We are having a bridal shower for a bride who eloped. We also want to make a post-bachlorette party the night of the shower. First of all do you think this is tacky? Second of all, we need a catch phrase to put on the invites so it's not as tacky having a post-shower/bacholorette party!
2007-06-25 10:03:02 · 15 answers · asked by RJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are trying to do TOOOOOOO much! You are trying to make up for all the things that did not occur before the elopement in a couple of hours.
You can have a small, intimate bridal shower at someone's home or in a restaurant, and then go out after wards BUT it shouldn't be GUESTS GONE WILD.
Purchase bridal shower invitations and then put "Planning on going out after the shower for a drink or two. Would you like to join us?" Keep it simple!
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2007-06-26 03:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IMO, a shower is a shower is a shower for the Bride. Whether it is before or after, I do not see anything wrong with several of the Bride s closest friends, and family members coming together for a little celebration to express their happy wishes for her, and too also include a gift. After all - the purpose of a shower originally was to do exactly that, and there is nothing wrong with doing it before or shortly after her wedding, and/or elopement. If you really think about it, back in the days, many couples eloped, and celebrated afterwards. People weren t that materialistic back in the days. In fact, there were no such things as bridal registries. Presents were given as gifts from the heart, and they were given at any given time, not just on a specific day such as during a bridal shower . I think the best way to do this would be to surprise the bride, whether it is before or after. Tell her that you d like to treat her out for brunch, or get together at her place, or your place for tea and just have everyone (closest friends & family) show up as a surprise, without even telling her. It ll be better than a surprise birthday party, and you ll have a better idea of items she might need.
2015-08-26 17:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by mo rosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the post-shower is a great idea, but that the bachelorette party is a little tacky. The purpose of a bachelorette party is the bride's last night of freedom. She is already married, so that idea is out. My suggestion would be to have the shower and then have a "Girls Night Out" where you guys go have a nice dinner and some wine - but no tacky sex-themed party.
2007-06-25 10:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by vanillaoakies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not have a bachelorette party for her! She is already married and therefore cant pretend to be unmarried. She cant get drunk and flirt with a stipper/ have sex with him.
Out of the question to have a Bac. Party!
I wouldnt have a bridal shower either unless she plans on having a ceremony and reception that everyone will be invited to. A bridal shower means that those people can expect to be able to attend a ceremony and reception at a later date.
SHe needs to have at least a small ceremony or reception to have a bridal shower.
If you do have the bridal shower and she is not having a ceremony again or reception later than only invite really really close relatives and friends.
I would just say "You're invited to a post-wedding bridal shower" or "invited to a small shower/ party to celebrate the wedding of Sally Thomas" examples.
2007-06-25 18:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tacky, Tacky.
Post elopment showers spell " I'm crass, give me a gift!
Bachelorette party??/ She's already married and ot's in poor taste to do so. She's a married woman now and has no bussiness going out acting wild. A post weddng newlywed brunch would be more appropiate.
This was HER choice, and it's too late for bridal showers. If they can't afford to have a propper post-elopment reception, then don't. Having a shower is a cheap way to ask for gift and not giving the guest a proper meal or a drink.
Awful
2007-06-25 10:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It is a little tacky but if that's what you really want then put on invites no gifts that would be tacky to ask for gifts after wedding also i would forgo the bacholorette party she's already married
2007-06-25 12:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by jenn p 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Normally there isn't shower if you elope. That's the downside of eloping. I don't think I would come to an after wedding shower. I expect to be invited to a wedding if I'm invited to a shower. I feel that if I can take the time to find a nice gift, they can take the time to invite me to the wedding.
2007-06-25 11:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so- I plan on eloping and I think it would be a nice gesture to plan something like that for you friend so that she doesn't have to miss out on the traditional bridal stuff.
If you still think its tacky, you could just call it something else. Like a honeymoon shower instead of a bridal shower since she already was the bride. Or just a newlywed shower. Instead of calling her a bachelorette call her a new bride?!?! I think a new-bridal shower would sound just fine.
2007-06-25 10:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Dig It 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I don't know if it's tacky...but I don't see the point of these parties. My understanding by Eloping is that the bride and groom gave up all the formal hoopla in favor of something simple and non-stress.
2007-06-25 10:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! They are already married, so what's done is done. They made their choice to elope, so one of the consequences is she doesn't get the perques of having a shower or bachelorette party.
2007-06-26 00:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋