my brother found out! what should i do??

Question

my bother found out i have a boyfriend!! he found out rite befor he was leaving 2 work so he said "we'll talk bout it wen i get back". he didnt sound 2 mad but e definitly wasnt happy. im not allowed 2 have a bf! wut if he tells on me or blackmails me!!im really worried! he very overprotective and he thinks im a little gurl! i no im responsible enough 2 hav a bf! im in 7th grade!! he had his 1st gf in 3rd grade!!! but wenever i mention that he says"its different cuz im a guy" what should i do??!

Answer 1

ignore him :P

Answer 2

Well, it isn't different because he is a guy, but that is beside the point. The point is that you are breaking a rule that I assume was made by your parents or guardians. You are in 7th grade, so if you are already LYING to your parents and family you are NOT responsible enough to have a boyfriend.
A responsible young lady would have talked to her parents, introduced the boy and been honest about your feelings: that would show them that you are grown up enough to start having a relationship. You have to respect their decisions; they are just worried about you and they want you to be old enough to be able to make good choices.
I know I am not saying what you want to hear, but I am telling you the hard truth. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you really like him but your parents made a rule and you can't break it (anymore). Honesty in the first place means that you won't have a brother with the information to get you in trouble or blackmail you.

Answer 3

You have to tell him that guys and girls are all equal. There's even some guys who can't handle girls at early ages because they aren't mature enough to take this new step in life. The same might go to some girls, but guys are girls have ALOT in common and when it comes to stuff like this, things vary between person to person. I've heard of an older brother who was protective of his younger brother so don't think you're the only one going through this. He should at least give you some space. Having a boyfriend isn't bad. It just lets you deal with the opposite gender. But if he's worried that you have a bad boyfriend, then maybe that's the cause. But you have to have a boyfriend sooner or later in your life. I had my first boyfriend in SECOND grade, which is ONE year EARLIER than your brother. It doesn't matter what age either. I think it matters if you're ready to take this new step in life. You SHOULD be allowed to have a boyfriend. It really teaches you alot on how to deal with boys, learn about their attitudes, and their feelings, and things about them. 7th grade is more than old enough to start a relationship.

Answer 4

Maybe you are too young for a boyfriend. If you have to sneak around and lie about it, then you are not mature enough to come clean to your parents. You are over-reacting a little; I mean think about it, the worse that will happen is he'll tell, your parents get mad, and you get grounded. Life goes on. This may be exactly what you needed because now you and your parents can open the lines of communication in why you should or shouldn't have a boyfriend.

Answer 5

It's a delicate situation since your not technically not allowed to date. You might try very politely telling him that it's your businiss and he has no right to interfere. The 'different because I'm a guy' is just a lame excuse he's using, most likely because he wants to justify whatever actions he may take. He might also feel hurt that you didn't tell him about this before. Let him know you trust him, but firmly remind him that it's your life and that you'd really appreciate it if he didn't mention this to anyone else.

Answer 6

well, its not different because he is a guy. if you like a guy, go for it, and your brother shouldn't make you feel so worried. Maybe he remembers what he was like and what he wanted in 7th grade, and doesn't want some hormones crazed teenager hovering over his baby sister. I'm in gr 8, and its true guys only want 1 thing, no matter what age. But try to talk to your brother, tell him that you really like this boy, and hopefully, he will understand. Hope i helped

Good luck :)

Answer 7

that is so SEXIST, no offence, tho, but it is! that is so not fair that thappens. u should be able to go out with ur bf, i have the same problem as u cuz i'm in the same grade, my dad went out with girls when he was in like 4th grade &older, my mom 2, but that's a different story. u should explain to ur brother that u r growing up, need ur freedom, and he needs to stop being so overprotective, make up a curfew w/ him, it might make him ease up a bit :D

Answer 8

you should calm down and grow up. being grown up doesn't mean having a "bf" in seventh grade. your brother sounds a lot more mature than you. if he said "we'll talk about it when I get back" then wait for him to get back. if he had said, "i'm telling mom and dad," then you should be worried. your brother sounds like a good guy. you should listen to what he has to say.

Answer 9

Wait to see what your brother has to say.
It may not be completely bad.
You may juat have to assure him that you won't do anything stupid.
Then again, he could be the type to blackmail, like you said, or tell on you.
There's not much you can do but wait and see what happens.
And it's smart to not freak out until then.

Answer 10

You should try to find out what your brother is concerned about. If your brother was a dog, he knows what a dog looks like. If he sees it in your boyfriend then it won't be good. You should wait and see what that talk is about later. Bring this up.

Answer 11

dont have sex in the house. he seemed to be mature about it saying "well talk about it when i get back" instead of being a jerk about it and telling your parents right away. maybe he just wants to give u a sex talk. if he trys to blackmails you tell him you will tell mom about the pornos you found ((wink wink)) trust me it works every time :0).