if you lie but for something good, is still a sin?

Question

if you lie about something like, if you crashed in a car accident except you werent hurt, but you still go to the dinner in the same day with your girlfriend or boyfriend. and then you lie that nothing bad happened to you, just so you can keep your love happy on this dinner, cause you dont wanna ruin the evening. anyone understands me? is still a big sin?

Answer 1

It is, at the least, an imperfection. Sadly, if the "significant other" finds out about the accident later on, (s)he may actually be offended that you didn't share it in the first place.

A better answer would be "Some issues came up today but I don't want to worry you about it right now. How was your day today?"

Answer 2

I don't think that qualifies as a lie. Choosing not to disclose the details of your day in order to preserve the evening and keep things light, is not a lie. Eventually you would tell you significant other about the car accident.

But a lie usually carries the connotation that you will get receive and undeserved benefit from that lie. You will gain something that you otherwise would not gain. It may be money, or a promotion, maybe just getting out of trouble, hiding an affair, getting an extra 10% off an item at the store, not paying your taxes, etc. All ill-gotten rewards.

The concern is for your soul and those who may be hurt by your lies. If not telling your boyfriend/girlfriend about an accident is because you are hiding something, that's a problem. If it's just to wait until later in order to have a nice evening...that's not a lie, just a postponment.

Answer 3

Yes it is still wrong to lie; despite what you think may be good or bad. We are given ways to live in order not to protect not only others, but ourselves as well. Let’s say you did lie and then they find out that you were in a car accident, do you think that they are going to have a hard time trusting you? Of course. That is, if they don’t breakup with you first, and then they start telling others that you’ve lied about things and nobody wants to be your friend anymore, then you spend the rest of your life alone. And this isn’t even the worst example I can think of.

The Bible does say, ‘do not lie to one another’. Leviticus 19:11

Answer 4

Here we go with the 'a lie is a lie', 'no such thing as moral relativism' arguments.

Take this scenario, you are a resident of Amsterdam and it is 1944. There is a jewish family hiding in your attic and the SS comes to your door and asks you straight out if you know where they are or have any information that could lead to their capture.

Should you tell the truth or should you lie?

Answer 5

i asked our pastor about this many years ago and he said that there's no such thing as a "white lie". the situation you are referring to can be categorize as a white lie but since there's no such thing, a lie in whatever form will always be a lie. assessing the situation you mentioned, why lie? your love will understand if you will just explain what happened to you and sharing this kind of things creates a "bond" of closeness,of sharing the day to day occurence. it's not a big sin but still a sin.
in my part, i appreciate a person who's honest even though how much it will kill me inside. always choose to tell the truth.

Answer 6

Lie, no matter what’s the reason or to whom you lie to, it’s still a sin. That’s one principal. But when you said nothing bad happen and you think the ‘accident’ without being injured is not a ‘bad thing’, so you’re not lying. Gb.

Answer 7

Yes. Jehovah requires us to live by his standards in order to receive his approval. His inspired Word commands us: “Do not be lying to one another. Strip off the old personality with its practices.” (Colossians 3:9) People who refuse to quit the practice of lying are not acceptable to him; they will not receive his gift of life. In fact, Psalm 5:6 says frankly that God “will destroy those speaking a lie.” Revelation 21:8 further says that the portion of “all the liars” is “the second death,” which is eternal destruction. So our accepting God’s view of lying gives us strong reason to speak the truth.

Answer 8

You can always answer honestly and still skip the stuff you're trying to stay away from. Like in your question, you could say, Oh nothing I want to talk about. Or Oh nothing really important. Like that. You can answer honest. Just don't make a habit of it.

Blessed Be

Answer 9

It's wrong to lie. Period.

I understand you wanting to keep your significant other happy on your date, but if s/he truly cares, s/he deserves to know...

Plus, later on down the road, if s/he finsd out that you lied about something serious (and a car accident IS serious, even if you didn't get hurt) s/he will probably get upset that you didn't tell.

Answer 10

If you have to lie in order to get yourself out of a situation in which you have a high possibility of committing major sins (i.e. robbery, drinking etc.) then I think it's ok, but you still have to try to avoid lying as much as possible. But you should see other people's views on this, I could be wrong. God knows best.