I am going into 11th grade and there is this girl i like that i have liked since about a month ago. I have known here since 6th grade. she used to like me in 8th grade and asked me out but i didnt like her at the time. now she has a boyfriend and they have been going out for about a year and a half. Me and her text every night for at least 4 hours and we hang out occasionally but she is always with her boyfriend and she has a busy schedual. Me and her drank once and some touching went on but thats about it. She also says its ok to do stuff while we are drunk. She is a bit slutty but not too much. She knows that i like her and she said she would date me if she wasnt going out with her boyfriend. What should i do?
2007-06-25 10:45:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she also always gets into fights with her boyfriend about stupid reasons. and she always tells me that he is a jerk and gets all pissed off.
2007-06-25 10:54:46 · update #1
first off.. you seem very sincere.. this could be part of your problem.. one thing is certain.. she still likes you!!.. your problem is that you are not playing it cool enough.. think back to 8th grade when she liked you but you didn't like her.. think about not only how you felt but how you acted towards her.. think about the confidence you had knowing that she liked you.. you need to resurface that level of confidence.. her boyfriend.. whoever he is.. obviously is not doing something right if she is texting you all night instead of him.. if she is hooking up with you when she is drunk that is a good sign.. quite often with women (especially younger women) they need an excuse to do the things that they really want to be doing.. alcohol is usually the perfect excuse.. i am not saying that you should continue to get her drunk just to hook up because you dont need to.. the simple truth is this.. she wants you.. not him.. you just have to be the man.. women of all ages are attracted to confidence.. so dont bad mouth him.. dont even worry about him.. pretend he doesnt even exist.. you are the man that she wants.. so act like it.. the next time you are alone.. drunk or sober make a move.. not a hesitant move but the kind of move that you picture yourself making when you fantasize about her.. there is a secret to this move and once you learn it you can apply it to all everyday experiences.. the secret is this.. no matter what happens.. no matter how many things you do right or wrong.. no one will remember in 50 years.. probably not even you.. good luck!
2007-06-25 11:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by bufordbiggz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three paths I see for you grasshopper...
1) Wait for the boyfriend to mess up.
Boys will be boys and sooner or later he will do something bad. If you are the shoulder to cry on for her, you can start to influence her by saying he is no good and that she deserves to be treated better.
2) Start dating someone else.
Evil tactic but it works so often. When a girl knows you want her, you are kind of her 'in case of emergency break glass' boy. She will always have you as the option if things go south with her current boy. However, if you can demonstrate that someone else wants you and now you are 'taken' and off the market, you become much more desirable and avoid the 'glass case'. Talk about how much fun you have with the new girl and reduce the texting to your current girl. That should flip her out if she really likes you. The other girl you are currently dating can be broken up with if you and the girl dating currently decide you like each other more and she breaks up with her boy. Another tactic is to have the new girl on tap and just hook up with the old girl and see what happens from there.
3) Set the boyfriend up
Know another slutty girl who can do your dirty work? Have a friend tell this girl that the boyfriend likes her when he is drunk at a party. If you can get him caught in the act of cheating even with kissing... you might win a big victory and divide them forever.
Good luck. Nice guys finish last. This isn't a time to be nice.
2007-06-25 18:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say what? Are you sure this is the kind of girl you WANT for a girlfriend? One whose definition of right and wrong go out the window when she's drinking? And... how is a person "a bit slutty"? You're either a **** or not!
Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She's too chicken to break up with her boyfriend, but she's willing to have this side thing with you. Back off and find someone who's unattached and knows what she wants.
2007-06-25 17:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me understand what you are saying: this girl is with another guy she calls her boyfriend but she spends 4 hours texting you everynight, says she would be with you if it wasn't for him and that it's ok to do stuff if you are drunk. And you want to be with a girl like this?? Knowing that she may very well do this kind of stuff with another dude while she is perhaps "dating" you?? But it's ok because she is a bit "slutty" but not too much. I think you should read what you wrote again because I read it over and over and I still don't understand why you want to be with her!!
Good luck, dude!
2007-06-25 17:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by B2thaD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE'S A SKANK. i would tell u to stay away from her but u seem like a jerk because u shouldnt be messin with girls that are in relationships ANYWAY even if they are not being loyal to their boyfriends. so actually u guys would make a great pair: two dumbasses!!
just watch ur back...if her boyfriend finds out he's prolly gonna want to beat the **** outta u. ya'll need to GROW UP. SERIOUSLY.
2007-06-25 17:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by :::: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a sIut. Leave her alone. If she has a boyfriend and is willing to cheat on him with you, imagine if you were her boyfriend. She would cheat on you too. You're probably not the only other guy she talks to like the way she does with you. Who knows, maybe she gets drunk with other guys and does some "touching" with them too. It doesn't matter if you're both drunk. It's never okay to fool around with someone other than your boyfriend/girlfriend.
2007-06-25 17:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, she will date who she likes. Plus if she's any level of slutty and likes to fool around with random people while drunk, that doesn't sound like prime dating material anyway.
2007-06-25 17:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Dan Theman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if you guys did sumthing while drinking I would straight up tell her boyfriend that she likes you and not him...even if you get ur butt whopped you should really go for her...ah you said she was slutty riight in second thougts 4get about her she'll probably end up cheating on you if u guys got 2gether...
2007-06-25 17:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by izayoi_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She sound like a real peach. You want a **** who cheats on her boyfriend?
2. Do unto others, etc. How would you feel about someone stealing her from you?
2007-06-25 17:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be a home-wrecker. let that girl and her bf be. u had ur chance u lost it. u may get that chance back but for the time being let the girl be. dont go out with her when she is drunk, dont text her, jsut stay away. be friends but dont be more dont get involved. u had ur chance but u lost it!!
2007-06-25 17:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Siroonig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋