problems i've had in the past have been that the other person seems to get bored with the relationship almost as if we have talked too much and don't have anything to say to each other. does anyone else have this problem and how can i prevent this while still maintaining regulatory contact with this person?
2007-06-25 12:28:24 · 14 answers · asked by juggsthenaut 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Buddy (or gal), it is not like you have 5,000 words of interesting things to say, and when you have run out of those words, you have nothing left.
It might be true that you start with 5,000 when you meet somebody, but you do things all the time and that should allow you to refill good words. Make sure you do fun things together and you will never run out of fun things to talk about.
2007-06-25 12:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. I know exactly what you mean. Here's my take on it: I think that the reason you get the feeling,
"almost as if we have talked too much and don't have anything to say to each other," is because you and the other person are communicating on a superficial level and that is why it's boring. I don't think you should blame yourself for that, or for burning up the relationship. I think that this is a good indicator that the relationship is not going to deepen over time. That's been my experience. If you are with someone who you click with on an emotional level, someone who has depth of character, integrity, and is a person who feels things deeply, I don't think you'd feel that way. It's quite possible that the two of you don't have anything else to say to each other, except for superficial small talk.
2007-06-25 13:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. I've been w/ my husband for 10 1/2 years. We were with each other all the time, and still want to be. We were only apart for about 1 week. Now he works strange hrs. We take ever second we can.
I don't think it's about "not smothering" the person. If you find the right person, you won't get sick of each other. Maybe in the beginning, don't call & see each other everyday. That way you'll look forward to it more and will have things to talk about.
2007-06-25 12:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by pkbuddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this will only get worse if it continues, so I reckon you should end it. How to end it though? Was never good at the break-up thing myself so I'm not too qualified in that respect. Go somewhere public, but where you can have some privacy at the same time. Not trying to make things worse for you, but you tolerating a man that doesn't love you; looks at porn; texts ex's and give you the evil eye, is sending a pretty strong message to your daughter too.
2016-05-20 02:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been that person in the relationship where im so excited about the other person that I want to be with them all the time, not everyone likes a clingy lover. The best thing you can do to keep the relationship burning and exciting is just get to know the person, dont call too much, dont cling too much, just let it happen, its the best way to find real love
2007-06-25 12:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a guy, you need to up the testosterone. I know when I get bored with a guy, its because they aren't showing me how much of a man they are. I don't want to hear baby talk anymore, and I don't want to feel like I am babysitting.
Maybe spend a bit less time with eachother, and do new/other things with your friends, that way when you do talk again you have more to say.
2007-06-25 12:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by missadvice411 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know what if that person that you are with IS REALLY MEAN TO YOU....YOU COULD TELL THAT AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP....you guys have/had COMMON/SIMILAR in each other......you know what i mean???
but ofcourse most common mistakes that couple does is TO IGNORE THE RED FLAGS AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP WHICH MAKE THEY MORE VUNERABLE CUZ THERE BEEN IN THAT PERSON FOR SUCH A LONGER TIME.....AND ITS MAKING THEM HARD TIME TO MOVE ON OR TO FORGET ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON....
my suggestion to you is to give space FOR YOUR PARTNER.....dont choke his/her. dont pressure your partner.
also you guys dont need to stay for 2/3 hrs to talk on the phone just to stay connected with him/her.....i think as long that you talk to him/her and you know how his/her day is going that the important part....
plus always know what you want for relationship....if your partner cannot give what you want....well thats up to you....how you could hadle things with her/him.....IS ALL ABOUT GOOD COMMUNICATION........also if she/he is really likes you........i guess she/he will be willing to works things out with you....GOOD LUCK
2007-06-25 12:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow and dont hang out with the person too much. Make sure you have something to talk about and go to fun places.
2007-06-25 12:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
familiarity breeds contempt. unfortunately, if you were to listen to the media....you should spend every single minute of the day with your partner suffocating them with your presence because that's what people in love do.
gets some hobbies and a life of your own. then there won't be this need to cling so hard and fast that it burns out so suddenly.
2007-06-25 12:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i feel ur pain im in pgh pa and dating a man from fairhope al and we r goin thou the same thing my suggestion 2 u is just tell him how u feel and see what happens from there
2007-06-25 12:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by angelblackearth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋