My baby is due in two weeks, and I am considering not having my partner at the birth, not to be a *****, but I dont think he really loves or cares about me, he wants the baby but not me. I Know even though he says he wouldn't, would make jokes about how I look during the birth, and I dont think he would be very good support for me.
The other thing is he has to tell his friends and his mother every single detail of our realtionship, and I dont want his friends and family being filled in on every embarrassing detail about me giving birth, I know he would do it too.
We have been having lots of problems and to shorten things i'm just going to say he treats me like crap, he's threatened to give me black eyes etc, I dont think he serious but I really dont know with him, when ever we fight he turns everything into my fault and I actualy strat to believe it is, I'm not even allowed to ask him to put the milk back in the fridge once he's done without him starting a fight.
2007-06-25 13:06:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Anyway, I want to be in labour and be able to be in pain and deal with it, without having it used against me later, I would rather be alone.
What should I do? Should I have him there? Maybe he will be good to have around, I dont know.
2007-06-25 13:08:12 · update #1
It sounds to me that you are in the beginning of an abusive relationship. He is already mentally abusing you. He also sounds very controlling.You mentioned that he threatened to give you a black eye. Well he just might go through and make that threat a promise. You don't need to be with him if he treats you like crap. You deserve to be treated like a queen. All true women deserve that. A true man deserves to be treated like a king. How can you treat him as a king if you don't respect him? I don't blame you for not respecting him either because he is not acting like a real man. A real man does not treat any woman like crap. If you don't want him in the room with you when you deliver, than you don't have to have him there. He can just stay in the lobby. After you have to baby he can spend time and bond with the baby. When you get home from the hospital he needs to be gone. He can still have a relationship with his child without being with you. You deserve somebody better than him. Be careful though, all of the violence against pregnant women concerns me. Get with you family and friends so they can help you get out of this abusive relationship. I hope I helped. Good luck and congrats on you impeding bundle of joy.
2007-06-25 13:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by kwaniar513 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This could be what straightens him out u no. He might realize what he has done to really hurt ur feelings. But if you feel that u reallly dont want him there than dont. I mean either go to ur moms house and stay there and when the baby comes don't tell him that ur going to the hospital.
2007-06-25 20:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
there's no law that say's he has to be with you when you give birth. tell him and the nurses so there is no problem when the time comes.i wouldn't want that guy in my life at all.
2007-06-25 20:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt be there nor in your life. Dont let him put a hand on you again! Imagine what he can do to your baby if "he thinks its not his"? Please move from that place and start a new life with your baby. Congrats !!
2007-06-25 20:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Marquel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY should he be in there. Giving birth is a wonderful beautiful experience. If he is gonna be a jackass (and you know he will) then dont tell him when your in labor.
2007-06-25 20:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
break up with him. neither you or ur baby need him around.
2007-06-25 20:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by ~T'sGirl~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋