I want my sister and three of my closest friends to be my bridesmaids. The problem is none of them know each other and they all live in separate parts of the country. My sister lives in Milwaukee, my best friend from college lives in Arizona, my best friend from high school lives in New York and my final bridesmaid-to-be lives in California. What do I do? Should I ask friends who are in the area and know each other even if they aren't as emotionally close to me?
2007-06-25 12:34:51 · 21 answers · asked by weirdiscomplimentary 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I only had a few bridesmaids who knew each other...and none of them knew the groomsmen. Same situation with the groomsmen not knowing each other. It could not have been better...instead of spending time partying prior to the wedding, they just spent time hanging out and getting to know each other. For the shower, my girls just all got online and chatted at an appointed time and they each took a responsibility or two and updated the others weekly. It was truly amazing...so if you trush your girls, go for it.
2007-06-25 15:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the people you are closest to...not the people who live in your geographical area.
It's helpful if you've got at least one reasonably nearby to help with arrangements, but you want the people you love best standing by you at your wedding.
It's okay that your closest friends don't know each other. What you do is introduce them before the big day, if at all possible. If that's not possible in person, why not make sure all of you have each other's email addresses? You can send out bulletins about what's happening with the wedding along the way. Is there some sort of chat or IM you all use? If so, see if you can set up a get-acquainted session among you all.
Chances are if you are close to all these women, they can find enough common bonds to get through one day together...but if you let them get to know one another, some of them may grow to be friends with each other in their own right.
2007-06-25 12:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am no expert, but I do know that you only get married once. I would have those that mean something to you be your bridesmaids, even if that means having to sacrifice some of the pluses of having them close. I was my sisters maid of honor and lived 2 hours away. While it was a bit more of a pain to plan her shower and whatnot, I know that I appreciated being a part of a big event in her life. Coordinating long-distance bridal parties happens all the time. I personally used "The Bridesmaid Handbook" by Sharon Nayler. I know that there is a section there about long distance bridesmaids. Good luck!
2007-06-25 12:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by kacieholman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choose who you like. Even if they don't know each other, they are not each other's bridesmaids, they are yours. I understand that you want them know each other, you're a good friend to worry about their feelings and wanting them to be comfortable.
Because a meeting of the bridesmaids is out of the question, consider sending everyone an email with a list of silly but fun questions to answer and everyone must REPLY ALL so everyone can see the answers. The questions can be something like "Favorite Movie", "Favorite Food", "Most Embarrassing Moment", etc.
2007-06-25 12:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the people that are closest to you emotionally. Just take in to account that they are going to have travel and hotel expenses. Make sure they can get the dresses you want at a store near them. One thing I did for my rehearsal, since like you the wedding party did not know each other, was made t-shirts for everyone. They were designed for each individual and printed on my home computer. I chose to use a 'movie' theme as if the shirt were a 'playbill' bio about each person. Using a font that looked like a marquee sign in lights was their name, followed by a write up on them and their responsibilty in the 'production' It was fun and a good ice breaker. We made 17 shirts total for the whole wedding party, parents, minister, etc. It was actually a lot of fun and everyone appreciated the idea of not having to walk up and say "Hi my name is....', it's always more relaxed to say 'oh so you are......'
Good Luck
2007-06-25 12:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you ask your close friends and sister to do the honor of being your bridesmaids. If they are your girls they will be there for you on your special day. I don't suggest you ask friends who aren't close to you because who knows if they will be in your life 5 to 10 years later. Bridesmaids should be close friends or relatives you can enjoy taking pictures with so that you can enjoy the memories later down the road.
2007-06-25 12:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by voiceofanangell 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What does where your bridesmaids live have to do with anything? Why would you even consider picking people you aren't close to just because they live near each other? I don't understand your question at all. What does geography have to do with your wedding?
2007-06-25 14:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, ask the ones closest to you. Honestly, it doesn't matter if they know each other. Your sister, aided greatly by your mom, will be planning your bridal shower. They don't need to be buddy buddy to decide on a dress (and I highly suggest putting them in different dresses in similiar colors/fabrics anyway). The one who lives nearest to you will probably plan your bachelorette party. Really, they don't need to know each other. Perhaps there is some time near the year, when they might all be in the same spot (Christmas?) you can introduce them.
2007-06-25 13:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere will be pleanty of oppurtunities for them to get to know each other prior to the wedding, engagement parties, bridal showers bachlorette parties rehersal dinners.
I say pick a three day weekend and get together in a location that is easy (and fun) for all of them. SPend a girls weekend togetehr getting to know each other with no pressure from other events.
Maybe a weekend in napa wine tasting, Vegas weekend river rafting, shopping trip in new york, beach vacation in florida.
2007-06-25 13:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It dosent matter if they know eachother or not. Its your day and if these women are as special as they are to you it will be an honour for them to just be there..im sure they will get to know eachother during the wedding.
Its a once in a life time day and it has to be as special as YOU want it to be.
I hope you have a lovely wedding and all the best!!!! The bridesmaids can take care of themselves.....
2007-06-25 12:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by GenuineGemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋