I have been dating this guy on and off for 4 months. He was separated from his wife in the beginning, and we split up for 1 month and now they are back together but he is on my doorstep telling me it was a big mistake and he misses me and wants to be with me. Says he will make it right (one day) and how sorry he is for leaving me and tells me how much he loves me. Should I believe him?
2007-06-25 11:24:07 · 19 answers · asked by Just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
believe him when he shows you the FINAL divorce papers
2007-06-25 11:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by chumpchange 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she just has a hard time meeting the right guy. And this seems like something good for her at the time. I've been through the same situation and it usually never works out. But I guess if she doesn't go through with it then she will always regret it not knowing if it would have worked out or not. If she makes a constant habit of this then she might have a problem. Try to get her out more and meet guys. It all kind of depends if the guy was separated before he met her. She shouldn't be getting in the middle of someone's marriage while they are having problems. She needs to be careful so the wife doesn't sue her or something. She shouldn't be so desperate that she has to break up a marriage. Let her make her decisions. If she is really your friend then you will stick by her no matter what foolish decisions she makes because she will need you if it doesn't work out. I'm glad my friends stuck by me and supported me even if they didn't agree with my choices. She will hopefully learn her lesson. Maybe buy her a book or something on picking the right guy. She might need some guidance if she keeps doing this.
2016-05-20 02:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you the truth. However, he's got another side which also tells the truth to his wife. And it's a different story.
When he loves you he tells you it's true. When he loves her, he tells her it's the truth.
So, in a way he's not lying, he just has two personalities going.
I'm not saying he has a clinical multiple personality problem. I'm just saying that there are a lot of people like that, who mean what they say, but things turn out different.
It's like guys who get drunk and beat their wives. When they're sober they promise they will never do that again. They're being honest. But when they're drunk, they're basically a different person, and they do it again. It's a cycle.
I guess your story is one reason to not date a separated man until he's officially divorced.
I imagine he'll end up divorced anyway, but why deal with all the crap? Do you think he'll magically change when he's married to you? If you're the wife replacement, then who will be the lover replacement?
Break the cycle. Meet someone single for a change. Someone really single. Maybe someone with a different personality than the norm. Maybe meet someone overseas.
2007-06-25 11:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between dating a separated guy and a married guy, i.e. one is available and one is not (really).
There are many women that don't mind dating a married guy, knowing full well that it is just a fling that they are having. If that is what you want, go for it. Never fall for the line that they will 'one day' leave their wife for you.
On the other hand, if you want a full time relationship, tell him that 'one day' is today, and he needs to make his mind up.
2007-06-25 11:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
approach with caution!!!! thats what this situation screams to me at least. its possible that this guy is just one of those guys who likes to jump from woman to woman and can't stay married because of it. if i were you i'd wait the situation out until he's finally, legally divorced...then see where things go. the point is, right now you really don't know what he's like in this regaurd so you should slow things down with him and confront him about the situation. tell him you are only sparing yourself from grief and that you really don't want to get back together until the divorce is finalized. if he really really wants to be with you this will give him the motivation he needs to go through with it and get it over with ASAP. if this doesn't seem to budge him then leave him to his own devices and be glad that you've spared yourself the heartache.
2007-06-25 11:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should. If he loved and cared about you he would be with you and not her. But in fact he is not with you, is he? He is with his wife. It sounds like they might be having some issues of their own in their marriage and they need to work out. You are being a bit of a third wheel. Cut yourself loose if he won't cut you and find someone that is willing to offer you what you deserve.
You deserve someone who will love you and honor you and you love and honor them. Don't settle for less.
Good Luck.
2007-06-25 11:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by ☆ Heavenly ☆ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, that is the one of the oldest trick in the book. You should tell him to make right before he comes back to you, if he can't do that don't wait for him..I believe in destiny, if he's not for you don't pursue it, the right man will come along when you least expect it..
2007-06-25 11:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by chowika 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Major mistake. Don't do it. He is failing in his marriage so he is lookin gto sign up the nxt person (you) before he moves on. Then he will do the same to you. If he was divorced and not playing games, it would be ok.
Good luck
2007-06-25 11:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by randy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to cheat on HER, he's going to cheat on YOU.
He's a scumbag and you need to drop him like yesterday's trash. Forget him and regain your dignity by running far away from him. A married man will NEVER leave his wife unless he truly wants to. And by the way it looks, he does not and will not.
Find a man who is single, not married.
2007-06-25 11:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to wait till he is legally divorced to go out with him because the wife can win every thing in a divorce case so wait till he,s divorced that will give him time to think and not bring he.s garbage from the marrage he is trying to get out.
2007-06-25 11:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and wants to be with you then he will divorce his wife. Until then find yourself a single guy.
2007-06-25 11:27:02 · answer #11 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋