People think i have depression but i am truly unhappy with my life choices what can i do?

Question

Everyone is just treating me like i have depressino or my parents anyway, like i just have to wait it out and i will be beterm but its not that i have made some really bad choices in the past and ended up in a place i dont like, my life has stopped and i have no way to fix it, i have completely screwed everything up and cannot see me ever being hte girl i was, i hate myself, i cant undo any of it, 6 months have past and there is nothing i can do now to get me back to the girl i was, i dont want to be unhappy for hte rest of my life bbut i just cant see how to change it becuase i cannot undo the past and it has been too long! This is not how it is supposed to be, what can i do?

Answer 1

you may have mild depression. You really need to talk to your parents and see if you can go to the doctor to discuss it. Anti-depressants saved my life, but they are not the remedy for all of life's problems. Here's what I had to do:

1. Force yourself to get up everyday and do something to contribute to the household (laundry, dishes, etc..). It may not seem like a big deal to most people, but it really was to me.

2. Set your ultimate goal and then break that down to small goals. Set reasonable time lines. As you achieve your goals, your confidence will grow more and more.

3. Realize that we all change and evolve and none of us will ever be what we once were and we cannot change or undo our mistakes. Take your negatives and learn from them. Do not fail to recognize that mistakes are an integral part of growing and maturing.

My depression seemed to be the end of the world, but I got help and medication, forced myself to get out of bed and ended up helping to develop a peer cousneling group to help others with depression. You can take yoru experiences and help others that seem to be making your same mistakes. The youth groups are in dire need of good people.
Think about it...

Answer 2

First all.. forget the past and see what you can do to make the future for yourself better. Look dont cry over spilled milk but look how you can make that milk stay in the glass and drink and savor every drop. You know you mistakes that is the first step now look within yourself to a better new YOU. Like the old saying goes " you were dealt lemons in your life but take those lemons and make lemonade"! Make better choices verses the ones that were bad. You have the right to fix anything. It's up to you sweetie. You have a choice either be depressed for the rest of your life or get a new outlook for only yourself. Sure as you stated you cant undo the past. THe past is gone look for tomorrow. Good luck to you and we are all rooting for you.

Answer 3

THIS IS A LONG ANSWER BUT MAYBE IT NEEDS TO BE - Advice from others is something I personally find hard to swallow, but only cause the person giving it isn't in my shoes. i often feel the same way sound and it happens to me every my life too!! Then I remember that there are a lot more people out there in world who suffer from depression and don't know it, or who have known and struggled to live with it and are never noticed and when it has gotten the best of them they seek the easiest/weakest way out that most often ends in a no win situation for everyone. Not just for you per say but those who know you as well as other who suffer from this wide spread disease. So I look at it like this...Thank GOD I'm still alive. Look around you and take time to really try to understand that if there are so many people in you life that try to help as you said, then you got a lot love. And that is something that less fortunate people don't have(due to bad choices or unfortunate circumstances) as the great John Lennon said: "All You Need is Love". Or how bout this ? Since I'm in a similar boat, I'll keep you in my daily prayers. Hope this helps. Depression is a very huge word wide issue that shows no predgudice in anyway at all!!! Horrifically if is so commonly ignored and it exist in life side by side with starvation and war. But it can be beaten!!! When you are feeling down try remember but never use this as a selfish excuse(cuase when you do it backfires on you - i know from experience) weather our actions are based on what we think with our head or we think with our hearts, NO ONE IS PERFECT AND THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A UTOPIAN SOCIETY! World History proves it. ANY CHANGE YOU WANT TO TAKE PLACE IN YOU LIFE IS ENTIRELY UP TO YOU

Answer 4

Without knowing your situation and the details, I can only point out that in life, everything is a choice. In order to see change, you have to give something up and replace it with something else. Think about what you want to do with the rest of your life. Write a list of your goals, and then find out what you have to do to meet each goal. Take one step at a time. Life is a series of steps that we take to reach our goals. Taking a wrong step is just a lesson you have learned. That means you need to learn the lesson and try a different direction when you take your next step. The question you have to ask yourself is...where will I be in five years if I do nothing? So, figure out where you want to be, and take the steps to make it happen. The choices are yours. Good luck.

Answer 5

It will get better but you have to come to terms with the fact that the past can't be changed. It is just from this day forward that you have to work on. I believe when you come to realize that you will slowly see things change for the better. You think 6 months is an enternity? I was in your position for your years before I kicked myself in the rear and got the wheels turning to make a change. There's a sunny day waiting after every rainstorm.

Answer 6

Take a deep breath, and forgive yourself. Easier said then done. I no. but once you get passed this you can move on and instead of dwelling on your past try to make something of it. Learn from your misteaks and move on. And, find someone you trust that you can talk to...if your not in to the therapy thing (which i dont blame you at all if you are) go to a friend that you know you can trust, or even just start writing stuff doown... the main thing is you have to find away to get it off your chest.

Answer 7

We all make mistakes in life it is part of the learning curve. he past is just that the past and we cannot change that what we have to do is look at the future. All things heal with time. Hang in there figure out how you want to be and make it happen, it does not happen overnight but again with time all things are possible. Believe in yourself, believe that you can change, and never, never give up

Answer 8

well it depends..what were the bad choices u made....tell ur parents not 2 treat u that way (in a nice way)as it only makes u feel like a "troubled teen" or more abnormal..try 2 live a norml life....see like a couselor before u see like a psycho doctor cuz u dont seem crazy lol.......just think about all the good things bout urself and try 2 change, help othrs, volunteer, do good things, and pray.....:) hope this helps

Answer 9

Depression sucks and it wears down your body before you know it. Been there .......

I highly suggest spending time with people you love like friends, other family members or even pets. JUST STAY ACTIVE! You won't be able to change or forget the past, but you are able to learn from it and move on.

Just remember, tomorrow is another day. Think positive and remember that people love you.

Answer 10

Darlin, you always have options!!!!! they might not be good for everyone involved but youhave to think of yourself if you are miserible no one around you will be happy either. It's not too late, who told you that? If you dont like where you are mentally emotionally physically you are theONLY ONE who can afffect a change there and you are the only one who really cares if you are happy. Others might think t hey are making good choices for you but probably not.. You are resposiblibe for your own happiness make it happen.!!!!