I want to be a bachelor forever so that i can never be englufed with girls or with sex. what would you suggest

Question

I dont want to be a priest but i want to stay as a bachelor because i have sinned severly in my youth aganist Jesus Christ. By being a bachelor i can prove God that i am guilty of my past sins and I am not going to enjoy the plesures of the life. What would you people suggest...........

Answer 1

I think that the entire Old Testament is proof to all of us that we are INCAPABLE of following God's Holy laws.
By setting yourself apart, as if you have something to "prove" to God, you are merely giving your life over to Satan.

There is not ONE thing you can do or be or any action you can take that will "earn" you anything with God.
That is why Jesus came. HE paid the price, HE is carrying your burden and sins. Your refusal to accept this grieves him...that is something I am sure of.

There is not one thing you can do to make God love you more, and not one thing you can do to make hiim love you less. If you are saved (i.e. believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord) then there is nothing more you need do.

Of course, if you do believe this, your life will end up looking different than that of a non-believer, but the judgement on that and the timeline for it, are not a human concern. Allow God to do His work in you, in His own way, and in His own time.

Doesn't matter if you have had sex with 1,000 prostitutes; confess it, repent of it, and know that Jesus has already paid the price for it.
Wallowing in it, or acting as if you can "make up for it" says that you have no need of a Savior, so you might as well join our Atheist friends.

Answer 2

To be honest Jesus says that some aren't meant to be married anyway.
Matthew 19:10-12 says
(Jesus is talking to the pharisees about if a man should be able to divorce his wife for just any reason.) It goes on
Jesus' deciples said to him, if this is the case then it is better not to marry at all. Not everyone can accept this statement, Jesus said. Only those whom God helps. Some are born as eunuchs, some have been mad eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry for the sake of the kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.
He wants us to pray and seek his guidence about it. That is what I would do. I think it is a great idea(but it doesn't matter what I think) and if it's what you want to do and if you feel that it's what God wants you to do then go for it. Don't let anyone stand in your way. God Bless

Answer 3

Whether you remain a batchelor and celibate or Marry and
have a wife or children is a personal choice. The only prob-
lem I can see with your decision is that Jesus already tells you
what to do when you have committed deep or multiple sins.
He said "Go and Sin No More". While that may not be as
dramatic as what you propose. It is the proof that he requires.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are repentant and contrite for your past. There is good news. God knows this now. You don't have to choose a life you think you won't like just to "prove" it to Him.

Take the lessons you have learned and meditate on them. Talk to a priest or minister for spiritual direction. Prepare yourself for the rest of your life, whatever it may be. Grow yourself now. Other changes may yet happen later.

EDIT:
As for the pleasures of this life... It is okay to enjoy them if you are given them. However, the difficulty is in desiring them inappropriately or being jealous of others who enjoy them.

I read of this last point in "The Ascent of Mount Carmel" by St John of the Cross

Answer 5

You can't "prove" anything to God...He knows what He knows, and He knows everything (omniscient). So if you are sincere, He already knows it, and He doesn't need your help or actions to "prove" it.

If you want to be a bachelor, just stay a bachelor. If anyone asks you to date, just say no, i would prefer not to, but thank you anyway.

Secondly, if you believe in Christ, then you are no longer guilty of your past sins. This is a hard thing to accept, strangely enough (take it from me, who i am sure might have sinned just as badly as you in my own young years...). But open your Bible and read: God has forgiven your debt. Jesus came and died, took your guilt away from you & put it on Himself, was punished in your place. The only way you could still be guilty is if you refused to have faith in Christ, which is the worst sin of all and unforgivable.

But you seem to believe in Christ. Therefore know that you are forgiven, totally forgiven, pure as snow. Jesus came and died so that you should have a relationship with God, and although you might have strayed into sin, using it as a substitute for God's presence in your life, it is obvious that Jesus has called you back to Himself. He loves you and wants to have a relationship with you.

God created those "pleasures of life," with you in mind. Not the "sinning pleasures," the **real** pleasures of life. Those things you were involved with were just counterfeit. God intends for you to be happy, to revel in the world He has made for you, and to give thanks to Him. What Father would bake His child a dinner and be happy if the child refused it? Would a Father not be hurt instead at the child's refusal?

I personally went through much the same thing as you. I said, i have been so bad, i will deny myself all pleasure forever, i will not ever be married. Now, some people aren't meant to be married, they are "married" to God. But know that marriage is ordained by God--God made it, it is His institution, and He intends for people to enter it and enjoy it. God rejoices at a wedding. He rejoices to see the children resulting from it. And when the people raising the children are His children as well, how much more does He rejoice!!!

God formed each one of us and has a plan for us. So don't get down on the dumps! God has taken your sins, you are free. If you are meant to marry, then He has already planned out a wife for you, has your future children in mind, and knows the names of your descendants, all the way to the end of the world. If, on the other hand, He means for you to stay single, He has just as much joy and rejoicing planned for you throughout your life.

What i'm trying to say, brother, is that you don't have to beat yourself up any more--Jesus lives! When God looks down on you, He doesn't see your soiled insides. He sees Jesus--you wear your Lord's blood on yourself like a cloak, and it washes you clean forever.

Answer 6

If you are really a Christian then you know that when you accepted Christ as your saviour, the sins of your past were washed a way. You are a new creation and it is not sinful to have what God wanted for us - just to misuse it and debase it. You don't have to prove anything to God. He has no illusions about you to start with.

Answer 7

Here's the thing. God does want you to enjoy this life! Of course you have sinned, we all have. If you ask, it will be forgiven. God forgives and forgets. You can't "prove" anything to God. He knows you inside and out, better than you know yourself. You'd probably just be living a lie, anyways. It's natural to want a spouse. Live the way He intended it.

Answer 8

You don't need to do penance for past sins...God wants you to enjoy the pleasures of life..I would suggest stay in church keep in the Word and prayer...meet a nice Christian girl, get married, have little happy Christian babies and enjoy the gift of new life and eternal life that he has given you.. We ARE new creations in Christ... you have accepted him now enjoy the life he wants to give you..don't punish yourself because god isn't going to punish you, he forgave you.

Answer 9

i'd get myself into a healthy marital relationship. if you think you can go without and survive, go for it! but i think i'd fall into sin after a while if i really had nobody forever. it's not a sin to be maried to a girl if you do it all in the right ways. but i think if you believe you can do it with the help of god then good luck and i respect you for havng more self control then most people on this earth. including all the retards who are saying mean things to you ;)

Answer 10

Repent your sins to Him and move on....Keep dating (no sex) until you find the right woman, then marry her and enjoy a healthy sex life within the bounds of holy matrimony as God intended it. Create a family with her and gain some responsibility to someone other than yourself.