What is the best way to explane to a 6 year old that his dad isn't his real dad?

Question

A friends son doesn't really know his biological father but is about to be introduced to that side of the family. What's the best way to go about doing this so that the boy isn't to confused?

Answer 1

"You know how you grew inside of me, right? Well, babies can't start growing inside of a mom unless a man starts them growing there. The man who started you growing inside of me wasn't ready to do all of the things that a dad needs to do to help his child grow up after you were born. No big deal. It's a hard job and not everyone is up for it. Lucky for me, and for you, was ready to help me take care of you as you grew. He's been great! The man who started you growing inside of me has a family that wants to meet you. We're going to go visit them next weekend. Even though he wasn't able to help you grow up, I'm still pretty happy that I knew him, because he started you and you rock!"

Answer 2

You don't ever tell a child married dad isn't real dad. You'll undermine his authority as a parent and make him an outsider in his own family. If you don't want a divorce from your hubby (step-dad) then don't say anything. He married you, he is dad.
The other guy, he's dad too, but not the one that lives with you. Make sure his side of the family understands this. It will cause problems when you go home and they are not there.

Answer 3

Mom should have done that all along. However since she didn't,she needs to soften the way for her son. She could tell him that sometimes very lucky children get to have two mom's or two dad's, and he is one of those children. Remember the man who raised him is his real father, the one who planted the seed is simply the dad who helped mommy create a baby. Don't let it be any other way, when he's older, he'll figure it out.

Answer 4

I'm sure his parents know a way of telling him. But being 6, he wont understand. They'll most likely wait till he about 13 or so. But introducing them is fine, he'll think they're part of the family or something.

Answer 5

The word "REAL" is overplayed. you need to tell him that his "daddy" is the man that takes care of him and loves him. and his "Father" is the man that made him. Because anybody can make a baby, but a REAL daddy loves and protects his kids. He shouldn't be confused by this.

Good Luck

Answer 6

tell him this is ur reall father and this guy is a friend of ours who is staying here for a long time :))))