why don't people take care of other peoples things?

Question

My boyfriend and I share a car that i paid for with cash. It was used, but it is a pretty good running car. I got in a small fender bender back in april and i can't fix my bumper at the moment until i get the money. One day I accidently pulled up too close to the curb. When I backed out of the park my whole bumper came off and he put it back on. Knowing how fragile the bumper is I take extra care not to park too close to a curb to avoid my bumper coming off and not being able to be put it back on at all. I asked my boyfriend of the same thing. Today he parked too close to the curb and my bumper comes off again, in front of people in our complex. I did not want people seeing that my bumper could come off that easily, as I live in a not-so-great neighborhood. he doesn't understand why I am so upset saying to me "when u did it u did'nt get mad". I damaged my own car but when somebody else does it, it makes u more mad. esp if they were negl. why cant people take care of other peoples stuff

First of all juan meskin, I wasn't whining, and second of all, I was not blaming him for the damage that was caused in the accident, if you would have read the question completely you would have seen that I said I ASKED HIM TO TAKE CARE NOT TO PARK TOO CLOSE TO THE CURB. NO WHERE in my question am I BLAMING him Or indicating that I want HIM TO PAY FOR ANYTHING. I specifically said I got in a fender bender and I want to salvage my bumper until I get it fixed. Read the Question carefully and know what you talking about before you start talking. Now whine about that Bi@#$!!!!

Answer 1

Because alot of people don't care about what doesn't belong to them and so they don't treat it well. It could be a lack of conscience too. They don't have anything vested in it, they didn't work to earn the money to buy it, it doesn't have meaning to them. Use caution when allowing someone else to use what is yours. About the incident where the bumper came off in your complex -- it will do your heart a world of good if you get a good, hearty laugh out of it. I don't loan things out to people because I don't want my things ruined.

Answer 2

First of all, doesn't sound like just a fender bender, sounds like you messed up your car pretty good with whatever you did to cause the bumper to come off and I believe it takes a lot for that to happen. Second of all, you just need to bite the bullet and get the bumper fixed. I am sure your boyfriend did not intentionally make your bumper come off again when he was driving your car. The solution is easy, get your bumper fixed and you won't have to worry about it anymore. As far as him being inconsiderate, its sounds like a honest mistake on his end and at least he was nice enough to fix the first time.

Answer 3

This is the *exact* reason why you shouldn't downgrade your auto insurance even though a car is paid off. If you'd kept full coverage (instead of going to state basic, or worse yet--cancelling it altogether), you could have avoided this whole ridiculous situation. If you hadn't messed up the bumper in the first place, this wouldn't be an issue. If it bothers you that much, take the bumper off and put it in the trunk until you can afford to have it fixed.

Besides--who steals bumpers anyway? Most people go for wheels or (gasp!) the entire car! Nobody's going to steal some dented beater or the equally dented bumper. I think you're safe...

Answer 4

Because they don't own the item, and they are inconsiderate.
I don't think you can tell him not to use your car (if you consider it yours) until he follows your rules, given the romantic relationship.
And if you ask him to pay for half of the repair that you caused, he may feel like he has more 'rights' regarding car usage.

It all boils down to communication. If something he is doing irritates you, it is best to discuss it. MUCH better than stewing about it and wasting all that energy.

Good luck!

Answer 5

well America is racist.you notice most of the time when a black girl goes missing they never care but if some blonde chick goes missing they act like its the only girl in America that is missing.i know people of a other races that do care if black people go missing so you cant say all.they seem to portray more negative they good about black people so the cycle continues.i think we should see our fellow man as fellow humans regardless of race these days.we all bleed red blood so we are human like anyone else.

Answer 6

They don't put themselves in your position. They never think, "Would I like this done to me?" I used to loan books to someone who appeared to be responsible, till one day I got a book back with a massive crease on the cover and what looked like a knitting needle mark in the inside pages, but there was no explanation or apology for returning the book in a poor condition. I don't mistreat my property or other people's, so I stopped loaning books. Stuff you need to do to look after your things!

Answer 7

I'm sure he didn't mean to do it... and besides, YOU'RE the one who let him drive the car YOU paid for... so don't get so mad about it. Hurry up and make some money so you can fix it instead of complaining about other people not taking care of things you LET them borrow.

Answer 8

Simply put: if it's free, they're going to trash it! It's unfortunate that this happens, but it's been my experience that when someone is givens something that they didn't have to pay for, they really don't value it.
It's like easy come, easy go!

Answer 9

well, too many people don't even take care of their own stuff, so it never crosses their mind to take care of yours.

Anyway, doing it (taking care of people's stuff; or for that matter, taking BETTER CARE) seems to be an "honor" thing, an attribute that is in very short supply these days.

Answer 10

Uh, I wouldn't let my boyfriend drive my car.