and privilages" seminar. More then half of the people there were sisters and the brothers were very few even though we had some great speakers.
But it is sisters like you who can voice out and speak on the behalf of everyone. There are very good brothers, who have lost their path regarding this matter.
Jazak Allah Khair
2007-06-25 13:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by ۩MoonLit Muslima۩ 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The Prophet Mohammed(pbuh) even said something to the effect that those who are best of men are the best to their wives. I would have to say that sometimes culture plays apart in how men will treat their women. I am fortunate, my husband is a very gentle man who helps me more then he has to.
2007-06-25 18:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by je 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back when I was Muslim, I thought the same way you did. I blamed everything on "culture", that it wasnt the "true" Islam to subjugate women. But once I became an apostate I researched Islam pretty extensively and found the reason women are treated so poorly is Islamic countries is no coincidence.
"The Prophet (PBUH) cleaned his own mess, served himself his meals, helped with the housework that needed to be done, and never once said that it was the duty of a woman to cook and clean."
-Was this from the first period of his life (10 years of prophethood)? Could you please cite your sources? Because I can show you that Muhammad had his slaves, like Anjasha, to do all his work. Its recorded in the Hadiths of Sahih Bukhari, Sirat Rasullulah and the al-tabari.
But anyhow, we need more women speaking out against this kind of stuff. So, I commend your efforts, peace out and I hope you well.
2007-06-25 13:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
What ever is to be said has been already said by you.
I only have to say this thing that those Muslim males who do not follow our beloved Prophet in these ways, are ignorant of this aspect of Islamic equality of men and women. What Islam teaches us is to treat our women as we would treat ourselves.
2007-06-26 04:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by bakhan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank you so much for pointing that out. You are so right, men do take advantage of women sometimes, and forget that the good treatment of women is very important in Islam. And God knows best.
2007-06-25 14:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by ♥IslamForever♥ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sister, those men you are talking about are highly affected by culture. In many Muslim cultures if a man helps his wife cooking, cleaning .... etc, people think of him as he is less of a man. These people choose to please the people while forgetting that this does not please Allah or his prophet.
2007-06-25 17:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by Red Dragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alhumdu Allah I have found such a man. He cooks, cleans, and helps with the children.
Inshallah all men will learn they are to love and respect their women
2007-06-25 16:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Said 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.
Muhammad (PBUH) treated his wives very well.
Now a days lot muslim men fight with their wive. But we should remember this was not his teaching.
2007-06-25 13:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by SuperB 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you're very top sister. could Allah supply all human beings, awareness and taufiq to income from existence of our liked Prophet (pbuh) and Ashaba Ajmaeen (rua), Amen. Jazak Allah Khair.
2016-10-03 03:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is not that religious... but he does help around in the house... (just between you and me... he washes the dishes... n cooks n everything :D ... shoosh... don't tell anyone :D)...
I just wanted to say... thank God for such a good hubby :D
BTW... your question gets a star from me :)
2007-06-25 14:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋