I am 14 and never had a boyfriend before. I am kinda shy. I have ALOT of crushes on guys that I think are hott or just any guys that I like. I do think a lot of guys are hott by the way. But I feel more comfortable around girls......like I can be myself around girls more than I can around guys. And whenever I hold a guys had I feel nervous and uncomfortable.....why is that? I could never imagine myself being in a relationship with a girl or kissing a girl but whenever I get close to a guy like kissing I feel really nervous and VERY uncomfortable....am I a lesbian?? Why am I so uncomfortable around guys?
2007-06-25 08:01:59 · 80 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That doesn't mean you're a lesbian. You don't have to date a lot to prove your strait. That just means you are more comfortable around girls and you haven't had many guys that made you comfortable. You're not going to find every guy attractive and maybe you are just more picky then others. I didn't date till I was out of high school, didn't like any of the guys I went to school with but I got married in March and he is the love of my life. And feeling nervous or uncomfortable doesn't mean anything but your senses are going through loops. I felt nervous kissing guys, that is a close personal contact that shows affection, that can make anyone nervous who has a mind of their own.
2007-06-25 08:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by IeNj 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax Honey. You're just not ready for the physical thing. I know there are probably many in your group that are getting physical but that doesn't mean that you have to. In time someone will come along that you feel close to and then something will happen and you'll feel comfortable and feel like it's right.
Even if in the back of your mind you think that you may be attracted to other girls it does not mean you're a lesbian but if it turns out that you are, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and follow the path that you're supposed to follow and not the one that you think society expects from you. I am a married man with kids and I have a very good friend that turned out to be a lesbian. It bothered her a lot when we were young but now she has a special someone,and is succesful and happy because she's being herself. The people that really love you will always love you, the rest don't matter.
2007-06-25 08:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, I'm 19 and I often feel the same way. I freak out around guys and I'm petrified about entering a relationship so I've often wondered if that was a case. I however come to the conclusion that my uncomfortableness around men is there fault. All of my sisters and many members of my family have problems with males and I think that subconsciously I'm afraid of being judged and being hurt. I don't think you're a lesbian, although it's not wrong if you are. Just give it time, when you get around the right guy, he'll make you feel as right as rain. Good Luck :)
2007-06-25 08:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by cRazY8s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a lesbian. You are just shy and very nervous around boys is all. Just relax. Calm down. Things will get better over time. You just feel more comfortable around girls because you are a girl. You know the things that girls like to talk about or do. Around boys you really don't know what to say or do. It is very common to feel this way. Just be yourself and give things time. Things will get better for you before you know it. I know. Been there. Done that. Good luck. Take care.
2007-06-25 08:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are just going crazy at this age. I was the exact same way, and believe me it gets better. You are probably more comfortable around girls because it is what you are used to, and maybe are a little unsure of what to talk about around guys. Everyone is nervous doing things they have never done before, it is out of their comfort zone. This does not mean you are a lesbian, but there is nothing wrong with that either. You have your whole life to determine your sexual orientation, just let go and be free and do what feels right.
2007-06-25 08:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by crimsonapple22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a lesbian. It comes with experience. Like when someone just starts riding a bike, they are uncomfortable and nervous riding it but after a while they get used to it. You are more comfortable around girls because you share common interests in things more so than with boys. Continue as you are and you will be happily married with a man in about 10 years
2007-06-25 08:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by sss n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for younger people to feel uncomfortable to be around the opposite gender, maybe try being just plain friends with a guy first, and then you'll be more comfortable with boys in general. Believe me, I've been in your exact place, but after entering high school I became friends with mostly boys, a few years later it has become much easier to have a romantic relationship with someone. (no no no, you're not a lesbian just because of what you described.)
:)
2007-06-25 08:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just an average 14 year old. Of course you are more comfortable around girls, it is the same for everyone. You can act yourself when around other girls just like guys can around other guys. If anything, you are FAR from being a lesbian. Just give yourself time and eventually you will become more comforable around them. More than likely they are just as nervous as you are.
2007-06-25 08:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by logan28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not a lesbian, you're still very young and that is most likely the reason that you are feeling uncomfortable around boys.
Just because other people may be dating don't feel that you have to do that, you will know when it is time because you will feel comfortable.
2007-06-25 08:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by burberribunni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not a lesbian.
EVERYONE feels uncomfortable about guys, especially around your age.
Chances are you have more friends that are girls than guys? Alot of girls your age get nervous around boys. It happens. Doesn't make you a lesbian.
2007-06-25 08:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by shootsamshoot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋