I invited 40 people, but only 10 RSVP'd (most No's). I'm so afraid that it will only be my immediate family. I am also really scared because I think the same thing will happen at my wedding. It seems as though no one is RSVPing.
2007-06-25 08:08:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
... it's THIS SATURDAY.
2007-06-25 08:09:36 · update #1
do not worry, most people show up to the wedding. and big bridal showers are not that much fun, perhaps a low number will allow you to get closer to people
2007-06-25 08:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above answer...have someone else..the host perhaps call and gently remind your guests of the shower this weekend. Tomorrow or Wednesday would be the appropriate day for follow up calls. It's is not "proper" for you to call the guests to remind them though, so you will have to ask for help on this one.
Regarding the wedding, I would be concerned about the RSVPing too, it's very rude not to, especially for an event of this magnitude. But I do not know of the proper way to handle that one. You may want to search through etiquette sites, www.theknot.com has a good one, so does www.weddingchannel.com. They may some good ways to address the situation.
Good luck and have fun this Saturday....oh and keep in mind..it's peak wedding and open house season...people may be tied up with family affairs already.
2007-06-25 15:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by countrygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be too late to do anything about the shower but when you get within a month or so of the wedding start calling people and getting a definite answer. Lots of people didn't show up for my shower either, I was really upset until I found out my in-laws were throwing me another surprise shower later in the month so that is why half the people didn't show up to the first one (would have been nice of them to call but whatever). The ones that did show up to the first shower were my close friends and the ones I have stayed in touch with over time. Your good friends will be there for you, don't worry about the rest. Unfortunately people are just downright inconsiderate sometimes, especially the younger ones who are a little more self absorbed and don't realize they are hurting feelings.
2007-06-25 16:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I paid $50 in stamps for the invitations to my wedding and I've gotten a handful back.
I don't know why it's so hard for people to just say yes or no and send them back. If there's already a stamp and address on the envelope, there's not much they have to do.
Some people are just lazy. Some lose the cards, and others just assume you know that they will come. Weird, I know.
What I've been doing is going up to the people I invited and saying "Hey, I haven't received the response card back. Were you pstill planning on coming to the reception?"
Then they offere their reason for not returning the card and say yes or no.
Hope it helps. Have the person hosting the bridal shower do follow up calls
Good luck! :)
2007-06-25 15:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Mark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your invitation say "Regrets Only?" A lot of people include this on invitations to less formal events (i.e., showers, birthday parties), meaning if you don't RSVP, it means you're coming - you only call if you can't come.
Otherwise, I'd say head on to Plan B - have whoever's hosting your shower start calling so you can get a count of the guest list.
2007-06-25 15:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't like to RSVP. I experienced the same thing but I would not worry about it too much. If you have time, you can call some of the people you invited to confirm. If you call them, that may remind them to RSVP come wedding time.
2007-06-25 15:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup..I did the same thing...even though man RSVP..only three showed...One of my greater down moments in life. Have a backup plan...I wish I had set aside extra money for that situation...If its only a hand full..I would just taken them out to go bowling or go to a bar instead and just get out of the house and party.
2007-06-25 15:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then do whats is necessary. break out the phone time and call everyone on the list who hasn't RSVP'd remind them of the date, time and location and see if they are coming for sure. this way if less are coming u can be prepared to cut back on expenses of food, etc. plus by you calling and speaking directly to them u might put a little pressure on them to change their mind and say yes!
2007-06-25 15:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People have a hard time remembering to RSVP, you might want to ask your maid of Honor or someone in your family if they can make follow-up calls for you, so you can have a better idea of what to expect.
2007-06-25 15:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by MICHELL G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well did you give 2 months notice for each event. You can not expect people to be available on a weeks notice
2007-06-25 15:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋