My boyfriend can't keep erection and gets mad when I complain. He says when he looses weight things will be better and he is not going on viagra unless it don't get better. He's always been about 30 - 40 pounds overweight and never had this bad of an issue. He's always lasted at least a couple minutes. Never got a marathon, but this can't keeping it up is really bugging me. I don't know though...I can't go with out sex for months until he looses weight, but at the same time I don't want to leave him. Any suggestions on how to talk to him about it. Oh yeah, he claims he is still attrached to me and this issue is frusterating to him because he can't make me happy.
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2007-06-25 10:42:58 · 28 answers · asked by ☮ Erica ☮ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men are very sensitive about being able to become erect and hold an erection, so remember that if you talk to him about it.
Try not to get mad at him, and look at options that could resolve his problem. There are rings that help you maintain an erection, as well as cremes, and certain condoms, which contain an anesthetic which should aid him in lasting longer.
If the problem is him maintaining an erection, not premature ejaculation, there are various things that could help him that I listed above.
If the problem is early release (premature ejaculation), then he needs to practice masturbating for long periods of time, getting close to orgasm, then easing off for a moment, so he knows when to slow down for that few seconds in order to prevent an early finish.
If you talk to him about it... just be sure to talk to him in a loving way, and make sure you don't complain to him. If he insists it's not a problem, tell him that even though it's not a problem for HIM it's a problem for YOU. Above all, listen to your tone of voice, and try to sound soothing and loving, not annoyed or angry.
Best of luck to you.
2007-06-25 10:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by CelestialWarrior 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in a similar situation and let me tell you... it is very very frustrating. I tried everything. Nothing worked. Sometimes... there's nothing you can do. It could be a physical problem, with or without his weight. It's a very sensitive subject for men, but he probably needs to go to the doctor to check it out. And if he can't be a man, be an adult and talk to you about this and know how it's bothering you, then he's not worth your time. Relationships take work from both sides over every problem.
2007-06-25 10:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well all that pressure on him to keep you happy as well as you complaining about it could be part of the problem. There are many things you can do to keep him "vertical." Use your skills girl! Also look for a vitamin supplement called Hot Plants (for him) and there is also Enzite...these actually do work and you don't need a prescription. Buy him a c0ck ring, one of the round ones that comes in a set of three different sizes so you can get the one that fits the best and is snug enough to do the trick. (They prolong erection) ALSO...get him to lose the tighty-whities and to stop wearing tight pants or jeans...and don't stress him out about it.
2007-06-25 10:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ehm..
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Recent polls have shown that the average length of intercourse is usually anywhere between 2 to 12 minutes. Most often those diagnosed with premature ejaculation climax in less than a minute or two, and there are even those who ejaculate before there is any sort of penetration. In all actuality, “too short” is really just a matter of opinion. The most important factor is if a man feels that he is unable to control his ejaculation and is frequently climaxing before he would like. Any man who feels that this is a problem for him may be suffering from some form of premature ejaculation.
Hope it helps.
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2016-05-14 16:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this same problem with my boyfriend last year & it was because he was really stressed out. We always got in big fights when I told him about it, but he was going through some things. This lasted from October to May....but I stayed around because I love him very much. If you care about him just wait it out because it will be worth the wait. But if he only lasts a few minutes I would recommend him going on Viagra anyways.
2007-06-25 10:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by ms ambitious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he isn't doing it for you anymore than it's time to move on. Go get someone that can and will satisfy you. This guy really sounds like a loser and the fact that you are willing to talk about this makes me think that even though you care about him in the back of your mind you know this guy is a loser and that it's time to move on. Life is too short to waste your time on this chump.
2007-06-25 10:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by FNMrules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all weight loss has nothing to do with it.
Your complaining is selfish, heartless, cold and downright rude. That is probably most of the problem - by complaining you are making it more of an issue than it needs to be, gosh, I can't see why he would have any problems with an understanding girlfriend such as yourself..
While it may be frustrating for you, how do you think he feels. so, he has sex, knowing it is going to not last and that you are going to be a complete thoughtless b**ch about it, and you wonder why it is getting worse. performance anxiety.
You talk about leaving him, he should leave you for someone who is kind and thoughtful and will help, not hinder the problem.
2007-06-25 10:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by brandi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First don't get mad at him, second he should stop getting mad at you. you guys need to talk it out. Understand the problem. Has he seen a doctor? When things in life become difficult, communication is the solution. Mark
2007-06-25 10:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by mark533789 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just tell him to either try to lose some weight(if that does have anything to do w/ it) or just tell him to use viagra cus it probly wont get any better if it hasnt already, and since u 2 do like each other thats no rzn to leave, just work it out with him..and if he loses the weight maybe he'll evn look better, but try not 2 coplain too much cus its not rlly his fault....and if he agrees talk to a doctor about it
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hope that helps
2007-06-25 10:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by BOOM, roasted. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋