How can I attract girls?

Question

I've never had a girlfriend in my life. It's pretty low, i know. NO ONE has ever had an interest in me. If i do, it's too late. I've moved to a different state where no one knows me. I'm very skinny (5'9 112 lbs) and no matter what i do, i can't gain weight/muscle. Of course, i'm not very good looking; and my self esteem is really low. I'm not very shallow either. I also don't like myself because i can never measure up to anyone. What can i do? I feel like i've tried everything!!!

Answer 1

Girls like guys that have HIGH self esteem. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with another person. There are tons of girls that like tall skinny guys. Go out and buy some new clothes that you feel you look good in, be confident, be a gentleman (open doors, compliment a lady...) Walk with your head held high, don't look at the ground (you're probably missing out on a some eye contact from the girlies and you don't even know it!) Good luck!

Answer 2

It's not low to not have had a girlfriend. You probably just haven't met the right person for you. What you need to work on is self esteem. It's hard to have it when you don't like the way you look or act, etc., but even if you just act confident you'll have more base feelings of confidence. Don't worry about being wicked skinny. Not all girls like really muscley men; we don't mind if you're kind of lanky. Just be yourself and don't worry about saying or doing the "right" thing-- if some girl doesn't take the time to get to know you and writes you off for a lame reason then just forget about her because she's not worth it.

Answer 3

If you want to help tone your body, swimming laps is perfect, even for those who cant gain weight, you can get toned, and maybe even pack on some weight. You should try and find the things you are good at, and concentrate on them. Confidence is a HUGE plus! If you believe in yourself, you will be suprised how the girls will react positively. Control the things you can, and try and let the things that you cant go. Unfortunatly appearence is a big issue for the younger crowd, but that doesn't mean that it is the number one reason people are attracted to others. Maybe make a list of things you can do to help you feel more confident, and meet new people. Work on yourself, and you will see all the good things that will come. Good luck, just keep your head up high, and power through it

Answer 4

Who needs to attract girls when you have money :). j/k.
You may have a simmilar problem to me, your self esteem is low now causing you to think you have no chance with females, then your body language acts as if this is the truth girls pick up on it and you dont attract them.

Eventually you will pritty much give up on it, and accept it. But before you do stop bashing yourself up over this. Ask a female friend, looks isnt the only thing they go for. Some of the ugliest guys are players because they know the game. They know that being confident in yourself is better then the sexyness, and that its not always about these things

Answer 5

STEP ONE

Don't judge yourself on others. I used to spend all day thinking "she has better boobs than me.... she is soo much skinnier... oh her complexion is great..." and getting really down on myslef. No girl (or guy) likes that. Imagine if you had a girlfriend who did nothing but rag on themselves. Point out good features in your personality. If you like a girl, start a conversation.

Example

You: "What did you think of Karen's party? Everyone was so out of it by eight, I just went home. It kinda sucked."

Her (option One): "Yea, whatever." This means she dosen't like you, or is just mean.

Her (option Two): "I know! It was so bogus, I'm suprised anyone stayed." This means she thinks you're OK or that she likes you. Keep talking to her.

RELAX!!!!!


Also, this is another mistake:

You "Do you want to go out with me?"

try this

"Hey, want to get some ice cream some time? I hear the Mint ChocoChip and Ben's is great!"

It will come. Trust me, and if you need more help, feel free to email me.

Answer 6

no you havent. you're lacking the one thing girls look for most, they dont even know there are looking for this but trust me this in the number one thing they want...CONFIDENCE. even the nastiest, ugliest guy will get a super hot girl if he has confidence. i have 3 friends that proved me right on this. they are not good looking at all and they'll be be first to say so, but each of them is extremely confident to the point of almost ********* and they all have hot girls and girls hit on them all the time. me i'm good looking and dont have the confidence they have but i still have a hot girl cause i do have confidience and i'm good looking. for you i'd say hit the gym 5-6 days a week hard and gain some confidence. in about a year, you'll be getting any girl you want.

Answer 7

I've never had a girlfriend either. Just bcs i don't really need one right now...

However, MOST girls, the ones that are true to heart, do not care about looks, they care about whats on the inside. Keep your chin up. If you don't have a high self esteem, girls will see that and become less attracted to you. Like yourself for who you are, and that girl will love you for who you are. Be yourself!

hope this helps!

:D

Answer 8

ive never had a boyfriend...
im 5' 7'' and 134 lbs and people tell me that im thin, so wow you must be just emaciated looking. im sorry. i think it would be good for you to try those large muscle building protien concoctions they sell at GNC. how old are you? im 20. i heard low self confidence is the worst thing you could have when it comes to dating. i know its hard... i have poor self confidence as well. sometimes i write 'stupid' in ink on myself or 'fat' on my stomach. i hate myself and a lot of times i want to die. i think THIS is whats making me not have a boyfriend and not the fact that i look bad. my friends who i think have looks and personalities on par with mine all have boyfriends, and people i meet are always shocked that im so asexual. its just the low self confidence, i swear! but theres nothing you can do about it! its just another reason to hate yourself..

Answer 9

well do push ups everyday like 10 reps 10 sets and start from there that will build your esteem and confidence i tried and it worked. after you got the confidence you will approach girls more and sooner or later you will find one . girls arent always about looks understanding and being there when they need you is nice. oh yeah and not trying to hard helps. i bump into more girls when im not looking then when i am. actually when i look i never find. just do your daily routine and you will meet. It took me 4 years to get my second girlfriend. remember push ups for confidence and that will get you a better chance.

Answer 10

well just be urself..and girls will flock to u...plus show some confidence, and try not to show them ur weakness...if anything a girl is more attracted to a guy with arrogance, than a guy that has low selfesteem...instead of dwelling on what ur lacking, focus on your strong points and love urself no matter what, just because u have a girlfriend doent mean that your self worth is anymore than it is when ur single...believe me in 19 and ive never had a real, real boyfriend...and im a model..so go figure.....