I am very depressed for no good reason but can't see the point of life?

Question

I'm 28 and very depressed. I don't enjoy life. Nothing really bad has happened to me so I don't feel like i have an excuse.
I dont enjoy anything. I don't like sex and i'm not even enjoying things I used to. I'm bored in my job but I don't like anything enough to decide what else to do. I earn a lot of money but I don't even care. I eat without thinking and do lots of exercise as its the only thing i can do. I'm not good at anything and I never learn from my mistakes. I have no motivation to do anything. I have tried anti-depressants and counselling and I understand everything they are saying but I don't get how to make my life better. I don't know how to stand up for myself and I do things because other people tell me to. I feel like i'm waiting for something to happen because i don't know how to do anything for myself. I want an instant result. I cannot wait any longer. I feel like i'm going mad sometimes and other times i just dont want to be here. HELP ME PLEASE

Answer 1

Hi!
You've tried anti-depressants?
Are you still on them?
I would keep trying until you find one that fits.
But you have to make other changes in your life. The anti-depressants won't fix it all.
The gal that posted right before me hit the nail on the head!
Increase your B vitamins, drink lots of water, exercise(sounds lame but IT WORKS).
Also increase your fruit and vegetable intake.
It worked for me.
I still get down, but with the meds and the lifestyle change I'm not all like, "Why bother, we're just gonna die anyway".
Hope
Hope
Hope
We always have hope.
Google "Five foods that help fight depression".
NEVER GIVE UP HOPE.
Peace to you tonight friend.
D

Answer 2

There are lots of reasons to continue into the future. Try try try real hard that it's your depression that's doing most of the talking here. When a person's brain is depressed, it makes them feel this way. You are not alone. I know tons of people personally who feel this way. My good, good friend who is incredibly intelligent, the warmest, nicest person you'd ever want to meet, excellent communicator, interesting person has suffered from major depression for years. She has been in a hospital twice in her life. You'd never guess she has depression. She is on Welbutrin. For her, this med works. Are you or have you been on medication therapy? There are lots of them available. Sometimes it's like a puzzle to find the right one for you that does the job and doesn't give you nasty side effects or one that you can ween yourself on slowly so you can get used to the side effects which in most cases go away anyway. If you haven't tried any, or tried one or two and they failed, try again. Get hooked up with a good psych doctor for this. Not a regular doctor - a nice psych doctor. Some people have a problem with having to take medication. What I say is "Big freaking deal". If popping a pill everyday makes you feel the way you deserve to feel - without that black cloud over your head, then that pill is your friend, and I would view it as such. Nothing weird or strange about that. If you had acid reflux disease, would you feel badly about taking medicine for that? Try to remember anything in your life that you enjoyed or made you feel good even if it was for a few seconds. I don't care what it is or was. Could be some ridiculous TV show or video game or a book, a situation, something somebody said in your past that was funny. Think back. Know that you can get back to that feeling again and that you will eventually. Force yourself to think this. You tried therapy for a year and half. That's not long at all. And just like with the medicine, you may to use a trial and error approach - different therapists. They are not all the same. Find one that clicks with you. If you are biologically depressed (your brain is), my opinion is that all the therapy in the world might help with how you have psychologically dealt with the biology of being depressed but it's not going to change the root of the problem. My opinion is that in most cases, a person who is clinically depressed (not somebody who has the blues cuz we all do from time to time) who uses only therapy with no medication is like trying to ice skate in quick sand. Faith is an underrated word. I'm not talking religion either. Just plain old faith. I feel for ya man. Please hang in there okay?

Answer 3

Sadly, there is no instant result. I wish there were. Right now I'm kinda going through the same thing you are.
Find something that makes you happy, and something you enjoy.
When you say that you don't get how to make your life better, that's a lie. I've said that to myself so many times, and finally I realized the reason I was saying that was because I didn't want my life to get any better.
I was so used to the low that I felt all the time. The moods of happiness were unfamiliar, and they were outside the wall that I had built around myself.
You have to learn how to break down that wall. Though the first step is wanting to break the barrier. The medicine only helps the chemicals. The rest is up to you.

Answer 4

Helo I'm 29 and going to be 30 In acouple of weeks and I have major deppersion and been down the exact road Maybe wrose and the only advice I can give you is to look at the situation that is hurting you maybe its being alone and not having someone to share your life with that was alot of my problem and then I just decided to say why wast my time worring abut what I don't have or what I want and cant get and just find somthing to foces on like the computer or group sessions with people that feel the same way if you look at the site were on know youll find that there is alot of people that you might be abel to email or chat with to make oneanother relize its ok to feel this way but its not worth dwelling on it. No matter women or man were all humans and we all have the same fellings and maybe it would help.

Answer 5

Bridget, where to start? First of all, I've been in
your shoes, so you have a brother. I've been
depressed and anxious with no real reason to be
either one.
Don't make any major decisions in this state, OK?
Continue with your excercise----- that's excellent!
Whether or not you realize it, you are good at
something. You get paid well by your employer,
right? You must be valuable to him or her.
You can learn from your mistakes, starting now.
Seek advice from someone you trust & respect
before you decide to do something.
Stand up for yourself when you think you have
been wronged. Don't be bitchy, just assertive.
Do you want to be walked on the rest of your life?
Try to be your own person------ make your own
decisions, with advice.
My advice to you is, get a complete physical, with
a complete blood test, and a full thyroid profile.
This is a good start.
I believe your problem to be physical in nature.
I want to help you, but I need some effort on your part, OK ?
I would like to know how you are doing----- e-mail
me if you wish, OK?

Answer 6

I went through something quite similar to this at 28. Did you know that 28 is the age at which your cells start degenerating at a faster rate than they replicate? It makes your brain think differently. There are many adaptations that must be made. Let me simply remind you that a big, big point in life is to grow old and wise. It's not easy. Your brain tries to fool you . It's your mind you must direct. That is done by exercising your will. So, what do you intend to do? I can recommend some great instructional books if you'd like. What you need is fire in your belly, fire in your heart, and fire in your mind.

Answer 7

Maybe you need a new therapist. Unfortunately there is no way to tell what meds are right for what person, it is a trial and error process. I think I tried 3 or 4 different ones before I found what aorked for me. If your therapist is not trying this for you-you need to find a new therapist. Also, have you tried journaling?

Answer 8

Have your doctor to give you a blood test. You most probably have lack of B6, B12 and Iron. Lack of these vitamins in body, increases depression and the things you explained above.
Do a lot of exercise. Try yoga. eat well and keep yourself busy.
Hopefully you'll start liking life again.
Best wishes,
GG

Answer 9

What is it in life that you are really worried about?? Have you thought of talkin to one of your closest friend or taking a vacation, it could help you see another perspective of life because it's not so bad out there...If you really want to make your life enjoyable and interesting, then there is only one thing for you to do....CHANGE IT...!! Nothing will happen if you don't make it happen...!

Answer 10

You need to go see a doctor and get some depression meds. You are too young to be upset, live life to the fullest you only get one you know. Talk to a doc. or friends and do things that you enjoy. Life is too short not to love it.